how do i deal with this friend of mine??

If she is a good friend to you then regardless of what she does behing close doors should effect you. That is between her and her fiancee! She problitly didnt want to tell you because deep in heart she knew it was wrong in the first place thats why she stepped up and told on herself. Sometimes people put lust in front of love, which is horrible but true. They dont what they have until its gone! I think if you call yourself a friend you would be there no matter what. I know it hurts you that she didnt tell you but sometimes things like that happen. I think the you to shoul talk it out, she didnt do nothing wrong to you to hurt except hide her personally buisness. If she would have told you, you would have scolded her and told her that it is wrong, and when a person is doing wrong they dont want to be told that it is wrong, so the keep it to themselve! If you fell deep in your heart that you cant forgive her then dont, but I think that she might lose her fiancee, and she might need you the most now, I pretty sure she has learned her lesson on from this!

there is actually none of us who has not made a mistake in life,the greatest power in life that makes humans immortal is FORGIVENESS..you can always give her a second,third,etc chance until you see a change in her..THATS LOVE

well you shouldn't turn your back on her. even tho she lied to you about it, it wasn't nothing that she did to you, she was probably just telling you the rumor wasn't true because she thought you would turn your back on her just like everyone else did when they found out. talk to her and tell her that when something like that comes up, she can talk to you about it and trust you with it and that you will be there for her.

she mistakes everyone does but thay repent and they come to u try to forgive her.. tell hear learly what ever happened is happened try to forget it and let start a new relation ship ... so that she would under stand ur kind heart...may be even if she is not changed also these kinda of pleasing words makes her heart melt and definately she will be faithful to u..

give it a bit more time and discuss out your fellings with her. if her answersand explanations seem genuine to you, the problem is resolved. but if she tries to mislead you then you need to get things straightened out even if it means loosing your friend.

sit and have a dialogue with your friend and try to understand his/her point of view.

if you both are best friend then i should say that what u do is wrong.you should not left her just becoz she make a mistake.in this moment you should be around her and cheer her up, also you can talk to her nicely to not doing the same mistake again.thats what friends are for.you should have abig heart in some cases with your friends problem

well looks like she has finally come to terms with the wrong doings she has been doin lately... and realised her mistakes...now that she has no frends and no respect from anyone and all her frends have turned their backs to her i dont think it wud be wise for u to leave her in this situation but u can always sit down with her and tell her whats on ur mind and confront her...rather than hiding things from each other and tell her that if this happens another time it wud definately take away all the respect u have for her from u !!

You have to talk to her seriously. Don't show that you also mad at her. As your friend you were there to comfort her. What confusement and problems she had, you are the one whom she can count on. Show your concern but let her realized the right way to face the consequences.

i think she mush hav had a lesson from the ignornce she had bn experinceing fro her frens... she must hav had enough of punishment...if she accepts her mistakes... thn it s better to b frenly wid her and make her feel comfortable...

It's not your place to judge her nor is it your place to tell her how to live her life. However you should be able to be honest with your friends. You shouldn't have to bite your tongue out of fear that you might upset/offend her. So if it really does bug you then I think you should say something. Just make sure you word it as nicely as possible & without sounding like you're telling her how to behave.

This really is between her and her fiancee. There is no reason she needs to tell you about it. If you are her friend, be her friend. It doesn't matter what others say. They have their own problems too, but probably aren't telling them either.

What done is done,every person commits mistakes.She`s alone now nd you are the only person she knows she can turn to so i guess you need to be there for her..she needs you now.

My advice would be to be honest with her, but ultimately, realize that what she does with her life is HER business. I had to learn this the hard way with a good friend of mine. She was seeing several men at the same time, and one of them was a very sweet guy. I knew he was being taken for a ride, so I told him she was seeing other people. The fallout afterwards made me realize that although we love our friends, and we can tell them that we think their decisions are wrong, we ultimately need to let them do what they're going to do and learn from their own mistakes. If you are real friend to her, be there to catch her when she falls. :)

What she did to her fiancee should not effect your friendship because you were not the one dating her. Her love life should not be a concern to you only how she treats YOU should be. She may not have told you for fear of your reaction, you can't blame her for that. It isn't your business anyway so she shouldn't be expected to tell you. If you value friendship with her you should simply move past this incident and stick with her as a friend. She probably needs you right now. You would be a good person to not allow this situation to turn you away from her.

Your friend needs your friendship. That does not mean that you compromise your morals or standards. She knows where you stand. Are you faithful in your relationships? I am assuming you are or this would not bother you for her to be such a deceiver. I might listen, more than I would talk, because if she already feels guilty, she will work it out herself. I am sure that some of your customs are different than some around here, so you will have to judge if being her friend really hurts your reputation.

i dont see keeping a secret a betrayal.i think she has the right to keep the things she wanted for herself.i dont either see her as an opportunist for having dating another guy.she's not married yet & she has all the right to keep on looking arnd while she's not married.what's the big deal about it,anyway??if u-r a real friend,then u shld be the last one to judge her =)

well everyone makes mistakes dear... if u r sure tht ur pal has turned a new leaf, then go ahead and forgive her and try to make others to tlk to her

my dear friend, u shoul forgive her and tell her thet u're hurting

If i would be u,i would have made a discussion with her that she never will commit this rubish again,and i will definately be with her.