Online Dating
By chrisie
@chrisie (207)
United States
December 7, 2006 1:24am CST
Okay.. I have met a lot of people through using online this or that. I have made a lot of incredible friends that way too! People are always so back and forth with the internet dating thing though. Most of the guys I've met, I'm not gonna lie.. we're either total jerks, or complete doormats. I have heard so many stories of people finding "true love" this way though.. and it seems to make sense!!
You find someone. You talk for however long through emails, msn, whatever it may be. You get to know a person.. (or you think... anyways).. and then maybe you meet? To me it seems like a great way to get to know someone before you have any kind of REAL physical attraction..or possible attraction anyways. And really, in my opinion, even if you think someone may or may not be lying about this or that.. because its over the net, they could still do it to you if you met them in a library, a church, or at a girl scout troop meeting. Ya know?
What do you think?
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44 responses
@toonatoons (3737)
• Philippines
7 Dec 06
online dating works for some, i guess. i've had friends who found their partners online, and they're happily married now.
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@chrisie (207)
• United States
7 Dec 06
You seem skeptical... and I think that's what kind of holds me back. Half of my friends know that I do it, and the other half I think I'm too embarassed to admit it to? I think it's because of the whole Creep Factor, as I like to call it. I feel like it's better to meet someone online or through something like MySpace than it is in a bar though.
@chrisie (207)
• United States
7 Dec 06
Well, what does that mean? Do you say you're going to wait so many days before you meet? Do you wait until you have an inner conscious saying "youre safe"..? What I've done typically is talked with the person until I feel comfortable, and they usually ask to meet.. and I typically put it off and put it off.. sometimes even for months. It seems to me that the people I've put off for a while, and invested significant amounts of time speaking with.. have turned out to be the "great" friends I was talking about.
I dont know though... I'm always SLIGHTLY nervous that I'm going to end up being the next story on Law and Order;SVU. Ya know?
@theaterjunkie (342)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Eh, it's hard for me to say. I met my ex-boyfriend through a friend of mine on-line. He lived in NOrth Carolina, and I live in Ohio...he asked me to be his date for prom....our parents talked and they let me, but my parents went too, to make sure he was safe, and then we went to his prom by ourselves.
So far, I have been extremely fortunate in talking to people on-line. They have all been who they say they are. Unfortunately, when Karl broke up with me 15 months later, he ended up treating me like crap, and now we no longer speak.
I don't think on-line dating is a way to go for the rest of your life. I think that you should get out, and actually meet people. I met my boyfriend now *points to profile picture* through college, and he's a great guy.
ON-line dating I think is romantic in a really weird way because if you end up falling for someone, it's for their personality and not their looks. But it's also good to meet people in real life too.
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@chrisie (207)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I totally agree with you! I love that you can get to know someone, their personality, their sense of humor and other "mannerisms" of them before you actually MEET them. I think it IS romantic to a point because looks don't play a major role in it. However, I think that I am still too shallow to look past peoples physical attributes... even if I am "in love" with their personality. It's something I have to work on within myself.. but I have the worst luck with men no matter how I meet them.
I am a hopeless romantic... and just plain hopeless! :) I'm happy for you though, that's really great!
@ru88en (2997)
• Philippines
8 Dec 06
Online dating is a trend nowadays. And it will increase more in the years to come. I do not see anything wrong with online dating but everyone here should caution. There are too many lies in online dating and chat. Imagine one guy on the net, chatting with two girlfriends all at the same time. This is worst behavior, and you cannot practically do this physically. Just be careful when you engage on online dating.
@chrisie (207)
• United States
8 Dec 06
What I'm failing to understand.. is how people see this differently than dating the "normal" way. A guy/girl can have more than one significant other no matter what.. that just comes down to honesty. It doens't matter if it's online where you meet an indivdual or in a church. If a person is dishonest, they're dishonest.
I think I should have clarified the "online dating" thing more.. to say, meeting people online.. but not having an internet relationship!
@vinaykant (812)
• India
8 Dec 06
I do not belive on online dating or any internet friendship. every thing is Fake here.
youcan not guess what is right or worng on internet.
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@chrisie (207)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Okay... but even when you meet someone in person, how do you know if they are being fake or not? How do you know what is right or wrong? I have had a lot of boyfriends that I have met in the flesh that have turned out to be the most heartless guys I have ever met. What's your take on that?
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
8 Dec 06
at first, i never believed that love is possible through the net. i was skeptic especially i had been to 13 heart breaking relationships before... considering they were physically present boyfriends. i thought, if the boyfriend who can be next to me can hurt me, the one on the other end of the net can hurt me more.
but then, i got this invitation to join one site. i found someone's smile cute and sent him a short mail.. one mail resulted to another and another. we send each other real mails.. snail mails. after 3 months, we started chatting and a month after, we're in a relationship. that was tough at the beginning.
but later on, we cannot live without the other. he visited me 8 months after. and we found love in each other's arms.
sometimes, we just need to believe in the impossible. things happen at the most unexpected place and time. just be true to yourself. don't cheat... and believe.
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@steffylikewoah (1762)
• United States
8 Dec 06
My friend met her husband online. They're actually PERFECT for eachother. So I think for some it works. Just be safe about it!
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@kaspyv (1011)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I have been using the online sites for several years now to meet friends,etc. I have to admit that I have met a lot of real jerks, but I have also met a few great friends and finally have met the man I hope to spend the rest of my life with. You are right about it being a good way to get to know someone before actually meeting in person. It also helps if you have webcams so you can be sure that you are talking to the person you think you are.
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@visualyze (180)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Yes, there is a huge stigma about meeting people online. Here is my take.
You can only meet so many people walking through your daily life. Online dating does allow for greater depth of knowing a person so that it isn't at all physical. Internet connects people globally and you're able to meet some amazing people. Granted there are those you have to watch out for too, but you can also run into not trustworthy people in person.
I wouldn't necessarily use online as a tool for dating, personally. I would use it for networking and friends.
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@smartbrain69 (2790)
• Canada
8 Dec 06
Online dating work not for everyone, some are lucky to find good friends others have real horrific experience.
@chrisie (207)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I have both. I have met some really awesome people and some really CRAZY ones. I had a stalker for a while.. which was interesting to say the least. There have obviously been way worse situations than what I've experienced because people have lost their lives through using online services.. but we have to remember, that in everything we do in life... there are risks. Even getting into our car in the mornings to go to wokr is a big risk... :)
@gkrisiyer (393)
• India
8 Dec 06
i may agree with ur initial sentences.online dating never works.a few of my friends who have gone out on a dat with the person they met online found them to be the total opposite of what they described themselves online.so its not a trustworthy way of finding ur "true love"...it starts with friendship though...all those stories about people finding their true love is pure non-sense.
@freecreative2 (46)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I met a wonderful man over the internet and we met face to face. It's great! I agree with you that people can still give you the shaft if you meet them in person. Over the internet, you really do get to know them, and if you have doubts about them, you can always just delete them, whereas, in person, you have to dodge them.
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@MandaPanda1219 (47)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I met my current b/f on Myspace.com and he is the nicest, most patient, caring person that I have ever met. I would have never met him otherwise. Yet on the other hand I have met some real creeps...like Ted Bundy vibe kind of creeps. I would say it is a toss up. Just use caution and common sense and there shouldn't be a problem. I mean there are always those bald hairy and fat 50 year old guys trying to chat it up as a 15 year old somewhere, but I haven't come across any of those.
I also met a couple of really cool friends via myspace.com. If you are smart there is no harm in it, if you are careless, then you might end up a SVU case. Great show by the way!
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@subhadiproy (847)
• India
8 Dec 06
online dating s absoulutely fine... u get to kwn a lots abt the other person even widout seeing him/her.... ofcourse if the person s honest wid u...
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@siddharth_sampad (319)
• India
8 Dec 06
well i have many of my frns who are glued to the net for the reason.......
so it must be cooool
@MissGia (955)
• United States
8 Dec 06
If people chose the internet as their outlet to meet people and maybe start a relationship that is fine..but its not for me. I used to be for it, but i've been lied to so much. I stopped talkin to guys for relationship purposes over the internet when a guy totally lied to me about his identity. He was insecure with himself and came out on his own will and told me he lied but that wasnt the point. He has me believing he was someone else. He didnt understand why i didnt want to talk to him anymore after that, even as a friend. I cant have any type of relationship with someone who lies to you right off the bat.
I have met tons of people on the net and alot of them i still talk to, but for me thats as far as it will ever go.
And your right, people can still lie to you in person if you meet them at a library,church and so forth..but if you meet them in real life, the lies would probably reveal themselves more quickly.
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@mcmagic87 (18)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Online dating is tricky i mean there are alot of people out there who do online dating..i have one time in my life and even though i didnt meet them i made friends with them but online dating now is more easy now a days because people have myspaces and such like that i mean i know there are alot of creeps out there but you know its kind of a risk but at the same time a great thing for alot of people.
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