can ex lovers be bestfriends again?

I don't know. I don't think so! I can't even begin to imagine being good friends with either one of my exes. Both relationships were very painful and each one had horrible break ups. I honetly don't think I would ever WANT to be friends with them again, hee hee. :)

I would think it is pretty hard. But, it really depends on the people. I agree with you.

Yes, they can be best friends depending on their circumstances, that is if they have not got someone else in thier lives.

i think it's impossible if one of them still loves the other. in my case, i could never be friends with my ex because i still love him more than anything in the world and still think that we should have never broken up. talking to him and seeing him...hell, even thinking about him...hurts me so incredibly much that it would be impossible to pretend to be happy around him, especially if he was with another girl.

no. you will never go back to the way the things were when you were lovers. there will always be a gap between the two of you, and it will never ever be the same.

yup u rr ight it is not that easy becuase you hav ahd share lotta things which are beyond the boundaries of friendship then how can you bind those boundaries again.... and there chances of even more heart breaking events. so it would be better leave that relation for good.

yes of course. i am the example,i and my ex girlfriend is bestfriends for many year,it is true.

it depends on how you part ways... with my first BF we are friends already after 3 years of break up. with my second one i never saw him anymore.. with my third one till now we still didn't talk..:)

sure you can. my previous girlfriend and i had a very tumultous 7 year relationship but we managed to become friends after we both settled down. as a mater of fact she does our finances and her husband handles our stock portfolios. we also try to go out once in a while to talk business.

may be , i don't have any experience of this , but i think once you are apart there is a distance between person, one will not have that warmth which is needed to be a good friend , after breakup they will have some mutual understanding , but they can not be good friends, if they think like it , they are playing with each other ,

yes i agree with u, u cant bring back whats been spill...or a broken glass at that...

i agree. it's been so hard to started everything over after the bad break up. seems like need some times even for years to bring the slipped train back into the rail. but, eventually i did. become a couple friend is more suitable for us than to become lovers.

No.Not really possible.

yes yes!!!i agree with you.friendship after a break up is very hard.yea they can patch up again.but being friends would be a sort of acting afetr so much of intimacy...yea may be many years back when both are settled..but the concept is quite fishy to me...hehehe

your experience is right.

yup your right. it's not that easy to turn back again your friendship that you've started.. in my expirience it takes 6 years before i and my ex boyfriend get friends again..

they say the friends can be lovers but (ex)lovers can't be friends. maybe after break-up you would never want to be friend with him/her especially if you separate ways badly. its true that its not easy to be friends again but later on you can be good friends again if no more pains. before i used to hate my ex boyfriend after we broke up but as time flies i come to realize that there is nothing to be hatred instead be happy that for once he was a part of your life. hating him would just bring you burden inside you. its nice to live without hating anybody..

They say that "Friends can be Lovers but Lovers can't be friends". I believe that because I too have experience a painful breakup. Eventhough both of us has moved on already and live our own lives I still cannot even talk to him with ease. My first boyfriend is also a co-worker till now. We just talk about work related things but beyond that, there's already a wall that separates us. I don't think that even time can make that wall go away.

yes there are some cases especially if they accept each other's reason why they need to have separate ways. but if im about to choose, i prefer to be friends only, not bestfriends, coz somehow i admit that i might feel a little jealousy if i would saw him with another guy.

Hmmmm.tricky question...in some cases they might,in my experience,i know it won't be the same again,especially that he is dating now someone very close and dear to me.