Robbing the Cradle
By fritz_hailey
@fritz_hailey (1334)
United States
December 7, 2006 6:32pm CST
Eighteen year old meets fourteen year old. They are both in high school (Senior and Freshman), and he thought she was much older, figured sixteen or seventeen, shocked when he finds out she is a freshman.They fall in love, and dont really think about each other's age. The only time they do is when they both wish she was the same age as him so she could come to college with him. They both feel like they are soul mates. He likes her because she isnt superficial and she likes him because he cares about her felings.
Is anything wrong with this? Is the guy a bad person? Is he a pervert? Is he just in love with someone who happens to have been born a little long after he was? Can you sympathize?
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32 responses
@steffylikewoah (1762)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I can't judge. My husband is 26 and I'm 18 (19 in a few days). I think 14 and 18 is sorta ok. But I think 12 and 16 isn't. Get it? The older you are, the more ok it is. My mom and my step dad are 11 years apart. But they're like 50-something and 60-something.
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@hockeygal4ever (10021)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Exactly, there just seems to be a boundary of when it's appropriate! I agree with you.
@angel_manders (912)
• Canada
8 Dec 06
i dont really think there is anything wrong with that is not like they met at a party or anything they met at school where i feel ages must learn
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@ljmc24 (413)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I think they should wait till she is older. At 14 you are not capable of making those decisions.
My husband is 10 years older than me but I was an adult when I met him. And actually thought he was much younger. But I was still an adult and was able to make those decisions on my own. I think he just needs to move on and realize that is what is best for him and her. Sometimes in life you have to make those hard decisions whether you want to or not. If he really loved her he would wait till she was able to make those decisions on her own in a few years.
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@hockeygal4ever (10021)
• United States
8 Dec 06
My 14 yr. old daughter and her best friend, also 14, are 'in love' with a new guy every week. None of them are solid and stay forever love, that doesn't make them any less of a feeling though but it does prove that at 14 you really aren't mature enough for a real relationship.
@misskatonic (3723)
• United States
8 Dec 06
In a way I can sympathize, because they didn't know at first and whatnot. But on the other hand, fourteen year olds aren't mature enough or mentally delevoped enough for a serious relationship. That's one of the main reasons that there's an age limit for dating. I don't think the guy's a pervert or a bad person, I just think that they should wait until the girl is older, to the point where she can fully understand an adult relationship. If they're really in love, there's no harm in waiting after all!
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@blackshadow_mel (5)
• Philippines
8 Dec 06
Actually, it is ok if they do date...
My only concern is, they should know their limits in this kind of relatonship.. they must think of the responsibilities that goes hand in hand with this type of relationship...
or maybe it is more better if they wait for the right time for them to do or make heavy decision with regards to their relationship...
They are still young and they might still change their minds...
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@myself_wheniamreal (107)
• United States
8 Dec 06
yes there is something wrong with this. if this girl can't be honest with him and tell him her real age, they are not "soul mates." that is not love. she could get him in very serious trouble (ie: prison). this is complicated because in ten years it won't make that much difference. but a person is living a completely different life from 14 to 18. there is a big difference in maturity and experiences there. if they really are "soul mates" they can wait until it's not illegal.
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@4monsters4me (2569)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I don't think there is anything wrong with that relationship as long as the guy realizes she is too young to consummate their love, so to speak. If he really does love her and cares about her he will wait until she is out of high school before going the next step. 4 years really isn't that much, especially when you consider girls usually mature faster then boys.
The problem is that girls that age always seem so desperate to keep a boyfriend. And guys seem to know that and take advantage of it.
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@kesfylstra (1868)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I don't think there is anything necessarily wrong with it, as long as they are not sexually involved. But I would hope that they take it slow, because they are both young, especially the 14 year old, and a lot can change. Especially when he goes off to college. If, once she is out of high school, they feel the same, all the power to them.
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
8 Dec 06
We live in an age when people put a lot of weight on age differences. Truthfully, I don't think a 14 year-old really knows the meaning of true love, nor does an 18 year-old for that matter. They need time to grow up and experience life before they can put all their eggs in one basket.
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@spikynimit (62)
• India
9 Dec 06
hmm.....i dont actually know how is the guy or the gurl in person....in the description u gave...it seems like it has been taken from sum movie or sum s$%^....wer a guy meets a gurl dey fall in love n dey live happily ever after....so i guess if u want a serious ans den v shud know u in person....
@yupitsme (62)
• United States
9 Dec 06
Honestly when I think of people dating and age you have to look at it this way... most older people think that four years is nothing so why does four years matter when you are a teenager?? if they are REALLY in love and the girl is mature then i think it is fine and i hope the two people have a great relationship.
@cuddlebug79705 (2003)
• United States
8 Dec 06
This is a tough one, when kids are in high school together, it is hard to explain to them why they can't date. They are thrown in the same social scene and the same life, but the law in most states says it's not ok. Personally, if they started dating when they were in high school together, I don't see a problem with it.
@wahmoftwo (1296)
• United States
8 Dec 06
If it was my daughter I wouldn't sympathize. If it wasn't then I could. LOL!
@avonelle26 (364)
• Anguilla
8 Dec 06
well that happens all the time. Maybe the 18 yearold can wait on the 14 year old
@sarilynne (273)
• Canada
9 Dec 06
I knew people in high school who dated when the girl was in Grade 9 (freshman) and the guy was in Grade 12 (senior) - I don't think there is anything wrong with this as they met when they were both in the same stage of their lives - high school. Now if it was a sophmore in high school and freshman in university, the story would be different. Four years is not a huge age difference - my boyfriend and I are 4.5 years apart (he's 25, I'm 21). What makes a difference is when two people are at different stages in their life and therefore different maturity levels.
