Enlightening relationship...spiritual divorce

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If you read the subject line of this Discussion, you're probably thinking, "Huh? What could possibly be spiritual about a divorce?" It's true -- these words are not commonly seen together. Usually those that accompany "divorce" run more along the lines of "bitter," "messy," "devastating," "hostile," and almost always, "expensive." Research definitely slides down the slippery slope of the negative terms -- studies show that the stress and long-term effects of the heartbreaking trauma of divorce take an average of four years off a person's life -- contributing to heart disease, cancer, and immune problems. It says our divorce rate is actually far higher than many of us have been told (as high as 67% according to a thirty year marriage study by The Gottman Institute of Seattle, Washington)and that the prospect of your second happy union ending in a morass of legal and emotional drama in front of a judge is (gulp!) even higher (as is the cumulative negative fallout to your health and mental well-being). So much of it seems to be the process of divorcing itself. Never a simple, "It seems we've done all we were meant to do together. Let's move on. Thanks for everything."