Depression and Denial

If you are depressed and crying for more then a few weeks you may need to look into taking an antidepressant, especially if anxiety accompanies the blue feeling. I was born with a predisposition for anxiety and depression and I have to take medication. Before I took meds I would cry over nothing and feel very anxious and nervous. If you decide to go that route it's best if you start by seeing an endicrinologist. Good luck to you.

I'm not sure if this is teh answer to your problem, but have you ever given a thought to trying meditation? sometimes, we get so bogged down in life by the everyday things that we lose focus of hte bigger picture. I recently got very much involved with medittation and I find i'm a happier person, I seem to want to do more and I seem to ahve a lot more time on my hands whereas I always felt rushed and agitated before. Im not saying its all changed, but its definitely improved and if you can get someone to guide you through the process, I think you'll definintely benefit.

Besides going to the doctor, maybe you could start taking a class, like a yoga class. It's a similar idea to meditation - it'll give you something to help focus your thoughts when you're feeling depressed, because you can always do a position and just sit and breathe. My husband was starting to get depressed. He felt like his life was out of control and going nowhere. I got him a pet. (A fish). It gives him feelings of control, and helps him to relax. I hope you find a way to make yourself feel the way you want to feel.

I just did a quick read through of this discussion. You say you know you are depressed, or at least are pretty sure you are. You are pinning your depression on your weight, but the reverse may be true, you may be heavy because you are depressed--what a vicious cycle. You said your dad suffered from depression, so that means that there is a genetic component, perhaps. Depression can be reactive--something bad happens, you get depressed. It can be biochemical, that is just how you are, it is a shortage of neurotransmitters, etc. First step is to see a doctor, get a complete workup--there may be a medical issue like thyroid disorder or insulin resistance that keeps you heavy. Take heart, sometimes antidepressants help people lose weight as they get to feeling better about themselves. There are Christian weight loss groups, and groups that are public service that help provide support for people wanting to live a healthier lifestyle. I have read that most successful dieters use a daily diet journal--you might try writing down what you eat, so you can compare your mood swings with any diet trend. A friend of mine found a lot of good help in a book called Sugar Blues, I believe. Published by Rodale Press. Same friend also just found out that she has a bunch of food allergies, and is dropping weight by just avoiding those foods, because they cause inflammation and swelling. There is hope, keep up with your myLot friends. Seek out other support people who will love you. and most of all get that complete physical. I have had experience with family members and close friends who have had clinical depression, and it just hurts.

Have you ever tried the medication or psychotherapi or talk therapi. here the good news is that depression is very treatable. Most patients, even those with severe depression, show improvement after they seek treatment. Your doctor will prescribe treatment based on the pattern of your depression, its severity, persistence of symptoms, and history. Antidepressant medications work for many people—they can make you feel better, and can improve or completely relieve your symptoms. But sometimes people have unrealistic fears or expectations about them. Some hope to feel better overnight; others worry that medications will change their personalities in ways they won't like. Both extremes are unlikely. The first step towards getting better and staying better is to take your medication exactly as prescribed by your doctor. Here are some treatment tips to keep in mind: * It takes time for antidepressants to work. Although you may start to feel better within a couple of weeks, the full antidepressant effect may not be seen for several weeks. It is important to be patient and give the medicine a chance to work. * Once you feel better, it is important to keep taking your antidepressant for as long as your doctor tells you to. Continued use, if recommended by your doctor, can help lower your chances of becoming depressed again in the future. * Although some people only become depressed once, others—especially those who have been depressed before or have several risk factors—may need longer term treatment with medication.

yeah dear i dnot know if you have heard abot YOGA all you have to do is try this thing out it will definatly help you a lot for sure if you dnt koe any thing bout this yoga stuff then i'll help you out you are welcome thank you gaurav

i have the same problems and i was diagonosed with depression. see a doctor, they can help you with this =)

pennycan (((HUGS ))) Ican understand how you feel but you need to talk to someone how you feel .You may need some help from your doctor to get through this .If you need to loose somw weight try cutthing back on the amout you eat to atart with but do`n do it drastically eat smaller meals more frequently try planning each day what you will eat the next and set certain times when you eat them .In between find something to keep you occupied wether it be going for a walk ( it can be a slow ones to start with then increase it as you feel a bit better) garden ,clean the bathroom what ever . You may need medication to help you .but you have the support of a caring hubby there let him help take him walking with you it will do the both of you some good and together you will get through it .I wish you luck

This is nothing to be ashamed of. I, too, have the same. I have had depression for a few years now. They finally put me on Zoloft, a medicine that helps depression. First I'd recommend seeing someone about your depression. Get help and on some sort of meds, trust me it helps. i'm also 5'2 and weigh approx 170, so I know how you feel. I'm glad to see your husband supportive, have him go with you to talk to a doctor.

The first thing I think you should do is visit your doctor and tell him what you just told us. Ask him to prescribe an antidepressant that will also help for anxiety. It will take a few days for you to feel better. Once you are feeling better you might feel more like dieting and exercising to help your weight. There is nothing wrong with taking antidepressants. How old is your daughter though. It could be post natal blues. But your doctor will know that. All the best and take care!

Talk to your doctor about this. It is possible there is an underlying medical reason for the weight gain and/or the depression. For instance, a hypoactive thyroid can cause both as well as additional problems like depression and anxiety. At least it is a start... but even if it turns out you have thyroid disease, medication alone will not make you lose (much) weight. But you will FEEL better, which in turn may be all you need to find motivation to become fit. Good luck.

Exercise. I know it is the last thing on your mind to do but it really does help. It is scientifically proven to release endorphins into the bloodstream. The more you do it the more you will crave it because you will realize that you get a boost afterwards. The more you crave it the more you will do it. The thing about exercise is the amazing side effects. You look great. You glow. You have energy. Much better than the side effects of Prosac.

Man you just gotta suck it up and exercise. I know it's gonna be hard, but don't think of it that way. Think of it as the way your going to be more attractive in this based on looks world.

While others will say different hings to hepl cheer you and give you better ideas to llose weight or help the drepression on low days, i offer a betters solution one that starts with you and one the ends with you. the trick is that you must find your reason for living, im not just saying say something that sounds right, i heard once to sit down in complete silense, nobody around, no music no noise and write the question down "what is my life meaning" now write answers, dont think just write down answers no matter how weird or anything, but keep doing this, it may take you 20 minutes it may take you 5 hours or days, it sowrh it. just keep writing aswer after answer they may be 1 word they may be a paragraph...when you get too your true meaning your feel different and possibly cry, something tha reaches down into you and pulls out your guts feeling...thats the meanign, with you new equiped meaning of oyu life, follow your meaing and do that excersise for that meanig givemeanig and reasons to imnprove your life, and it will, theres no point in doing anytihng with your life if you dont know why you here on earth...

Dearest pennycan, Please listen to your body's rhythms and go outside for long walks! :) Sleep when the body demands it. Drink plenty of water, too. Be sure that you are getting the minerals that you need... a visit to your doctor for some bloodwork can help you. Also contact your local university to see if they are conducting depression studies and ask if you could join them. I believe in that in taking some type of positive action- like walking a mile or two each day and seeing different scenery and hearing different sounds and maybe talking to different people will break these down cycles you are having... I've seen your picture and in my opinion, your hubby is a lucky guy! :) Be well! :)

Sweetie, you're not alone. I have gone through tough emotional times too and the best thing I did was go to a counselor. I really did feel better just by talking to someone who was uninvolved and who could be objective. I hope you will do it. This time of year is especially trying. Keep us updated and you can always find a friend here if you need one.

Well, at least you can see the light fickling at the end of the tunnel. You admit you have a wonderful life. Now you need to hold onto the faith. Your husband cannot help you and they always feel they can. You need to seek professional counseling and get to the root of your unhappiness. There is a void in all of our lives. It was placed there for a specific reason, for us to seek Christ and fill that space abundantly. There is always someone else in a worse situation. Sometimes it's hard to see that because we cannot see pass I. Go get a physical so that you can control your weight. Im sure your child would love to have you around as long as possible. Your husband needs you to get well. You are also abusing your child by exposing them to this behavior. Do not look back on life and wish you would have did this differently.

well you will have to stop thinking about this weight problem of yours.and you have to do it by yourself.i know a lot of people who know that they are fat but they are not worried about it and are enjoying their life to the fullest.of course you have to do weight reducing programes and all along eith it.belive me its not a reason to get depressed about.

you need to consult with psychologist.

Maybe its not your weight that you are being depressed about, maybe there is something else. Or you are not doing enough about loosing your weight. I have a friend who weighs more than you do and she is only 5" in height, she works it out, she has a goal and everytime she meets that it makes her happy, she is being patient about her loosing some weight. You cnt loose weight rapidly specially if you dont have all the machines and personal trainers, but doing it gradually and actually meeting your own personal goal of weight to loose it might make you happy. try it, this might work it worked with my friend. she is happy ( she use to be depressed because she could not accept the fact that she can only loose this much weight, but she is loosing weight it might not be that significant but it is constant when she realized that it made her happy)