My girlfriend older than me

@catcity (153)
Malaysia
December 9, 2006 10:55am CST
My girlfriend is one a half year older than me. Actually that is not a problem for me and one and half year is no much. However, recently we have a conversation on marriage and she said that the ideal age for her to marriage is arround 26 to 28. For me, I plan to get married when I am around 30 or 32. There are 5 to 6 years different. I know when I am 30 and she will be 32 is a bit old. What should I do? Should I continue with this relation as I really love her very much. help!!!
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17 responses
• Singapore
10 Dec 06
maybe you should tell her about your plans and tell her the reason why you want to marry at that age? if she loves you, she will understand. i'm 3 years older than my bf and im reaching 30 soon...but we're in no hurry to get married now as we want to have good job first and financially strong before we get married and start a family. Good Luck!
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• Singapore
10 Dec 06
Thanks for the best response!
@catcity (153)
• Malaysia
24 Dec 06
you are welcome.
@catcity (153)
• Malaysia
10 Dec 06
I think I need to find a chance to talk to her. Really thank you for giving me confident to continue with this relationship.
@zotopec (307)
• Pakistan
31 Dec 06
By this perhaps, she has been hinting a certain thought into your head...take the lead and dont waste time. Go ask her if she will be yours...forever!
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@catcity (153)
• Malaysia
1 Jan 07
haha.... That is what I worried about. Worried that she will tell me that she can not wait for me but I think is better to know it now than later. Thank for your suggestion and happy new year 2007.
• United States
31 Dec 06
You are right
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
10 Dec 06
I think that you should continue ot be with her. If she really loves you, she will wait for you to finish school and get a job so that you can get married. It doesn't matter how old you are when you get married, it matters how much you love each other and how strong your relationship is. It does no good to rush into marriage and not be ready emaotionally or fiancially.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
10 Dec 06
That is silly to get married early to just have a healthy child. A woman can have a helthy child well into her 40's. A woman isn't even out of a high risk zone for pregnancy complications until she is in her mid-twenties. People should get married when they are ready and they can do it, not because they want to rush into having a kid. P;us what is you do get married at and have a kid before you are 30 and you struggle because you have no money. I would rather have a kid when I am 35 and have the money to support it than suffer and my child not have everything they need because I rushed into something I wasnot prepared for.
@catcity (153)
• Malaysia
24 Dec 06
ya. you are right. thank for your opinion.
@catcity (153)
• Malaysia
10 Dec 06
Ya it is true. The financial is my main consideration which make me plan to marry at around 30 years old but then at that time my girlfriend will be 31 years old. As mention by mvsrao, a woman should marry between 21 to 26 to get a healthy baby and 31 is a bit too late. Yes, she really love me but we still need to face the truth.
@mvsrao (4365)
• India
9 Dec 06
A woman should marry between 21 - 26 years of age sothat she can have good chances of healthier babies ...
@catcity (153)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 06
Ya. I know that but at that time I still not yet graduate from my degree. Then How can I marry her. Is it will be better to have girlfriend younger than me??
@mvsrao (4365)
• India
9 Dec 06
^ you said that you love her very much . True Love is not just for fun / enjoying - it will be better if it continues with a relation of marriage . And you can take up some part time jobs [ like tutions , accounts ] so that you donot have to depend much on parents ...
@catcity (153)
• Malaysia
10 Dec 06
Ya. sure I will continue but can she wait me?
• India
31 Dec 06
if u really love her then go on and if both of u love each other then u can come to a compromise u can also get married when u r 28 or so
@catcity (153)
• Malaysia
1 Jan 07
yaya. Thank you for your suggestion. Happy new year 2007.
• United States
31 Dec 06
Age should not matter I was eleven years older than my 2nd husband and it was never a problem. 32 is not old if you leave she is worth waiting for then do it.
• India
31 Dec 06
r u serieous
@catcity (153)
• Malaysia
1 Jan 07
wao... Thank you for telling me this and this make me feel more confident with my relationship with my girlfriend. Really thank you and happy new year 2007.
• United States
31 Dec 06
Age is just a number, it shoudln't make a difference at all. 13 year old girl and 18 year old guy, who cares. 17 year old girl and 30 year old man who cares.
@catcity (153)
• Malaysia
1 Jan 07
Okok. I get what you mean. Thank you very much and wich you have a very good 2007 new year.
@wmg2006 (5381)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Of course you should continue a relationship with someone you LOVE. You both will be surprised at how many times you will change your mind about marriage. We always think we know what we want when actually circumstances tend to change those thoughts. Just wait and see what happens. Love does strange things to people.
@mypigbox (2245)
• China
21 Dec 06
That is not problem in the relationship.Man will be anile fast than woman.So if a wife is a little big than husband,in the future,the consenescence will be the same.It is good to get marriage.
@catcity (153)
• Malaysia
24 Dec 06
I know that but just scare that she can not wait for me. she face pressure from her family too.
• China
21 Dec 06
You already said that age thing is not a problem for you. If you really love your girl friend, I think when you get married is not a problem for you too. Actually, it really doesn't matter when you get married as long as you really love each other.
@catcity (153)
• Malaysia
24 Dec 06
The problem is that i scare she can not wait for me as she plan to married earlier.
@vikceo (1301)
• India
28 Dec 06
i dont know how to react on your problem or even should i react on it. friend you are really telling a problem which is not a problem at all. in brief i do not feel that there is any point of saying that should you leave this relation for such an impractical thing. if you love is true and strong enough then there should be very strong reasons on both the sides that why she can not wait after 28 and why you can not marry before 30. remember there are hell like things in life when you will never be able to be agree on a single point. some times it will be you who have to go with her and sometimes she will need to do so for you and your love. that is life and that is a true relation.
@catcity (153)
• Malaysia
31 Dec 06
I know what you mean but we need to face the fact one day too. The day when her family force to marry maybe at her 28 years old and I am not yet prepaid for that and there the problem will come. Anywhere thank you for your comment.
@rein_rgm (388)
• Philippines
21 Dec 06
me too
@catcity (153)
• Malaysia
24 Dec 06
Then you face any problem??can you share with me?? thank.
@siva12 (799)
• India
31 Dec 06
No problem. In this world you can find such a pair. There are so many such pairs in this world. This will not effect to your happy life.
@catcity (153)
• Malaysia
1 Jan 07
OKok. Hope what you said will be true. Anywhere, thank you very much and happy new year 2007.
• India
31 Dec 06
if you really love her marry her. because nothing in this world can stop love. nowerdays age is not a problem if she loves to marry u carry on. all the best and happy new year
@catcity (153)
• Malaysia
1 Jan 07
yaya. You are right. Thank you very much and happy new year 2007.
@SGOEL27 (927)
• India
1 Jan 07
What's harm in it because there is no age bar for love. yes i accept it that marriage should have in a particular age. but if you fall in love with someone than go ahead. hey don't worry she is your kind of girl.
@serenetee (380)
• Singapore
1 Jan 07
This is a dynamic world and things may get better or worse and sometimes it's beyond your control. Do not worry too much about such details. Both of you may have differences on the age of marriage now but later on, other things may crop up prompting you or her to change your ideals and plans. As your relationship with her progresses and as you embark on a career or as you mature, you may change your perspective. Right now, just enjoy the time spend with your girlfriend. Good luck.
@azeemjz (445)
• Pakistan
1 Jan 07
hey man dont share your personal things on these kind of discussions.So i dont say any thing on your personal life.