Siblings

@LovingIt (5396)
United States
December 6, 2006 5:15pm CST
How many brothers and/or sisters do you have? What # child were you in the mix? Did you ever wish you had been born in a different order or with more or less siblings? Explain ...
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@zambian (31)
• India
7 Dec 06
I have one brother and one sister. I am the middle child and yes I do suffer from the middle child syndrome. This is my reasoning: My sister was born first, and being a first child she was ohhd and ahhd till kingdom come. Being african, my father wanted a son next, so when he got another daughter, it was a chore. So when my brother was born,he was adored. So being the middle child I was just that extra child who got her sisters seconds. But on a serious note, I do feel that as a middle child I was less thought about as a child. I still remember overhearing my parents comments about their various children, and, though they didnt say anything bad about me, I was always the last to be thought about. Maybe now things are a bit different as we are all older and I hope wiser
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
7 Dec 06
Very interesting view.
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Yes, everyone is the baby for a while, that's true. In my family, I am the oldest and the youngest is 4 years younger than me. The middle one is 2 1/2 years younger than me and 1 1/2 years older than the youngest so he wasn't youngest for long.
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@patgalca (18366)
• Orangeville, Ontario
8 Dec 06
Wasn't the middle child the youngest at some point? They were once the baby of the family. Do things change the minute another child is born? We are really spread out in age in our family. Both my middle sister and the brother closest to me were the baby for at least four years.
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@patgalca (18366)
• Orangeville, Ontario
7 Dec 06
I am the baby in the family. My oldest brother was 15 years older than me. He got married when I was 6. My oldest sister is 14 years older then me. She moved out probably when I was about 7 or 8. The next sister is 9 years older than me and she moved out when I was 9. And last, my other brother is 4 and a half years older than me. We fought constantly. I feel like I grew up alone and took forever to catch up to my siblings. I never really felt a part of the family; didn't have anything in common. After all, when I was a teenager they were married and having children. It's only been the last 10 years or so where I really feel like I've fit in. I too always fantasized about having a twin. And about having twins.
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
7 Dec 06
There was a short period of time when I was pregnant that the doctor thought I might actually be going to have twins. I was disappointed a little bit to find out I wasn't.
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@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
7 Dec 06
I only have one brother who is 2 years younger than I am. I have always wished I had an older brother or a younger sister, but mostly I've always wished I had a twin sister. I've always been a loner and lonely, and I think having a twin would have helped me through this problem in life.
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
7 Dec 06
I always wished I had a sister too. I had two brothers. I always thought a twin would be neat as well. I'm a loner as well. I wonder if it has anything to do with being the oldest and not having any sisters? Interesting.
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• United States
6 Dec 06
I am the eldest of 7 children. My mother had 4 girls and 3 boys. I am happy with the birth order. If I hadn't been so responsible my siblings would basically had to fend for themselves. My mother had a hard time with being a mother. I assumed the role on a part-time basis when I was 17.
@juliedee (2388)
6 Dec 06
I am an only child. I have no brothers or sisters. I often wish I could have had an older brother or sister as it can be quite lonely. That is why I have two children of my own - a boy and a girl.
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
7 Dec 06
I can't even begin growing up without other children. I had two brothers and while they annoyed me much of the time, it was fun to at least be able to fight with them. LOL
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@mayammb (1815)
• Australia
6 Dec 06
Sorry i don't have any brothers or sisters as i'm the only one for my parents.
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@rainbow (6761)
7 Dec 06
I was on only one, I wish I had a big brother. I either had to fit in with my cousins or drag along behind my parents, holidays were the worst because I had to make friends by myself, it's easier if there's two of you. My parents used to be fussy about my friends too, my friends from bigger families seemed to be allowedto choose their own friends. I spent a lot of time alone and because if it I still do.
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I hadn't thought about holidays. There were 3 of us and we usually spent them fighting over who had to sit in the middle in the back seat! LOL
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@frosthon (2249)
• Singapore
8 Dec 06
I have 2 elder sisters and 1 elder brother. That makes me the youngest in the family. I love this arrangement, I think this happen for a reason.
@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Ah, the baby of the family. I knew you reminded me of my little brother. LOL. I bet you got away with everything didn't you? I'll bet your sisters and brother all still love you too don't they?
@MakDomMom (1474)
• United States
7 Dec 06
I am an only child. I was always asking my parents to have another child! I hated being watched over all the time. I could never get away with anything (good or bad). They new everything. Now that I am grown, married, and have my own kids, I still feel like I am being watched. We live in the same town that I grew up in. I even get phone calls as I'm driving down the road from my mom who just past me saying "Whatcha diong? Where you going?" It drives me a little nuts sometimes!
@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
8 Dec 06
LOL. Sorry but I couldn't help but laugh. I'm the oldest of three children and am 52 years old and have two grown children and two grandchildren and my mom still does that to me!!! haha!! Don't feel like the lone ranger!!
@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
7 Dec 06
Three Siblings - photo of three feet....small, medium, large representing three siblings.
I am the middle child of three. When I was growing up I hated my position...brother older and only boy, sister 8 years younger and spoiled. I had to fight for everything I got while the other two seemed to have it easy. However as I grew older and went out on my own I realized that it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I continued to fight for what I wanted and usually got it by hard work. Of the three I have been the most successful in many ways and I wouldn't change places with either of them.
@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
7 Dec 06
That's interesting and I love your three sibling picture. LOL. There were 3 of us in our family too.
@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
9 Dec 06
What was your position among the three of you? Just curious.
• United States
8 Dec 06
I have 1 little sister, 10 years younger.
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Wow, that's a big age difference. I assume you probably got along with her ok then with that big of an age difference, right?
• India
7 Dec 06
I HAVE A YOUNGER BROTHER AND WE HAVE AN AGE DIFFERENCE OF 7 LONG YEARS. I AM THE ELDEST DAUGHTER AND MY PARENTS ARE PROUD OF IT BECAUSE I AM SUPPORTING MY FAMILY FINANCIALLY. I WOULD NEVER WANT THE ORDER OF OUR BIRTH TO REVERSE BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE A MOM FOR MY BROTHER. I WOULD ALAWAYS WANT TO BE HIS ELDER SISTER AND GUIDE HIM AND TAKE CARE OF HIM. I FEEL RESPONSIBLE TOWARDS HIM AND WOULD ALWAYS WANT THE SAME FEELING IN EVERY LIFE.
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I liked being the big sister too! I was kind of bossy though! LOL
• India
8 Dec 06
I have 2 sisters. One elder and one younger. I'm inbetween. Yes, I wish I have to born as a last. Since as a last only we enjoyed alot with my parents and sisters. We learn alot with our sisters like how to speak, behave with others and so on. Actually we imitate what our elders will do. That's why my opinion is to born as a last. That's is the best.
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
8 Dec 06
The youngest do get away with more -- I'm sure about that.
29 Dec 06
i hav one brother and one sister, and theyre both younger than me. personslly as a girl, i would love an older brother or sister just to be there and look out for me. i had a cousin who done this for me, he was 21, always there for me, but he was tragically killed. now who have a got, ?
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
30 Dec 06
I'm sorry to hear about your cousin. I had an older cousin that was like an older brother to me as well.
@kids91911 (4363)
• United States
12 Dec 06
I have to sisters. There was three of us all together. I am 11 years younger than my sisters and don't know what my parents were thinking.
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• United States
25 Dec 06
1 sister, 10 years younger
@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
25 Dec 06
Big age difference.
• Singapore
25 Dec 06
i got 1 elder bro, 1 elder sis, and 1 younder sis... so im in the middle, im fine with that! =D
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• United States
7 Dec 06
i have one older sister and one younger brother that makes me the middle child gggrrr. I wish i wasnt the middle child sometimes because the first one gets away with everything they are the modle the baby well never gets punished and the middle is the role modle gets punished because we should know from the first child and are blamed for everything.
@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
8 Dec 06
No, no, no!!! The oldest gets the blame for everything because we are old enough to know better. We never got away with anything. LOL. It's the baby that got away with murder. The middle child got to just kind of hide. The middle child had it made, I thought, and was probably the better adjusted. The baby got away with murder and probably expected too much of life. (I was the oldest can you tell?)
• United States
8 Dec 06
not here where i am from the middle gets the blam because the first one they didnt know what they were doing and the baby is the last so they slack off but the middle one is the scapegoat. LOL I guess thats why I am the sane one.
@patgalca (18366)
• Orangeville, Ontario
8 Dec 06
My sister is the middle child and she was the biggest handful for my parents. She also had 3 children and was very paranoid about her own middle child. I don't know what she did but she turned out three terrific kids.
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@yupitsme (62)
• United States
9 Dec 06
I have an older brother and sister and I love being the youngest!!
@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
9 Dec 06
Another baby! Babies always seem to be the happy ones. LOL
@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
9 Dec 06
That's sad.
@patgalca (18366)
• Orangeville, Ontario
9 Dec 06
This baby isn't a happy one. I was pretty much ignored, did not really grow up with my siblings because they were so far apart in age from me, and my parents were getting older and had "been there, done that" with the other kids. I was never given any options to take lessons or joins any sports. I was left alone. I was a lonely kid.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
9 Dec 06
We are three brothers and one sister and I am number two in the family amongst my brothers and sisters ! I often used to feel either I should have occupied the first or last position! My elder brother being the first person used to get all the previlages on priority basis from my parents and friends and relatives.My sister being only girl child used to get extra attention and since by younger brother was last and most junior he used to have his own previlages and he was most pampered child of the family. This I used to feel a lot when some relatives used to come to us and except me either my elder brother being the seniour most, or my younger brotherbeing the junior most or my sister as the only girl child used to get some presentation or gifts ! Well this was all I used to feel when I was a kid ! Now there are no regrets I love my brothres and sister alike !Of course sister being the only one its very natural I think one becomes bit biased !
@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
9 Dec 06
As children I think it's a natural tendency to think the others are better treated than we are, no matter what our birth order, don't you think?