What happens to your children if you left this earth tomorrow....
By Krysha
@Krysha (48)
United States
December 7, 2006 5:11pm CST
This is a horrible discussion but honestly its one that bothers me daily. Not that I harbor fears that I'm going to die - nor that I want to !!! It just worries me that I honestly don't have enough close friends - nor one specific friend that I would beable to leave my children too if my husband and I were to leave this life tomorrow. What are your plans for your children? Do you have this already set up and what do I do because I don't have a friend - just grandparents who really arn't young enough to start over with grandchildren tomorrow if they had too,
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44 responses
@crystal8577 (1466)
• United States
8 Dec 06
We have talked about this. Nothing is set up paprework wise though. Our kids would go to my SIL. I am not crazy about that but it makes the most logical choice. Our parents are all to old to take on 3 young kids. my sisters are only 20 & no way ready for children. My brother is going on 24 & has 4 little ones to think of all ready.
@Krysha (48)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I knew this subject wouldn't be a fun one but hopefully its made people think a bit about the What Ifs in life. I've not made any permanent decisions but I have a feeling that they would go to my brother which isn't exactly stable but I think 3 kids would certainly wake him up. nothing is set in stone as of yet and I know our wills are written up already with them going to our parents but with their ages now I've got to change that. I thank everyone who's responded so far and I hope we all live happy and healthy lives!!! xoxox )
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@himalaya (39)
• India
8 Dec 06
you are right! its such a ghastly and horrible vision that my hair stood at its end as soon as i read this. i mean, though we may be financially sound, but even then, little children ( for those who have them lil ) need care, attention, love, upbringing .... a hell lot of things man.... before they grwo up! so whats ur plan? for me, fortunatly i have two brothers who are quite close...so i know atleast they are going to be there in case smthing happens...
@ilse72 (1450)
• United States
8 Dec 06
This was never an issue for us. When we got our oldest, we had wills drawn up and designated who was to care for our children in the event of our deaths. Now, our boys are both in their early 20s so it is no longer a worry.
You say you don't have a friend but what about siblings or other relatives who are younger than the grandparents? It might be wise to start developing a social circle so that you soon have someone you can trust with the well-being of your children. Unfortunately, if you do not assign a caregiver, your children will end up in the system. Start making some friends...neighbors or someone from your church (if you attend). Or attend some groups that will give you the opportunity to meet people such as mommy and me classes offered through YWCA, YMCA, neighborhood functions and community recreation events. Good luck!
@michele609 (1687)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I think that is a scary thing to think about, becasue all of us want the best for our children and even if we know that our children are in good hands we still worry how it would affect them emontionally. I know for a fact that my mother will take them, but my mother is not a young person and to raise 5 year old twins will be very hard for her. So I am worried about her, but I would be alot more worry how my kids will feel if they lost there mother at such a young age. I am the only parent my children have and I know they will miss me. 1 year ago I had to acually think about this because I was diagnosis with cervial cancer and at that time they didnt know how bad it was so I had to to live foe 3 weeks with the fact that I might not live to 22 years old and my might not see my children live to be 5. So it is a scary thing to think about! And I hope nobody has to ever go through that in life!
@Metallion (2227)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Unfortunately right now my wife and I are not in the best of financial situations and don't have a lot to leave our son, but we at least have life insurance which would give him something and he does have two loving grandmothers.
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@ildikobutyurka (851)
• Romania
8 Dec 06
well, it is kind of hard to answer this question. i have a dughter, too, and sometimes I put the question myself, too. I have my parents who are close to 70 and my child is only 2,5. So that is not a solution. but I have my husband's sisters, but one of then is not reliable enough to let my child to her, and the other one is 19. so that would be the best choice. But I would not really think of that, I can not imagine what would happen to her if we ..... , but you ar eright, sometimes we have to be morbid, or think on this kind of issues, too.
@icequeen (2840)
• Canada
8 Dec 06
Well...if I were to die..my boyfriend would take care of my son...and if both of us went..then he could stay with his grandfather on my boyfriends side..however..he is getting older now..so I am sure he would be able to take care of himself if needed...he knows what to do and we have taught him pretty well..about people and life..
@leilani47 (780)
• United States
8 Dec 06
If something were to happen to me TODAY, I know that my children will be well taken care of. My husband is the most wonderful father, and we both have great families.
@SACH4ISHA (1163)
• India
8 Dec 06
i don't have any child even i don't marry but good disscution keep going i think the life insurance will help them if i have child
@sjanjh (23)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I dont think that is something i have to think about, Me and my childrens fathers arent together so, My oldest child would take care of her and her 2 brothers and 2 sisters and my 1 daughter would go live with her father. If something was to happen to him if we were to be together by chance she would go live with her uncle or stay with the rest of her sisters and brothers.
@cyberhacker665 (92)
• Greece
8 Dec 06
Dont worry about something so improbable to happen .And if it eventually happens witch i higly doubt only one of you will die . And if both die there still are 2 grandparents .SAY THANKS I ONLY GOT MY MOM
@michele609 (1687)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I think that is a scary thing to think about, becasue all of us want the best for our children and even if we know that our children are in good hands we still worry how it would affect them emontionally. I know for a fact that my mother will take them, but my mother is not a young person and to raise 5 year old twins will be very hard for her. So I am worried about her, but I would be alot more worry how my kids will feel if they lost there mother at such a young age. I am the only parent my children have and I know they will miss me. 1 year ago I had to acually think about this because I was diagnosis with cervial cancer and at that time they didnt know how bad it was so I had to to live foe 3 weeks with the fact that I might not live to 22 years old and my might not see my children live to be 5. So it is a scary thing to think about! And I hope nobody has to ever go through that in life!
@michele609 (1687)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I think that is a scary thing to think about, becasue all of us want the best for our children and even if we know that our children are in good hands we still worry how it would affect them emontionally. I know for a fact that my mother will take them, but my mother is not a young person and to raise 5 year old twins will be very hard for her. So I am worried about her, but I would be alot more worry how my kids will feel if they lost there mother at such a young age. I am the only parent my children have and I know they will miss me. 1 year ago I had to acually think about this because I was diagnosis with cervial cancer and at that time they didnt know how bad it was so I had to to live foe 3 weeks with the fact that I might not live to 22 years old and my might not see my children live to be 5. So it is a scary thing to think about! And I hope nobody has to ever go through that in life!
@anurgupta (1891)
• India
8 Dec 06
sorry...but i am not yet married....but same thing i fear abt my parents...what will happen to them if something happens to me...also i think people usually think more about their children then abt their parents...i think both r equally important and we shd think abt them also..
@FiredUp (270)
• United States
8 Dec 06
When my children were young, my brother and I had a deal where he would take my kids and I would take his if something happened to one of us and our spouses. It is very important to develop a relationship with someone who would take care of your children and have it put into writing so the courts know your wishes. Whoever you develop that relationship with will also need to develop a relationship with your child so that the child would never be in a position to have to go to a stranger.
@sj_chaudhry (1537)
• Canada
8 Dec 06
you know according to our religious faith we believe in FATE. what will happen next nobody knows, here iss aying in our culture that People prepare for 100 yrs but they dont know about other second. so dont think about anything, if anything have had to happen then it will no body stops it no matter how much you will get prepare for your childrena nd left tons of money for them. you couldnot change the future so believe in God and pray for your children this is the only thing which may be helpful for you and your children.
@spikynimit (62)
• India
8 Dec 06
hmm....this is a touchy subject....but in reality....nuthing wud happen....ur children wud find their way out on their own if u have guided them in the right direction up till now.....cause u think there r so many orphans who have made it out on their own in this cruel world......so u shud stop thinkin abt dese stupid matters n leave the rest of this kind of stuff on god...
