Confronting 3rd parties

I don't think it's right to confront third parties. Discuss first with your spouse and then if it goes nowhere, then lay out your plans.

I think it depends on whether you and your spouse can sort things out. My feeling is that you should try talking first, to see whether you can resolve things without outside help. Failing that, mention to your spouse that you don't feel your chats are getting you anywhere and advise her/him that you wish to discuss it with a third party. Invite them along, don't be secretive, and if they don't want to come, at least you've expressed your desire to get things back on track, and rather with their knowledge of what's happening than without. If they choose not to join you on visiting the third party, then that's their loss, not yours. But, give them a chance and don't confer with a third party behind their back. Good luck. :-)

Usually 3rd persons are not the ones that they are to blaim for the problems in a relationship or in a marriage. I did confronted once the lover my husband had. She said that my husband had told her he was in divorce settlements with me. So, she waas innocent, you know! My husband was a scump!

Hi! I would not confront the third person. In my opinion, the spouse is to blame and should be held accountable.