Do you think married life is better or being single?
By biggerb
@biggerb (2024)
India
December 10, 2006 7:54am CST
Now i find alot of people not wanting to get married as they do not have time they are so busy with their careers the do not want to get tied down.they seem to vale thier freedom.But somehow i feel as they get old how will they cope with this loneliness?
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@powersetting (231)
• Malaysia
24 Apr 07
Good question
Well, its all depends on what is your desire in your life.
If you are kind of personality who with responsibility and willing to handle and cope with burdens, of course getting married is the answer.
If you were the one who prefer more personal times and freedom
even live without any commitments then being single is the answer.
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@Makoy1983 (1084)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
i have no experience about married life but i find being single a happy and contented life. i mean it might come with my personality since im a homeboy and doesnt really go out much. staying at home watching dvds or browsing through the net really makes my day worthwhile. i do sports and train taekwondo regularly. those are the only things that i really do most of the time. the good thing about being single is that im not attached to anything. the responsibilities are yet so small that i have all the time for myself to enjoy and relax, not to mention to do things that i love and wanted to do. i have no idea about married life, but as a single, im contented and satisfied with my life. though i do have setbacks on my own, its still a happy and fulfilling life
@biggerb (2024)
• India
25 Sep 07
Thanks for responding.I am glad you are happy being single,that you are leading a contented,happy and fulfilling life.Today the younger generation is quite forthright in expressing what they want in life.Many prefer to remain single rather than marry someone unworthy.All the best to you.
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@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
1 Oct 07
Why not? I think it's much more fun to be married than alone.
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
27 Sep 07
Being unmarried doesn't mean you're lonely. You can be in a serious relationship without being married, and there's also dating, friend, family and many people really do enjoy their careers choices.
But also, the people you describe are very dellusioned about what marriage means. Being married doesn't have to mean that you're "tied down", or that you loose your aspirations, freedoms and career goals. I've been living with my fiance for almost a year now and we're getting married next year and our relationship is not like that at all. We both do what we want, go where we want, and aspire to be whatever we want. We support each other, and encourage we don't hold each other back.
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@biggerb (2024)
• India
27 Sep 07
Yes I fully agree with you, there is alot of misconception regarding marriage and the commitment factor.I would'nt blame those who think so, as today when you look around you find several marriages falling apart and divorce has become so common.I read a book which says the reason behind the failure of today's marriages is"Me,me,generation" Each partner thinks of only his goals, his targets and his career.They do not want to invest in marriage.If there is Time,tolerance and tenderness these three factors it says can ease the nitty gritty's in an ugly situation which can save a marriage.
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
27 Sep 07
I'm aware that it's purely a personal choice. However, to adequately make choices, one has to be aware of all the facts and many of the people who refuse to settle down have serious misconceptions about commitment.
@alfonseelric (894)
• Malaysia
24 Apr 07
I believe different peoples will have different opinions. Whether better being single or married to someone , it depends on individual because we lead different lifes so the reasons will be different. I am single and i am happy with my life. I am building my career and working hard to achieve my dreams while taking care of my parents at the same time.. so any commitment like relationship will be the last thing on my mind.
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@biggerb (2024)
• India
25 Sep 07
Thanks for responding.Yes i agree with you each individuals preference is different.I am glad that you are happy being single.Women today are shooting for the skies and are determined to get there without making compromises they feel are unnecessary or demeaning.Go ahead and achieve what you have set to do.All the very best to you.
@xiaovivien (154)
• China
10 Oct 07
I think married life is better,because after you are married you will not feel lonely,but now I choose being single,I have found my true love,I want to have a marriage with a boy I love very much,the boy is not appear,I am waitting now.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
9 Oct 07
there are so many varied opinion in this respect.
there is question of personal freedom and also hassel of married life.
For some, they find married life yo be better and some just like their single status.
Nowadys women no more need to marry just to be secured financuially as more and more women have successful carers.
Also in most cases women are supposed to make the sacrifice in marriage.
It depends on perasonal choice.
@sugarbabe (114)
• Fiji
8 Oct 07
It's not about freedom. Married life can be blissful too if both the partners are compatiable and there is trust and understanding between both of them. Yes, many people tend to stay single nowdays because of the changing life-styles and perspectives of individuals. Everyone needs a companion at one stage in thier life therefore it's hard to stay single.
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@furqanoops (363)
• Pakistan
30 Sep 07
i would love to spend the marriage life against single because in marriage life you find your life partner who always try to keep you happy and you also try to keep him now we are in young age and we spend our time in friends but we will become older then no one will think about us but if that time are married we both will spend our last yers togather
@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
10 Oct 07
I will talk based on my experienced. For me married life is much better than remain single. i do enjoy my singlehood for 27 years. It was fun and i was able to do everything i wanna do. Noiw that I am married, I may say that I am enjoying it more, although I have few time for myself now, but my hubby and our children are enough to be happy. Their love and affection makes my heart and mind be contented.
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@islandrose (686)
• Philippines
27 Sep 07
I have friends who stayed being single because they don't want to live their life making adjustments with husbands. What they did, they adopt or cared their nephews, nieces like their child. I saw them happy and felt contented seeing their "borrowed" child/ren reaping success in life. In return, these children cared their foster single parent until old age. But woe to single individuals who cannot reap cares from their "borrowed" children. Life is mesirable to others especially during old age.
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@prazad (281)
• India
10 Oct 07
its depends on the society you are living in. Because in some society they will be curious to no why you are single and they dont want to you be single even if you like so. If you ahve a lots of friends and you like to be single means better you stay single. but you feel alone and there is not much friends i suggest you to get married
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@coolcatzz (1587)
• Canada
10 Dec 06
Many may disagree with me but here is my input. I had been married for 18 years. Not a bad marriage at all. We got along and never really had any problems. But for the last few years we had started to grow apart. Just wanted to do different things. Anyways we split up two years ago. I thought my life was over but you know what I am so happy. I love being on my own with my kids. I love making my own choices and doing what I want to do. We still talk and we care for eachother deeply. I don't think there is a thing he wouldn't do for me. I'll always love him but I am so much happier. I guess it's hard for some to understand until you have been there. I just feel so at peace. My kids seem happier too. My son is 18 and my daughter is almost 10.
I'm not saying I would not like to meet someone at some point and maybe just have a companion but that's it. I will never get married again or live with someone. I like being my own boss.
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@biggerb (2024)
• India
25 Sep 07
Hi!coolcatzz
Sorry for responding after such a long interval.I just got going with mylot.Thanks for responding.I do appreciate your views.You were happily married and now you seem to enjoy being your own boss.You have taken a bold step to pursue what you would like instead of being tied down.Enjoy your life and have a nice time.Good luck to you.