Do parents have the control over their children these days?

I have seen so many parents that don't have control over their children. There are still some parents out there that have maintained control of their kids. Kudos to them.

I am very proud of my son and daughter law, as they have been able to take extra steps in bringing up my two grandsons, so that they have good communication with the boys and that makes the biggest difference. They had problems for a while, but she home school them for two years and now they are more prepared to handle things that come up in public school. This is their first year back and doing well. I don't blame the teachers, as they have their hands tied so many ways that they sometimes can not handle situations, but there definately is a problem somewhere in our school systems when children as young as my grandsons were when they were taken out of school, to have developed such low esteem and self worth. That to me should be a crime.

I don't know about teachers but I know about parents. Never live with your parents trying to get your child to grow up. They are a huge obstacle to right growing up. I have my father spoiling my son all the time. There are times that I speak to my son and he doesn't even look at me. That makes me mad. I will fix that but now it's getting me mad.

It appears that kids nowadays are out of control at home and at school. Our society morals have broken down so much. It makes me very sad.

Earlier, discipline was by scaring the kids. But now I find that parents and teachers have to really understand a kid's psyche to discipline them. It's not really impossible...but it's not easy either. I feel that starting young and being consistent is the key. coming back to your question, I do find that most parents have no control over their kids these days. Based on personal incidents that I know, I find that parents tend to let a child do whatever they want as a kid justifying their actions (Oh!he's only a child) and expect them to suddenly act their age when they are around 10. How would a child know unless you set down the rules? Nowadays I also find that the parents do not have the time or patience to be consistent with rules. They have their own lives to lead and discipline becomes an issue only when the child starts acting up. I do not believe in physical punishment in disciplining a child but the adult needs to be firm and consistent.

I agree that the teachers have little or no control over some children in their care these days. The worst they can do is send them to the office with their coloured cards. (I don't understand how this is going to deter bad behaviour.)Children come home from school with the kids help line in their bag and misuse the idea of this service. My niece actually told her mum that she can't go mad at her because it is child abuse and she would ring kids help line! What chance have we got as parents! I use the 'taking away things and privilages" sometimes it works, other times I'm wasting my breath.

No, they can't do things like they should. My kids know that if they are naughty, they get a smack on the bum. That is the way it is. End of discussion. They know that they need to be really bad to get one, but they also know that it will happen. It is as it should be.

I think, to be a good parent, you have to be able to adapt and adjust your punishments. We don't spank our daughter often because we found sending her to bed works better.

yes it's importent to have control over their children,have them in discipline because it's very important for them. if you would not have them in ... they can be in out of control,it will be very big problem for perents.

Parents and teachers are ristricted greatly in the disciplining of children these days compared to days gone by! The powers to be that changed the laws to protect children didn't foresee the problems of loss of control over the children by trying to stamp out abuse. It all goes back to the fact that allot of parents do not have life skills themselves and that is where the powers to be could really do some good! But the major hurdle in this is that most parents do not want to admit they don't know enough about raising children and mistakingly try to make it better than they themselves had growing up...but then that creates more problems again....this comment is not aimed at anyone in particular...just a very broard comment!

Lack of respect. If you respect your child they will respect you and others, simple. But unfortunately today there are too many parents who couldn't give a flying duck about their child thus a child who does not give a flying duck. Sad I know.

The civilization is developing in very fast pace. What were norms yesterday is very much backward thinking today. We have analyzed these things in this light. You can not tackle the children in the way, it used to be. You have to be friendly with them and talk their problem sympathically. They should not feel offended.