Fathers, Children and Divorce

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Currently having the experiance of sorting out a divorce in the UK as a father who loves and wants to be a Dad to his children I have been stunned by how anti man the process is. The kids mum used the police to remove me from my home (by saying she thought I might be violent - I never have been in the 18 years she's known me). The police accepted no incident had occurred but stated I would be arrested if she returned and made the same allegation. As the kids were being upset (I was putting my son in the bath at the time) I agreed to leave but at that moment the system swang into full effect. It took six months to get people to actually read the forms that get generated saying I hadn't done anything wrong and that was only after my MP intervened. After I left the house all the forms for benefits etc had been prepared and were submitted by my wife and she started telling the local community I had deserted her. I tried to get a shared parenting arrangement in place and now I am supposed to have the children 6 nights in every 14 but she changes things at the last moment so ineffect I don't always get to see all the children.My oldest daughter hasn't spent a night away from home with me since August. At the same time my wife has been getting her to talk to 50 year old men on the internet as part of her dating and has had highly dubious dating conversations with my other daughters lying in the same bed. When I have tried to do something about this the answer is always the same, if the children are assualted then the system will take action but it will only prevent this sort of behaviour if its the father, not the mother. Three weeks ago my wife attacked me in the house, pushing me over and slamming a door repeatedly onto my leg causing visable injury. I went to the police. Result - no action because she is a woman however if I had defended myself I would have been arrested. The family mediator told me this week that what ever agreement I come to regarding access if my wife decides to not let me see the kids there is nothing I can really do about it. Am I alone in this World thinking the system has gone the wrong way and that the system in the UK is anti men?