wedding question

nowadays, my friends will call/msn me and ask me whether i could attend or not..and if i cant, they dont bother sending the invitation card at all..i guess it's the norm nowadays..to ask first then only send the invitation cards...well, if they send the card, i would at least give them red packet (with money!) but no card, no money!! That's the rule!

Unfortunately,yes, even though you may feel you are wastin your time a stmap to get hte invitation to them. It would be far worse for them to actually want to come to get no invitation. Or maybe they just don't like weddings, but have the best of intentions for you and would like to be invited just the same.

I think that sending a person/family member an invitation (even if you know they will not come) is the polite thing to do. You could be wrong with your assumption that they will not show up, things or plans could change for them and maybe they would actually show up. I think that I would be pretty hurt if a friend/family member didn't send me an invite just because they assumed I couldn't make it.

Yes I would!

I did. It let them know that we were thinking about them even if they could not be there. We also did not want to hurt anyone's feelings. We did not want them to think that we would not want them to celebrate with us.

Yes, it's a sign of respect. Also, they can't come back and say.. You didn't invite them! I'm to be married in May of 07.. I have several friends and family I know WILL NOT be there.. But I'm still sending Invitations!

I would send invitations even if i am aware that they will not come,i'm doing it as a sign of respect,and besides i want to make my wedding day happier without thinking of others.

We did when my husband and I got married. My mother said that we should do that or have announcement printed also which was just another cost. You never know who might decide that they want to be there. We got married in Florida so a lot of people saw coming to our wedding as a vacation for them. I knew my grandparents would not be able to come, but I also knew that my grandma would want a invitation.

i would, because at least than you know that you have made the effort, i would not want to feel guilty because there is someone that i did nto invite

I wouldn't send them to people you know 100% wouldn't attend, because then it looks like you are just begging for a gift to them. But if you think there's a chance they would be offended if they weren't invited, then go ahead and send it.

Yes I would still send the invitation. If they can participate, then that's great, if not atleast I tried.

I will invite all of my friends and family for my wedding days. You will finish your duty by inviting them to your wedding party and it's from them t decide to attend or not the wedding day. At least you are inviting them in a good manner to celebrate together your big day.

Yes, if not you could offend someone whether or not they would be able to come to the wedding. I have 2 Aunts who were offended because I did not send a invitation to my college graduation. So I made sure they got a wedding invitation. Neither came to my wedding. And as a genealogy buff...those things are full of information to keep track of who is married to you, especially if the couple does not want to share their family history. I have a few people who do not want to give me their family information names etc. so I just wait for baby announcements, wedding announcements so I have at least the names and dates. And I have an Aunt that if she don't get invitations to weddings etc. she gets upset. She is the family historian and wants all that information for her genealogy research, too.

Yes, it is the right thing to do. You will feel better.

I would send them invitations even if you don't think they will come - because at least you are showing them that you thought about them. Let them be the ones to say no.

yes i would sure send invitations that i knw will come or not..

In order to not give them chance to tell that u have not invited that is why we have not come, it is better that u send. Thanks for information on my discussion.

of course. although they would not come but they know about the wedding so they will feel that we are respect them.

I think that if you wish they would come, even if you know they won't you should send them an invite... but that is just my opinion... I sent out 30 invites to people I thought wouldn't come... I was mighty suprised when 10 of them did!

you have to still send invitations to them..you'll never know..