Do you reward your children for bringing home good grades?
By Aali311
@Aali311 (6112)
United States
18 responses
@rherdey (966)
• United States
19 Sep 06
Well I use to and for the bad grades, would sit down and talk about what we can do to get them better. I find with some things better to leave the bad alone and just look at what can be done to improve the situation so next time it is improved and find with doing this just not the top of expectation from them but little they do much more of inprovement and feel much better about it.
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@slimfox (900)
• United States
21 Sep 06
when my son brings home his report card he gets money for a's b's and c's..... d's he got nothing and f's he had to pay us..as far as grades on his work..if he did good we would praise him and if he had bad grades we would be like you know you could have down better and i dont want to see these types of grades..
@thatdevildude (377)
• India
21 Sep 06
i dont have children but i wouldnt punish them for bad grades id encourage them to study harder but id surely reward their good grades..its good to provide incentives for gettin them
all this hwen i have children that is
@blessonje (1651)
• India
21 Sep 06
Yup parents always love to see their child doing well..The punish them to make them better
@krishna183 (2284)
• India
20 Sep 06
im 20 yrs old and a long way from having kids .. but let me tell you my parents never rewarded me for achieving anything in school or college .. instead , they always made me realise the importance of all those achievements in my own life .. they made me realise that its not for them that i need to do it .. but its for myself that i need to do it .. and i can never tell you how much i respect my parents for this .. coz i think thats the best way of parenting .. today i know my responsibilties .. my ambitions and their importance to me .. so i wud never reward my child if ever he she brings good grades home .. instead i would congratulate my kid and make him feel really special about himself .. and if u feel that mine is the right way to go .. feel free to give me a best response :-)
@chalmette69 (3007)
• United States
20 Sep 06
Yes, my daughter gets prizes for good grades and for bad grades she gets punished, I take her favorite things aways and she loves to go and play with her friends, so I punish her from that is well, it definatly works, because this year she hasn't gotten any bad grades,but if she keeps it up I might run out of prizes,lol
@srinathakarapu (3093)
• India
20 Sep 06
nope......
well..from my experiences from my childhood
i never studied well in school untill i learnd things and developed my conscience first...
if u say to a child tat get good marks then i'll give u a gift.. his whole area of concentration will be on the gift rather than the subjects, he may neglect them and may even fall for copying from books are friends..this wont develop him instead leans him towards failures
as a parent we must enlight him in his way about the world and why we must learn , wat happens if we wont learn..etc
may be this is a slow process but i think this is the write one
and should not physically punish for bad grades but we sould take some time to see where he lacks and try to make him avoid tat..
physical punishments would be given when he lacks the morals of this world and if he is not in our contol at all
tatz wat i think...coz a childhood is the age he must treasure the moments to cherish them later..its the life where we enjoy alot..we cannot go back to our childhood..
@kashezmommy (154)
• United States
20 Sep 06
Rewards for good grades are nice, but it shouldnt be something such as if you get an A gou get $20 because then there only working hard for the money and not for an education. Rewards shouldnt be mandated they should be given when a parent feels there child deserves something extra special because they have continually done well. Punishment for bad grades makes it worse, if your child brings home bad grades you should talk with them about why there bad and continue to monitor there grade throughout the rest of the year, offer help in those subjects or suggest after school study or a tutor. punishmen twill not resolve bad grades... believe me i know... just makes you want 2 rebel
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
20 Sep 06
I always reward my son whenever he comes home with good grades. It is happening for the last 8 years. The only thing he asks is Books. We love to buy books for him and he reads it.
No we do not punish him when he comes home with bad grades? We sit together and analyse the reason for award of lesser grade and find out ways to improve and make my son understand that he should fare well next time.
@MrsFrizzle (1963)
• United States
20 Sep 06
I do not have children so I am not sure what I would do yet. However when I was growing up I got praised for good grades and a good stren talking to when I got bad grades. I was an average student usaly got C's a few A's in my electives and I did fail a class or 2. On the other hand my husbands parents where not mean but he was punished for bad grades and he was rewared with gifts and money for good grades and he was a straight A student. I remeber one time in high school he got a C in Gym class and he started freaking out that he would get in trouble but his parents said it was gym cass and just to try as hard as you can and that is all that matters. So yeah I don't know what I would do...
@jetlady (338)
• Philippines
20 Sep 06
I have no children but I have a niece and a nephew who are in Grade School or Elementary, and, yes, I do reward them for bringing home good grades, or if they perform poorly in school I withdraw something from them to make them do better the next time, like reduce their tv watching or computer games sessions during weekends.
Children should be taught how to value their education while still young.