Legal advice
@KnittingAddict (6)
United States
December 5, 2006 6:27pm CST
I need help. my mom remarried to someone who, coincidently, I dont like. My mom had convinced me that my real dad had left because he didnt love my brother and i then she asked us if we wanted the man that she remarried to be our dad and adopt us. that was when i was 11 years old. Ofcourse i said yes. im 18 now and i live with my real dad. I just got my birth certificate so i could get my drivers license. When i got my birth certificate, it said that my father was my moms husband and not my real dad, the dad that helped concieve me, not only that my last name was changed also. I went to the county court to see if there was anything i could do and they lady that i talked to said that she had never heard of that before and there was nothing i could do. I didnt even know that you could change the biological father on a birth certificate. I need help. The man that is named on my birth certificate as my father is a disgusting excuse of a human and i dont want him on my birth certificate or any other document of mine for that matter. Please help, i dont know what to do.
6 responses
@mkirby624 (1598)
• United States
6 Dec 06
Well, your last name changes when you are adopted, yes, but the bc having a different biological father?? That's very strange.
@KnittingAddict (6)
• United States
9 Dec 06
I know its strange and thats thing i didnt know that someone could change the biological fathers name on the birth certificate, it doesnt make sense, i mean my moms husband didnt concieve me, my dad did!
@KnittingAddict (6)
• United States
9 Dec 06
I know i can change my name its just my real father is not named as my father on the BC. I dont know what to do, I have contacted many lawyer and they have said the same, "i have never heard of anything like that."
And the thing is my mom never contacted my dad about the adoption and name change and cutting off all his parental rights. My moms husband also molested me and she believed him over me, she told my entire family that there was something wrong with me. thank you all for your comments and all your help.
@mkup30 (494)
• United States
6 Dec 06
hmm tough situation, i would definitely see a lawyer about this. maybe your real dad can adopt you? or you can legally and officially get a name change? best to ask a professional lawyer in that area to resolve this..good luck and sorry to hear about what your mom did to you.
@nonconformingmommy (49)
• United States
6 Dec 06
I agree with mkup--I think you need legal advise here. If you're over 18 I don't think you'll be able to have your real father adopt you again but a name change may just do the trick.
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
6 Dec 06
Well I do know something about this because my mother was married to another man when my brother was concieved but but separated from her husband over a year and a half but when my brother was born her husbands name was put on the birth certificate instead of his real father. So my brothers real father adpoted him and they issued another birth certificate to my mother after the adoption and my mom then had 2 so your mother may still have your birth certificate with your real fathers name on it. The only way not to have the other guys name that you do not like is to have it changed legally. So you need to ask your mom about the birth certificate
@snipermike25 (453)
• Philippines
6 Dec 06
you need a legal advice interms of right to defend your self for abusing your rights.
@ajhenloc (35)
• United States
6 Dec 06
Adoption laws are different in many places but in Pennsylvania and some other states the natural parent also has to sign off their rights. If you father was unable to be reached, maybe a judge did it anyway.
If you don't have the money for legal advice, check around on the WEB. My info has it that you can use any name you like as long as you are not doing it for fraud purposes or to hide out from some crime or something. You can probably find out how to start.
When I recently married I noticed that I was never asked if I wanted to change or keep my name. I still use my maiden name because I think the "custom" of changing it at marriage was usually done for possessive reasons. I like my name so naturally I am a MRS. but I am also using my maiden name but never with a MRS in front of it.
I hope you find I am still correct in my thinking and the laws have not changed. It will be easy for you to go thru the process if so.
