How much control you should keep to teenagers ?

Releasing teens into the world is only best done a little a time. If you ask them to split the cost of a car with you instead of giving them a car, it will help them realize the value of property and also give them self worth. Sometimes it will take longer for them to acquire a car this way, and in this way you can avoid the problems and headaches associated with a teen who can get in the car and go anywhere, possibly into trouble.

they should be given as much freedom as possible so that they can get aquanted with outer world becomes easy wiyh girls &boys.if you don't do that then a reverse impression wil be created in their mind.

You should always set limits, for any age child, even a teenager. You know your child best, and you should never give them more rein than they can handle. Give them their freedoms, but you also need to check up on them to make sure they are living within their limits. It isn't a trust matter, it is a life matter. They can quickly be going down the wrong road due to peer pressure. Check to see that they are where they say. If they break your trust knuckle down and restrict their freedom for a while. Then you can try again, but never blindly trust children.

You should not be too strick on them in their teens. You should deal with this thinking in their shoes. Think what you did in your teens and how your parents behaved with you and do accordingly. If you think this way, i feel there won't be any conflicts with them or tussle with them.

i think it depends on the child. if you feel your teen has displayed maturaty and your able to trust them, then you should let them be on their own. if their responsible and you know they can make the right desisions, then trusting them is the best thing. if you've raised you teen correctly, then you question their judgment, then you're questioning them...and that could hurt them, and make them more rebelious. if you trust them, then they'll make the right desisions. but thats depending on them...if they display bad behavior, then you should limit their the amount of control they have. until they can prove it to you that they deserve it.

its not about control, its about teaching them priciples! once the understand what is right and what is wrong im sure they wont cross the line! i dont think you can do anything else without messing up you relationship!

i'm a young man , so i don't have any experience on parenting. But asa far as i know in this time a teenagers most desred thing is freedom. so be friendly with . talk to him like a friend. Be his friend and give your advises in that way......Hope i had my best view

I dread the Teenage years,,lol..I know that me and his father were both very very teens untill way in the upper 20's lol and i feel that he doesnt have a chance hehe...And it also depends on each child..its all going to depends onhow much trust i have in him at that time.,some kids need to have a strickter leash than others,,but if he gives me no reason to not trust him..I will be more laid back in my rules than if hes a wild child,..or a rebel without a CLUE! lol..

I think you should check on them without them knowing. When my daughter was young, i would check on things she did, but she never knew. You need to give some freedom, but you have to draw a line, today parents think they need to be their kids friends.

My son is a 'new' teenager LOL he turned 13 in October and so far so good..we butt heads on occasion but thats to be expected....I give him his freedom to an extent but he is well aware of what I expect from him in order for him to be allowed that freedom and he knows what I'm like when i get ticked off so he's a good boy ;-)

I would say... The teenagers should have some freedom of their own to make some of the dicisions of their own about their live and the carrer... they need time to enjoy time with their friends. This is the most crucial part of their life and at this stage the faith of the person is decided and what he going to be in his future and therefore it is one of the most precious also... So I would also say the parents should have some control and should keep an eye up their teenaged childrens so that they do not take th wrong path and help them decide whenever you feel like they are not been able to.. you should now act like a frind more then like father or mother... it will ease the situations for both of you;

TEENAGER S SHOULD BE LEFT OF THEIR OWN THEY SHOULD SEE THE WORLD AND UNDERSTAND LIFE,FROM PITFALLS ONLY THEY WILL GET KNOW ABOUT,ALSO THEY SHOULDNT BE BUGGED WITH WHAT TO DO AND WHAT NOT TO,COS OUT OF CURIOUSITY THEY ARE GONNA DO THAT ONLY.AS THE SAYING GOES "WE DONT NEED NO EDUCATION".

My teenager is 13 and so far she has proven to have a pretty good head on her shoulders. She pulls away from kids that turn the wrong way. She knows what's safe and what isn't. At this point I think I can trust her. Now, my 10 year old? She's another story. I worry about when she is a teenager.

i dont know how to keep in control the teens because i am also in teenage. i think parents must not rub pressure on them they should try to be close as possible and friendley to them thats wat i can say

yes, it's really the most challenging period for parents - teenage period. i just keep good communications with my son, i don't push things and ideas, i just tell him and explain why and why not, and then prepare myself to catch him if he falls due to disobedience :)

Have they earned the trust? If they're good kids, get good grades, then yes - loosen up on the control. If you clamp down too much, you may have a rebellion on your hands. Teens needs guidelines and **consistent** discipline. You have to allow them some space be their own person, but it's your house, your rules too. Don't be afraid to enforce the rules. You are the parent, NOT their friend. Your job as a parent is to raise them to be adults that can function in the real world. Not the easiest job to do, but the most rewarding I think.

I had three daughters all in their teens at the same time. What I did was set boundries, some could bend a bit others were inmovable. The teen years are the years where a child should be practicing making choices, hopefully good ones. Control should not be an issue. Respect boundries, offer options, hope they learned that all choices should be examined carefully and be informed of all possible outcomes.

i have 2 teenage boys, they were good kids, both were academic but not geeks, everything was fine until my younger son had a girlfriend, joined the varsity team and putting his academics on the bottom list of his priorities. i wish i could put a leash on him, but i can't. i try to communicate with him as often as possible, if he does something wrong or comes home late without notice, i grit my teeth, count one to ten, inhale and exhale then nicely ask "hey, where have you been kiddo?", all the while my insides are churning in anger. when he goeson basketball practice while 99% of his classmates aer studying inside the classroom, i smile, ask him to hand me a piece of pen and paper, write a permission letter to his teachers, make sure his training gear's all packed and drive him to school, drop him to the basketball court, wave goodbye and say "avoid getting injued, honey, take it easy! see you at lunch!". there are times when i would just snap and apply more force, you know, just to get him back on track and to remind him that mommy is a nice person but she won't be abused. it's tough... really tough... but i was once a teenager and my dad was never the diplomatic type. he dealt with all teenage "idiosyncracies" like a madman and the end result wasn't so good, so i am trying to do the opposite. nevertheless, there are times when you just have to put your foot down and trust our instincts, they'll tell you when it's teh right time. :)

well when i would become a mother i would be free with my children during their teens! i would discuss everything with them and teach them the pros and cons of life. what are the dreadful things that they might face if they do not follow certain principals. i would also take them into my confidence so that even if they commit some mistake they can come out of it with my help.

teenage is a very difficult age for the parents as well as t5he children.i llok up at my teengae and wonder why did i do all those things. at that point of time yoy just dont think.you will have to control your child a bit else things will go out of hand.