What are some qualities you would give to describe a friend?
@littlefranciscan (18327)
United States
December 8, 2006 6:58am CST
There are many who say they have "friends" but; tell me, what do you consider to be a friend. Surely it is not only the one who agrees with you or listens to you ..Is it?
Friends ..I believe are true to you through good times and bad..they tell you what you need to hear to help you grow and help you stand up ..when you have fallen.. Friends appreciate you for who you are and don't try to make you into what you are not..
Tell me what else a friend is..Thanks+
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@ddsully (1062)
• United States
8 Dec 06
True friendship is doing something for someone else while expecting nothing in return! sharing thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment or criticism. there is a saying that i absolutely love: "What is a friend?" A friend is a single soul living in two bodies.
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
8 Dec 06
WHile doing something else for someone without expecting nothing in return is fine..but let it be a two way street ..friends should be one and a burden for one should be a burden for two.. No one is left holding the bag!
@sierdij (853)
• Philippines
8 Dec 06
For me a friend is someone who is there in whatever situation that you have.A friend is there not only in happy moments.A real friend is there whenever you need someone to lean on on sad moments.A friend advise for your own good.A friend is not only a friend but also a family.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
8 Dec 06
So beautifully said! Friends are friends in good times or bad..
How many real friends do you have? I can say I have very few "real friends"
The best test of friendship is when difficulties arise..or when perhaps a disagreement surfaces..
Real friends will allow for differences and will help you through the trial .. Fair weather friends flee from difficulties and try to make you into something you are not.
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@Force_Fed (745)
• United States
8 Dec 06
A friend should be honest. Both with themselves and with others. If a person is not honest through and throough cannot be trusted IMO.
A friend should be someone who, if given the chance, you would choose to be friends with all over again. Ever have a friend that you wondered if you would like them if they weren't already a friend? I have. Those friendships ended when I came to that realization.
A friends knows you, and is willing to be with you when times are bad. They don't always overlook your faults, but they accept them. They tell you when you're screwing up and when you're doing well.
I have only a few people I can truely call a "friend" I like it that way. 2 or 3 people you can really count on outweighs 100's of fake friends you never know whether or not will be around.
Force
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
9 Dec 06
Honesty is the number one agreement in friendship ..it's like glue that holds things together..if it isnt there it's all going to fall apart.
@cuddlebug79705 (2003)
• United States
8 Dec 06
A friend is someone I can count on, someone I can trust, someone who knows how I feel and helps me through the bad times. It is almost like they re the other side of the same coin to me.
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
9 Dec 06
Yes they complete the coin..don't they? I say they are like the process of breathe..to breathe and continue living you must inhale and exhale..one friend is the inhale the other the exhale..each one compliments and makes up for what the other does not do.
@ChewySpree (1832)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I consider someone a friend if I enjoy being around him or her. Enjoying someone's company doesn't necessarily mean that we completely agree, because I also enjoy debating topics with people and learning new points of view. I also consider someone a friend who is considerate of my feelings and needs, and I feel the same about them.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
9 Dec 06
I agree a friend is someone who you enjoy being around. Friends let you be who you are while being who they are..
@Meljep (1666)
• United States
8 Dec 06
A true friend is one who you can ask to take you to the airport and he/she won't mind a bit. You could ask them to pick up some chicken soup at the store for you when you are sick, and they won't mind a bit. You may have differences, but the advice they give will help you be a stronger, better person.
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
9 Dec 06
Yes take you to the airport but not necessarily pay the fare.that is making unreasonable demands..Friendship is not simply about receiving ..it is also about giving..Friends dont leave their friends holding the bill
@zotopec (307)
• Pakistan
8 Dec 06
I dont think that making or being a friend puts the liability on you to be helpful too. I would rate someone as a friend who is always there for you, not to help or to suffer with you, but just be there to turn to. He or she can be a friend by making his or her company always available. Sharing is friendship...
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
9 Dec 06
I have found however that my true friends do help.. I help my friends..don't you..
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
9 Dec 06
Right on.they are like anchors for the boat on a wavy sea.. They help steady you when you think you are falling and without support!
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
9 Dec 06
Usually your heart is the best to listen to when it comes to people..It usually allows you time to gather information..the head usually is quick to act
@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
8 Dec 06
I have only one truly good friend apart from family members - all others are just acquaintances. Unfortunately she lives in the UK and I live in Ireland. We have been friends for over fifty years and we visit regularly as well as spend hours on the phone to each other. We very often have different opinions on certain subjects and we argue over it, but it doesn't come between our friendship. When we meet, it is though we never were apart. She even wants me to come and live with her if I am ever left on my own, and I would certainly reciprocate.
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
9 Dec 06
She is truly a good friend ..have you seen pictures of her.. Beign that you are distances away ..do you know that she is who she is?
@sj_chaudhry (1537)
• Canada
8 Dec 06
i think friend is a person with whom you feel comfortable and free to discuss and share your personal things. and in rturn you always expect to get the bestest thing from him/her. its alla bout, trust, patience, loyalty, devotedness and care. for me when your friend needs you then you must be right there for him/her because this is what friends for.
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
9 Dec 06
What do you give in return..I see the expectations you have of your friend is this what you give back in return equally the same?
@sammymammy1221 (185)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Kind, Funny, Honest, Trustworthy, Fun, Understanding, sympathetic
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
9 Dec 06
I dont know if all my friends are funny ..some are ..but nice to know that you like funny friends..must be like yourself then?
@JustSimplyLissa (547)
• United States
8 Dec 06
the things i require in friendship are:
Honesty
Loyalty
Respect
These 3 are most important to me. I'd rather have someone tell me the truth even when it hurts, Have the courage to give me advice and then let me make my own decision even if it isn't what they would like to have seen, and someone who isn't all nice to your face and then talks about you behind your back. Someone you can tell a "secret" to and trust them not to tell it to everyone or anyone else.
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
9 Dec 06
I like those qualities in my friends too..Some of my friends demonstrate them more than others.
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
9 Dec 06
Yes you must be able to trust your friend. Of all people a friend is someone you should be able to go to and know that what they tell you is going to be true.
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
9 Dec 06
Amen to that..real friends dont hang up when times are inconvenient..usually they are the ones you can always turn to no matter what time it is day or night!
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
9 Dec 06
I like how you said "be good enough to tell me your wrong" It takes a strong person to want to know when they are wrong and to allow their friends the freedom to say this without getting upset.
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
9 Dec 06
I agree honesty and loyalty are necessary foundations for any true friendship ..cant be friends with someone who runs when the going gets tough.
@dienutza (449)
• Romania
8 Dec 06
My Best Friend
Today I found a friend,
Who knew everything I felt.
She knew my every weakness,
And the problems I've been dealt.
She understood my wonders,
And listened to my dreams.
She listened to how I felt about life and love,
And knew what it all means.
Not once did she interrupt me,
Or tell me I was wrong.
She understood what I was going through,
And promised she'd stay long
I reached out to this friend
To show her that i care
To pull her close and let her know
How much I need her there
I went to hold her hand
To pull her a bit nearer
And realized that this perfect friend I found
Was nothing but my mirror.
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
9 Dec 06
I love your poetry; it really comes from the heart. Did you write this yourself? Thanks for sharing such deep insight into friendship!
@Devinarun (387)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Friends cannot be found very easily....u dont meet up with somone n decide immediately that u both willl become friends...its over a period of time...that you both will relise that you love each others company.
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
9 Dec 06
Indeed friendship is ongoing ..and the more you know someone that is a friend the closer you become ..respecting one another while helping them become all they can be;)+