Attractive Women and Men.

Unfortunately, Chrisie, that is a fact of life. Smart women intimidate most men, especially strong smart women. Do not let your heart overrule your head. Love yourself more than that. A GOOD man is worth the wait. Bad men may come and go, all the while tearing down your self-esteem and love for yourself. Do NOT let that happen. You a very obviously a strong, smart and PRETTY girl. Tolerate no mistreatment of yourself from ANYONE. Hang in there, kiddo. The right one is out there somewhere. You're young yet, there's no need to worry about it today. Set your standards. Avoid the jobless no matter how cute they are. Avoid the partiers no matter how fun they are. Neither is going to be a productive personality in your life. You may also want to avoid jocks, a lot of them tend to smack their wives around later in life. Not ALL of them, but there have been studies that aggressive young men turn into abusive grown men. Remember, believe in what your mind tells you, your heart can get blinded by infatuation.

You should just move to Ohio. Come hang out with me in the snow! I'm a year younger than you though-- I hope that isn't a turn-off... ;) Seriously though, you've got a genuine point. Although I don't know first hand exactly what you mean, I can sort of relate. I find myself to be generally well-put-together and a little smarter than most. I'm not ugly, but I'm not Fabio either. Anyway, I'm friends with a girl who I was completely infatuated with for a few weeks. She's incredibly smart and attarctive, comes from a good family, athletic etc etc etc I mean really this girl has potential growing out her ears... I used to think about how refreshing it would be to be with a girl like her, but also so damn intimidating. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I was intimidated because I thought she was smarter than me and perhaps may be more successful in life. It sounds dumb as a write it, but I guess most guys just want to be the better-half at those things. My advice, if it's worth anything, is to show humility above all else. I'm not asking that you "dumb yourself down" or anything... but maybe watch the "crass"ness and being crude. I know, that's common sense. I'm sure you're generally very polite and we can't all be saints all the time. Plus, I love sarcasm ;) I like the other comments people have made that you just haven't found a nice guy yet. For advice on this, please refer to my first comment haha -cheers

lol, I dont even know where to begin on this one. I have no idea why you only attract ones that want to treat you horribly... where are you finding these fellas? Perhaps the nice ones are intimidate by you because you are an attractive woman, that can be a very intimidating thing to us fellas.

Well I'm thinkin its the sarcastic,crass and overly crude part. No man wants to date/marry a woman who acts like that I don't care how attractive u are. Just my opinion, but I know that I wouldn't be with a woman who was like that, I have nothing against scarcaism at times but to be that way constantly is a big turn off.

mayb they feel scared wen they see u... most men dont lik gals who r smart and popular.. they get intimidated by such characters.... i guess u are a type of gal tht makes guys inconfortable and lose their confidence.... being wid a smart gals makes them kinda look silly.... thts y

One more thing. I remember when I was 22, I was king of an idiot. Not saying this about every guy who is 22 but if you're finding guys that are young, early 20's, chances are they may not be as mature as you want them to be. Just something to think about.

its just your feeling and i dont think mens are like you

I'm the same way!! I have had bad men my whole life.. except my husband. He's one of the few. Knowing him.. the only thing I can think of is the good men are shy. I only suspect this because my husband is.. and the only reason he was able to talk to me is because he was a lot older than me.. so he grew out of a lot of stuff from when he was younger. Good luck to you!

hi there..that just goes to prove what many nice guys wonder abt all the times..why do the best of girls always get involved with the crappiest of guys..i guess its becoz girls many a times prefer to date or attracted more towards a guy with shades of grey rather than a goody goody one.. not that i want to brag abt myself...but i am a pretty nice guy..good looking, honest, gr8 sense of humor, smart , hardworking, committed but having said all that i am still single becoz almost all the girls i know say that oh!!! whichever girl marries u will be very very lucky...i would be the guy they would take home to meet their parents but would still prefer a rowdier, brattier person as a boyfriend..god knows why..i agree i am a shy person and i dont open up with everyone i know..some people would think of me as this guy hardly ever speaks..but the ones i am free with will vow that i am one of the naughtiest and funniest guys they've ever met..but i am not a person who will just walk into a party and start jabbering at the top of my voice and attract everybody's attention..you will normally find me either in a corner alone enjoying whats happening around me or in a group of 4-5 friends having a gala time.. i know i need a little bit more on my personality but hey gals..dont just look for excitement when u look for a guy..give some importance to stability and maturity and trust me you will also come across a treasure of excitement in that guy just waiting to be discovered..

you know, i totally understand how you feel...and i feel the same way. i think im an attractive person, but i only seem to attract the guys who treat me like crap. i really dont understand what's going on with that, but i guess you just have to keep hope that a good guy will come your way someday.

If you only attract men who treat you like trash, that means that you're not as confident as you think you are. Men read you better than you read yourself. YOU are attracting the bad ones. Maybe you're trying too hard to attract the nice ones. Oh, there are NICE ONES????

yes ive heard many girls complain about this. Just make sure you are not hanging around the wrong guys, and therefore attracting the wrong ones. Make sure to hang out with guys that DO have thier lives together and make sure you dont turn away from them -w/o realizing it!

i feel the same way like you, i feel like i'm intimidating the nice guys but not those aggressive ones. hehe My point of views on this is men goes for women who treat them like they are strong and "macho". Guys do have the characteristic of being superior. They do not like to be under of whoever especially girls. =) And i think these are some of the reasons why some men are not attracted to superwomens. In short, they are afraid that they cannot handle the powers of such ladies. Sometimes, I am also bothered. i feel like I am not existing to the eyes of guys, and It makes me feel horrible. hehe So what i did (still struggling)is to mellow down my powers, to be soft and gentle when dealing with men. But I am thankful that being demure comes out naturally from me, and this makes me attractive to some of the guys in our midst. Just be sweet, guys will fall for you.

MEN ARE ALWAYS ATTRACTIVE & MORE BEAUTIFUL THEN LADIES OR GIRLS IN NATURAL WAY IF LADIES DO NOT USE MAKEUP THEY ARE NOT BEAUTIFUL

Heck, omen sem to get scard when I talk about stuff that flies over their head, and yes, when I shave, Im quite attractive. ;-P

i think it is the same for men, because i know a few men in that situation, and they wonder why cant they get a caring girlfriend etc. i dont know why really, and well not sure of how to fix the cycle, but i think reallyneed to broaden the type of men you look at

I'm not intimidated by smart women, hell, I wouldn't mind finding a sugar momma so I could pursue what I really enjoy doing! Maybe being in college I got used to being around goal/career oriented women, which in turn made me realize that it is good to meet a girl with a solid base of knowledge... I think it's important for you to remember that people in LA suck! There are far too many fake people around! Everyone steps on everyone else here, so I really have to wish you luck in these parts. I've met alot of guys and girls here and it seems like most of them only care about the stupidest material things... I feel that your intimidation factor may just be in your head, did you ever think that the guy might think that you're not his type of chick? Is there a certain common point in any of your relationships that they changed to being mean (or were they always the bad boy)? Did they purpose to you or something to scare you off? lol... Even the ones you've dated, was it all the guys fault or did he see flaws in you as well? I'm sure your personable and have many great qualities that men would love, but relationships rarely work out... It's like Taoism, "just be" and things will fall into place! I've never had a successful relationship if success is based on me still being with them, because I'm single right now... I know nobody's perfect, but one thing I've noticed the more relationships that I've been in, the pickier I get... It's like I want to find a woman that cooks the way Liz did, laughs with me like Sophie did, Likes sports as much as Andrea did, I'll hold off on the physical ones cause you get the point...

for me i am so attractive to superman or brandon routh, if i were his girlfriend i wont really let him go away from me coz i know a lot of people especially girls my steel him from me and i dont want that to happen, but of course its just a dream and i just keep on dreamin till my heartaches end.

I think that one day the ideal man will come along for you...maybe its just that you havent met anyone who is right for you as yet...as soon as the right one comes along you will instantly know!!

The type of man that you hang out with is usually dependent on a father role. What was your father like? You will often seek out the same kind of person that fills his shoes in life. If you got along great with your father, a warm loving man, your mate will be the same. If it was hell and fighting, a rude relationship, you will tend to find men like that. It's a 'comfort level' that puts you in the norm. You didn't mention 'attract men' as ones that come onto you, or ones you date and have continued relationships with. My comment applies to the latter.