Why do many women insist on having weddings that are beyond their means?

*I* think it's not worth it for me for sure. I could do so many things I'd rather do with that money - travel, buy a new wardrobe (or five lol), invest, save, new computer, whatever. But some girls dream about it forever and they want it to look nice, they want a lot of people, they want a good photographer, a decent dj, and good food... that adds up to $10 000 SO FAST it's crazy. I mean... 10 grand is FAIRLY cheap. All on a credit card though? Bah. Maybe they just don't understand finances!

I agree that some women go over the top. My sister is getting married in March and she's just having a very small private ceremony in the morning with just family, followed by a champagne lunch (again just family). It just seems lovely and sweet and intimate - just what a wedding should be. I'm not sure why some women go over the top - I think they are exhibitionists and somehow think it's really important that they have all the trimmings.

For women, I think the basic idea behind it is that it is a special day that will be remembered for the rest of their lives. It is a day they will feel like cinderella and they want everything to be perfect. But some go over board. Really the most important parts that most people have are flowers, dress, food, and pictures. Some people make them more extravagent than others. For the food most people have little, light finger foods. But there are those who have to be extravagent and can't have just finger foods they must have a lobster dinner. I guess it depends on the person. There are many ways to cut corners and find bargains and save lots of money on a wedding. It can be done for as little as $3,000 or can go up in the millions. It depends on if they are trying to impress people or want to act high class or if they just want a normal wedding. But whether they spend a few thousand or millions, they are still married just the same.