I need your suggestion!
By s1n2a3k4e580
@s1n2a3k4e580 (222)
China
December 6, 2006 12:06am CST
I had been seeing a girl for about 1 year, and I really like her. I think she is the one I really want to spend my rest of my life with. I want to formally introduce her to my parents and I am sure my parents would like her too. Anyway,I had invited her for couple of times, but she always say later, later. I did't know what she is really means? Does she really like me or not? Or she just never seem this relationship serviously? I need your suggestion!
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24 responses
@neon2000 (2756)
• Philippines
7 Dec 06
Do you just like her or love her? Thses two are different terms. Maybe she wants to know the difference between the two. I know you are serious but girls want to her the exact words and feelings about being in love.
@rkelel (15)
• United States
7 Dec 06
I would talk to your girlfriend about what you think. I don't think it's because she doesn't like you, but it may take her longer to get to the point that you are at. She may just not be ready to take the relationship to that next level. It might have nothing to do with you. She may just need you to take it slower, but none of us can tell you what she is thinking. If you sit her down and ask her, I'm sure she'll tell you what's going on in her head.
@s1n2a3k4e580 (222)
• China
7 Dec 06
en......it sounds good. Maybe I take the relationship a little bit faster. Maybe it is the time I should slow it down.
@marsha001 (673)
• India
6 Dec 06
I don't think she is interested in marriage right now,if that's what you want.Anyway,I think the best thing to do would be to have a frank talk with her and find out the truth.
@s1n2a3k4e580 (222)
• China
6 Dec 06
en......I plan to have talk with her about it at this weekend. Hope everything would be OK!
@wynna1 (1291)
•
6 Dec 06
Maybe you really love her and you said you want to spend the rest of your life with her but did you really ask her how she feels about you? Does she feel the same as you do? Maybe its time for you to talk to her seriously about whats going on with your relationship,if she's serious about it or what. A year of being together is such a long time to know each other already and im really surprise of you asking if she like you or not, but then again its only her who can answer you. About meeting your parents, maybe she's not ready yet to face them, give her chance once again and next time if she got excuses then maybe you're right to think if she take your relationship seriously.
@s1n2a3k4e580 (222)
• China
7 Dec 06
Tell you the truth, I didn't ask her how she feels about me and how she feels about our relationship serviously. I mean I have few times asking her how she feels about me, of course jokingly, she always say I am sweet and gentle, and I am really happy to hear that. The thing is I still don't konw what she actually thinks in her heart. wow......girls, you never konw what they really think.
@emarie (5442)
• United States
7 Dec 06
have you been introduced to any of her friends or family, you know what they say, if you haven't you're probably the one on the side...
...well don't worry too much, she just might be scared. talk to her, ask her why...it shouldn't be that hard. if she is scared then just asure her that your parents will love her.
@s1n2a3k4e580 (222)
• China
7 Dec 06
I already met her parents about 2 months ago, and they are very nice person. I was invited to join her best friends' birthday party few times and I think we had a good time. Anyway, I gonna to have a servious talk with her this weekend. Then, all the question will be clear I hope.
@Vivek_Nik (62)
• India
8 Dec 06
Never regret in life... You should not feel tommorow that if you had told her earlier maybe she would have agreed.. You have already waited for an year which is a very long time.. I feel as the first thing you should go talk to her.. Dont take no for an answer if she avoids this time.. Make sure you meet her and express your love.. All the best..
@DeeBloomers (688)
• United States
7 Dec 06
First of all could you tell me if she knows how you feel? Has she said she feels the same? Seems as though she is stalling about meeting your parents to me. You have been going with her for a whole year and she still hasn't met your parents? You need to have a serious talk with her real soon darlin to find out how she feels. It may keep you from getting hurt more than you need to. I myself wouldn't go through the dating game again for all the eggs in China! I have been married for waaay to long to go through that kind of stress again. Good luck and God Bless.
@IshidaMitsunari (1026)
• China
7 Dec 06
Mmmm...sounds like she is a bit disinterested in meeting your parents. It is a big step, but one that after a year she should be willing to take. As such, I am going to have to concure with most of the posts here and say that you really need to have a talk with her and see where exactly she stands. You need to know what you mean to her and what she sees for your future. If you don't find this out and you are thinking marriage is in the future, you may be wasting your time. Sorry to be so blunt. I hope everything works out.
@rms2727 (815)
• India
7 Dec 06
If she says later, later- then there are just two meanings that you can interpret from these words. firstly she may be feeling shy or normally hesitating to meet your family.
and secondly she may not be interested in moving forward with this relationship.
now it is up to you discover what exactly does she mean
@cshelly14 (48)
• United States
7 Dec 06
Well first of all, how serious is the relationship to you. Does it seem like the reason she doesnt want to meet your parents is because she thinks it is too soon or do you think she might just be nervous? A lot of girls are nervous for that type of thing.
@rfraley23 (61)
• United States
7 Dec 06
i would have to suggest to slow down for a bit. if you are seeing her 5 times a week scale it back to 3. stay away from long phone calls and constant text messaging. you have to present yourself as a challenge and by doing that you are going to see what her interest level is in you. and watch out for red flags ex. is she breaking dates, always late, not returning phone calls. if you are seeing red flags you are probably on your way out. as for meeting your parents i would wait until she is ready and not ask her anymore. she will let you know when she is ready. your walking on thin ice right now tread carefully
@jessie_marcelo (146)
• Philippines
7 Dec 06
I think there are two reasons behind her refusal to your invitation to introduce her to your parents. One is, maybe she is not yet ready about that idea. Another is, maybe she doesn't want to meet your parents because she doesn't seem to be your future wife. Or maybe you don't seem to be her future husband. There are a lot of maybe's as you might know. To avoid confusing your mind, why not ask her why? Maybe she knows the answer better.
@innechen (1318)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 06
you should find a best time when you can talk to her about this, asked her why she always avoid to meet ur parents.thats better then keep quessing things.maybe she is nervous to meet ur parents and actually that is normal.you should encourage her and promise her to be by her side all day in your parent house so she could calm a little bit.
@cuddiluk (1523)
• Philippines
7 Dec 06
We don't know what the reason behind unless you would ask her why she's really avoiding you when you're inviting her to go to your house. Tell me, after you confronted her. So taht I will know what advice i can give to you on your further implication.
@Demon4424 (597)
• China
7 Dec 06
i think she didn't want to want to get married, perhaps lacked confidence in the future
@chiquita1977 (1706)
• United States
7 Dec 06
she probably likes you but alot of people get nervous meeting their boyfriends parents.so that is probably why she keeps putting it off.maybe she is afraid your parents wont like her.im sure she likes you because if she didnt she would not be with you.i think she is taking the relationship seriously that is why she is afraid to meet the parents because she is afraid they might not like her.
@anandmehala (20)
• India
7 Dec 06
ur guese is true ,a true girl will always like to talk with her hubbies mom and dad immediatly , Like my girl.. But urs i think that she in affection with u to enjoy some thing related to her with u dat real....