How do you know if your children are ready to leave the home nest?

Thats a good discussion.I like your discussion very much. Hope you get a lot of responses and earn a lot.Good luck.

My parents let me go away when I was 16. I never understood it then, but to this day I thank them for it. Being on my own taught me to take care of myself. It taught me right from wrong. Yes, freedom meant like the whole world opened up for me. I did some things I'm not proud of...but the point is I realized they weren't the right thing to do. I think letting me spread my wings was the best gift my parents gave me. I am now happily married and am at a later stage in life, but I always look back on my days away from home fondly. They definitely made me a stronger person.

My child has to leave my house eventually. It may be to his choice or our choice. I don't really know when does the child ready to leave his parents home and I like my son to try it, anyway we are there to support him on this initial stage. This is life normal cycle, he has to do this.

The discussion has to be done with your daughter. I think 17 years is good enough to manage you job and the college. I did 8 hours of job and 8 hours of college, when i was 18 years old. So i believe she should be ok with that. But before Ask her opinion, if she would like to be independent on money.

I think it really depends on the individual and their own maturity level. Deep down it is your daughter who knows if she is ready or not. I've known kids that were leaving that I thought were doomed to failure and I was wrong. I have also seen the reverse hold true as well. Best wishes.

How do you know if your children are ready to leave the home nest? when you don't want them there no more

you don't know, part of growing up is taking that first jump, the first leap of faith, not knowing whether or not you are going to sink or swim. She will be ready to try, and you need to let her try. College is fun and it will be a great experience. If she is as diligent as you say with her studies, she will probably do just fine. College students can't work more than part time anyhow. Try not to stress out about it, it is supposed to be a fun time for her.

Once a child is 18 they are considered to be an adult. It is their decision whether they want to be on their own or live at home and contribute to the family as they would on their own. Letting them go little by little is the best way, instead of pushing them in fell swoop.

You can make it easy for her. It is likely that like all other teenagers she too has a temprament. She wants to look at the world through her own eyes and dont want to be protected as it will make her feel that she is still a child, they all have a tendency to outgrow all in their sphere. So you can tell her that she always has a way back, a backup, a constant contact in the background and leave the rest to the destiny of your homefolk. Scrounging for anything would only make it worse and who knows maybe her act would bring about the best for everyone. After all, it is only the parents who know the least about their own offspring.

I understand what you mean. I never had a job going through high school. I was too heavily involved in gymnastics, cheerleading, etc. When I went to college, I did not get a job until sophomore year and that was because I was being so snobbish that I felt the money my parents were given was not enough. Boy was that job a wake up call! It brought me out of my laziness, snobbiness, and helped me to learn how to be independent. I am so thankful that I had a wake up call and experienced the real world before completely leaving the safe nest of my parents. I think a summer job is a good idea for your daughter considering her situation during the school year.

i dont know cuz i,ve no IDEA..im NOT a FATHER..

u can't hold up on her leaving u, its natural they want to leave when they are confident on themselves. they should be allowed to in the first place.. isnt it selfish to keep them from growing just because we cant take it.. allow them to flower on their own, be successful

My son just turned 17-I constanly am telling him plz don't leave home until you graduate college. He's a home schooler & he'll get his diploma this year. I hope he stay home even after he graduates I try to make his home life as pleasant as possible but he does work 2 jobs plus his studies. I say keep her home as long as possible-I left home @ a young age,I only wish my parents could have been the type that tried to push me towards a goal but they didn't even tell me what a goal was.

i dont think so u shud decide for ur gurl.....its her choice.....if she want to go to college then let her so with dat decision....n u shud be wid her and respect her decision.....dnt worry abt her...children tend to find their own way.....

I can understand why you are feeling that way but college is a good way for people to make the transition into the real world. You need to be really supportive to her, tell her that she can call you anytime and maybe call her once a week (mid afternoon so that youdont' wake her and don't interupt any nights out she might be having) but don't over do it. Don't be calling her every day or expecting to know every detail of her life. Just be there for her, be supportive and let her make her own way.

Provided that your kids are set to leave the home nest, you would be happy about that. Because they are going to be of themselves or on their owns. They learn to make decisions themselves and responsible for what they have done. Also, learn to survive. Even if you might feel a little bit sad on the moment of their departure, you need to be proud of their maturity. Good luck to them.

She is going to have a job over the summer so that is a good start. You can start by having her pay you some money each month to start showing her responsibility for paying bills. If she has a car, have her pay her part of the insurance. She may not be ready, in your eyes and hers, to move out just yet. Let her work for awhile, get some money saved up, then help her look for a place to live. She may have some problems at first, but you can always help her out as long as she knows you aren't going to do it for her, that you will be there if she needs you.

talk to ur daughter

well this is something I don't have to face for another 13 years yet, but sometimes you have to just trust her, trust in yourself on how you raised her. Children can surprise you sometimes. But if and when she does leave home for the first time, be prepared and open for when she wants to come back. Because they will come back sometime or another, but don't make the mistake my mother did and would not let me come back home.

I left home at 17 and I work and go to college.. I went through several jobs before I settled on the one I have right now which is a 2-hour commute but I only have to work 5 hours.. Last year I was working as much as 12 hours a day and going to night classes.. all while taking the BUS.. It is definately hard to work and go to school at the same time. You feel like you never have enough time! I NEVER studied in High School and I still got B'c and C's .. now I am having to work and I don't really always have time for school and I am making everything from C's to A's. Make her work in the summer so she can save up a little bit of money for the semester that she is in school. Try to support her as much as you can so that she can dedicate most of her time to school and not working. Sit with her and make up a budget for her using the money she has saved, and whatever financial aid or parental aid she will be having. If possible, she can work part-time during the school year but be sure that she has enough time to study. Make sure she has a car ! Or maybe she can work close enough to walk or a SHORT bus trip not 2 hours like me =P Look into work-study programs where she can work on-campus ..