Should I go back home when my husband gets deployed?

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My husband keeps asking me if I am going to go back home when he gets deployed. See I am from Hawaii & my parents are back home in Hawaii. My dad is in the hospital as we speak but he is getting better. Hopefully he will go home soon, it looks good. They are no doing so well fiancially but they are holding on. I would like to go back home to help them out but we dont have the money. I am not all that interested in going back home without my husband. He does not know when he will get deployed but it will be any where from Feb - May. I am getting comfortable with the mainland. My friend is moving out here in Feb but she will be 4 hours away. My sister is 10 hours away. I would like to spend the summer with her. If I go back home I will not be able to see her. If I got back to Hawaii my husbands pay will not increase & we will have to pay to put are things in storage. If I am not mistaken we will also have to pay out of our pocket (which happens to be empty) for both my daughter & myself to fly back home to Hawaii with more bags than they allow (more to pay for). It is just all complicated. I dont know what to do. I guess it is my decision but I am at a loss of what to do. Is there anyone who could give me some advice, I woulld appreciate any. Thanks.