My girlfriend older than me
By catcity
@catcity (153)
Malaysia
December 9, 2006 10:55am CST
My girlfriend is one a half year older than me. Actually that is not a problem for me and one and half year is no much. However, recently we have a conversation on marriage and she said that the ideal age for her to marriage is arround 26 to 28. For me, I plan to get married when I am around 30 or 32. There are 5 to 6 years different. I know when I am 30 and she will be 32 is a bit old. What should I do? Should I continue with this relation as I really love her very much. help!!!
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17 responses
@euniceeleanor (5966)
• Singapore
10 Dec 06
maybe you should tell her about your plans and tell her the reason why you want to marry at that age? if she loves you, she will understand. i'm 3 years older than my bf and im reaching 30 soon...but we're in no hurry to get married now as we want to have good job first and financially strong before we get married and start a family. Good Luck!
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
10 Dec 06
I think that you should continue ot be with her. If she really loves you, she will wait for you to finish school and get a job so that you can get married. It doesn't matter how old you are when you get married, it matters how much you love each other and how strong your relationship is. It does no good to rush into marriage and not be ready emaotionally or fiancially.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
10 Dec 06
That is silly to get married early to just have a healthy child. A woman can have a helthy child well into her 40's. A woman isn't even out of a high risk zone for pregnancy complications until she is in her mid-twenties. People should get married when they are ready and they can do it, not because they want to rush into having a kid. P;us what is you do get married at and have a kid before you are 30 and you struggle because you have no money. I would rather have a kid when I am 35 and have the money to support it than suffer and my child not have everything they need because I rushed into something I wasnot prepared for.
@catcity (153)
• Malaysia
10 Dec 06
Ya it is true. The financial is my main consideration which make me plan to marry at around 30 years old but then at that time my girlfriend will be 31 years old. As mention by mvsrao, a woman should marry between 21 to 26 to get a healthy baby and 31 is a bit too late. Yes, she really love me but we still need to face the truth.
@catcity (153)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 06
Ya. I know that but at that time I still not yet graduate from my degree. Then How can I marry her. Is it will be better to have girlfriend younger than me??
@mvsrao (4365)
• India
9 Dec 06
^ you said that you love her very much .
True Love is not just for fun / enjoying -
it will be better if it continues with
a relation of marriage .
And you can take up some part time jobs
[ like tutions , accounts ] so that you
donot have to depend much on parents ...
@tanmayangre (841)
• India
31 Dec 06
if u really love her then go on
and if both of u love each other then u can come to a compromise
u can also get married when u r 28 or so
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
31 Dec 06
Age should not matter I was eleven years older than my 2nd husband and it was never a problem. 32 is not old if you leave she is worth waiting for then do it.
@PainfulPleasure (684)
• United States
31 Dec 06
Age is just a number, it shoudln't make a difference at all. 13 year old girl and 18 year old guy, who cares. 17 year old girl and 30 year old man who cares.
@wmg2006 (5381)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Of course you should continue a relationship with someone you LOVE. You both will be surprised at how many times you will change your mind about marriage. We always think we know what we want when actually circumstances tend to change those thoughts. Just wait and see what happens. Love does strange things to people.
@s1n2a3k4e580 (222)
• China
21 Dec 06
You already said that age thing is not a problem for you. If you really love your girl friend, I think when you get married is not a problem for you too. Actually, it really doesn't matter when you get married as long as you really love each other.
@vikceo (1301)
• India
28 Dec 06
i dont know how to react on your problem or even should i react on it. friend you are really telling a problem which is not a problem at all. in brief i do not feel that there is any point of saying that should you leave this relation for such an impractical thing. if you love is true and strong enough then there should be very strong reasons on both the sides that why she can not wait after 28 and why you can not marry before 30. remember there are hell like things in life when you will never be able to be agree on a single point. some times it will be you who have to go with her and sometimes she will need to do so for you and your love. that is life and that is a true relation.
@krishna251101 (183)
• India
31 Dec 06
if you really love her marry her.
because nothing in this world can stop love.
nowerdays age is not a problem if she loves to marry u carry on.
all the best and happy new year
@serenetee (380)
• Singapore
1 Jan 07
This is a dynamic world and things may get better or worse and sometimes it's beyond your control. Do not worry too much about such details. Both of you may have differences on the age of marriage now but later on, other things may crop up prompting you or her to change your ideals and plans. As your relationship with her progresses and as you embark on a career or as you mature, you may change your perspective. Right now, just enjoy the time spend with your girlfriend. Good luck.
