Why are young mother looked down upon???

Don't worry about those other people. Of course being a young parent will cause people to pass judgements about you. But you should not let them get to you. Whether your child was planned or not does not give someone the right to criticize you. I am also a young parent and am doing alot better than the majority of the people who give me weird/nasty looks. Age is nothing but a number. Being a good parent has nothing to do with how old you are

Stand for yourself. I have been in your shoes. I just ignored all stupid comments.

The behavior of some of the young ladies of this generation make it not such a good thing to have a baby young. Its because some of these girls are out here being with 4-5 different guys they arent in relationships or anything having babies they are just out having them. And most of them are not ready to have these kids.

yep, my grandma had my mother at age 16..i was 18 when i had my son. i never really felt like i got looked down upon..maybe i just ignored it...i don't really pay attention to what people think about my parenting. i have my husband, i normally go out with my husband or a family member someone thought my sister god child was my kid when i was 15 because i was just playing with her at the park. i thought that was funny...i was watching this kid i didn't know better then her own mother. some peope who just see me find it hard to believe that i'm a mother because they keep thinking i'm still a little girl..(i'm 23) just don't let it bother you, unless they come up to you and say something, let them have their own ignorant opinions you know you're a good mother and thats all that should matter =)

don't mind those losers. they're just envious. and they give money for you to raise up a child so they don't have a right to intrude to your private life. live life the way you want it and not the way they want it. as long as you are not hurting others it's ok. just love yourself, your child and your enemies. have a nice day!!

I'd give you an advice of what I learn from reading 7 habbits of effective people and I will put it on my words, it says... focus your effort on the things you can control most, then the things you can control more, then the thing you can control less. Let the people think whatever they want to think of you and feel nothing about it. Focus on developing yourself, your confidense, your self-esteem, love yourself and your life more. Let the world worries about what the people think of you. Let go.

you are lucky, being blessed with a beautiful son and a wonderful fiancee...what other people think is not important. dont care so much about how people look at you, and how they judged you...if you are 30 years old now and carrying a small child, they will have things to say too....it's a neverending path if we always want to do things to please others. so, be happy with your blessings, my friend!

dont worry about what other think of you. take that energy and prove them all wrong. I had my son at 21 also. I'm doing just great with it. Everyone looked down on me, but I have shut them all up. I'm a single mom, me and his dad just didnt work out. I'm bought my first house at the age of 22 on my own with a $8/hour job and have been here since. Everyone said I wouldn't make and here I am. Now I'm a fulltime work at home mom. Now that's something you can take to the bank. Just do what you do, hun, to hell with the rest.

I found that even when I had my son at 23 people thought I was younger than what I really was and would notice that they would look to see if I was wearing a ring which I never but I was still with the father and since had another baby ... a girl.. and even then I felt looked down upon because there wasn't much of a gap between them... Now at 26 it isn't too bad I've been told that I shouldn't worry about what other people think it's not my problem I know the truth.... Sometimes you feel like you need to explain yourself when you shouldn't have too... By the way I love your son's name ... Jake ... That's my son's name too .. It was the only one I could come up with didn't like any others :)

mummy2jake~ I wouldnt let it bother me. I had my first child when I was 19. I was married at 18. My second child when I was 25. The people that look down at you are just ignorant! If you are happy. And the child is happy that is all that matters. =) Take care ~*~ Happy Holidays ~*~

I know that there is a bunch of people like you had to deal with but you should be feeling like "I've got a better life than you!" type attitude toward to them.I think they are jealous over what you've got and to look down upon is the only way to make them feel better. Be strong and be positive :) If you know that you've been doing and have been trying to be the best parents for your boy then don't let anybody stress you out who makes such a stupid comments or rude attitude :)

I had my children when I was 18 and 21 years old and if someone looked upon me as being too old I did not see, perhaps you have noticed it now, but in a few years your child will be older and they will just start having children. It is a blessing to have children when you are young, it allows you to be young enough to enjoy all their activites and still be young enough when the grandbabies come. Don't worry about what people say, just enjoy your life with your child. God Bless

Yeah... If U Had Planned And Did This... I Dont ThinkSo Its Wrong At All... Let The Ppl Look At U... U Can't Stop Them.... U Just Enjoy Ur Life And Don't Bother About All Thiese...!!!!!

Dont worry just enjoy your life don't mind what other says

Here in San Diego..you see the majority of mother's alone...at the mall, eating out, taking thier kids out...and never had I seen or heard of anyone looking down upon a young woman because she was too young...it's not like your still in High School! And who cares if you weren't even engaged....a single young mother probably gives her child the same love as a rich couple!

why are you worrering about them.if as you say you are in control haveing no probs doing a great job then its there problem not yours maybe there jealous who knows just get on with your life and avoid these people who seem to want to interfer in yours .i found the best way to stop people staring was to do it back or if it got to me go up to them and ask is there any reason why you seem to be staring at me do you have a problem they soon shut up

I had my son way younger then you are, i am not even your age yet and he is 5 lol, I have a University education, am in a really nice house and am starting my own business, sounds like a good life that I ahve set up for my son! He is loved, has all the essentials and is very healthy!

hi :) i just turned 23 and have a 1 year old, I also try and give the best to my daughter and she is turning out to be one of the best behaved 1 year olds i have ever met, shes healthy and talking alot for her age. So i know im doing a great job. I actually have never had anyone look down on me for being a young mum. Or maybe i just dont care if someone is going to think badly of me for being a young mum so i dont take notice. I know that young mums have aot more energy. So dont ever let them make you feel bad. I also just read an interesting fact in the paper the other day. A scientific study has shown that if you have a child before the age of 25, that child is 50% more likely to live till they are 100, then babies born to an older mother. So there, your doing your kids a favour! They think is is something to do with having better quality eggs. :)

Yup back a thousand years ago people who were 13-14 were getting married and stuff(because they didn't live long) but I don't see why either they look down on them as if their evil.I'm a friend of some women who's been married 3 times(now 4)and everyone at my church was telling the guy not to marry her cause he'll end up divorced like the other husbands.But they don't look at a women who got pregnant when she was 14 like in 1975 but now they look at women who get pregnant at 16 as dogs?

i think u r of perfect age of being a mother....though u look young that's another thing....cauz ppl in the market dont know ur age na.....but ..21...22..is the rite age to have a baby....but one thing i m confused about is that...are u married or not..:)...