Really need advice. I am lost.

I feel for you... I really I do. Love should be a natural thing and when you find the "one" you really care for, then you should be able to decide between you what your future is. I know you went into the relationship knowing what would become of it, but I sense an element of hope in your setting out on this relationship. I don't know what religion you both are, but if this is a family thing, I don't think there is much you can do about it. In most of the families I know who have those beliefs, there is much respect between parents and children, especially females. They are brought up knowing that one day they will have a marriage arranged for them and that they have no alternative but to follow it through to avoid the risk of complete alienation from their family. When you said she was a little flushed when talking about the proposal, it could be that she was embarrased at having to talk to you about it, and trying to stay cheerful so that you wouldn't get downhearted... or maybe the guy is rich and a good prospect with a very attractive dowry... I don't know, but take it from me, she must care for you, or she wouldn't have told you at all. The two tears? Well, maybe she was all cried out... who knows what went on within the family before she told you? And yes, of course she meant it when she said she loved you, with tears in her eyes. Imagine her feelings, knowing that one day she would have to walk away from you, when deep down it was you she loved... wouldn't that have brought tears to your eyes? Also, how do you know she didn't even try... were you there? She may have been under all sorts of pressures from her family, and wanting to do the right thing by them. Have you considered that? Your assumption that girls "just carry on like that", is totally wrong. Religions and cultures differ so greatly that these things happen when they get mixed. Not that I'm against it, for I think if you truly love somebody then that is all... you need to be together. However, I will not knock anybody's religion. Yes, I think you should stay friends with her, but in the meantime, try to occupy yourself with something to take your mind off what's happened between you. This happened to me once... an arranged marriage parted me from somebody I loved dearly. I know how much it hurts, but you can't change things now. They will go ahead, as the family wishes. You now have to get your life back and put this down to experience. Yes, it will take time, but somebody else will come along at some point and you will heal. I wish I could give you a big hug right now... I have tears in my eyes writing this. I just know what you're going through... the ecstasy you experienced when you were with her, and now the agony of having her torn from you. Let go a little but don't hate her for what she has to do. Stay her friend, but branch out a little... find more friends, male and female and one day, you will find things were never as bad as they seem right now. I hope this helps you. Bless you... take care.

Look friend what i know is that there are so many religions in this world,some allow marriage with other religion followers,while some not....the reason which i responded is that to convey you ma message "DONT EVEN THINK OF NEGLECTING UR RELIGIOUS ORDERS" if only understand that, coz thatz the worst a man can do! Am sorry if i have gone harsh, but thats what i personally feel

I think she is just scared and confused...If you love her..then you need to tell her that...and tell her not to marry this other guy....and how you feel. I am sure she feels the same way..but maybe she is feeling pressured from her family...She needs to talk to them..maybe you could go with her..and tell them that she cares for you....and see what happens....

you are not the first one to face failure in love! you are still young and I'm sure you're gonna be able to get over this experience..I think its better not to see her again, you must put an end immedately to this relationship,afterall you said it had no future,so its better now than later on!! just be strong enough not to contact her again.. and I'm sure you'll find a girl who's more suitable for you..your girl was not deceivig you, she is just too young to know what she really wants..and soon you both will forget and start all over again.. but help yourself by not contacting each other again.. it will be hard in the beginning, but you will forget! believe me!!

If she really loved you she would follow that and do what it took to be with you. If she is excited about this other proposal, you may want to just walk away. It may be hard, but you'll get through it.

I think the girl is quite practical. she knew from the very beginning that the relationship wudny end up in marriage. but for the time being she needed a support that every girl needs. and thts why ur love happened in the first place. now you shud be practical and face the situation because you yourself know the fact but are not able to agree on it. she was just your good friend and nothing else.

first of all i thnk that girls are much more practical than us guys.they can really think and plan their life that way.now as to the question as to whether this girl loved you or not only she can answer that.why don't you ask her that? now regardiong your situation,the girl could have decided practically that tyhere is no future for the two of you and could have decided to move on.i think that it is time for you to do two things.first of all have a heart to heart talk with her.then it is time for youi to move on as well. http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/relationships/broken_heart.html http://www.howtohealyourbrokenheart.com/ http://www.quotegarden.com/heartache.html

please...if you really love her why do you have to care about the religion,,

It's really tragedic. It's hard for her to oppose her family wish, but it's still possible. It all depend on how much she love you. And if you love her deep enough, you could try to confront her family (provided that she love u as much too) and propose to her before it's too late. If she is not confident with the relationship with you, then the best way is to let her go. To love her, not necessary to own her.

I do think she loves you. i think she is just scared and afraid to let her family down., i am guessing that the relationship/marriage is arranged and maybe she is afraid to speak up and tell them about you. Give her time, maybe she will come around, and if she doesn´t therewill be other love for you.. I do feel for you, to get your heart broken is never fun=/

If you really love her let her go and be happy in what she is happy ;)

i understand, that you are broken just now. she seems not to have the emotions like you, so enjoy having had a good time, but ending now. there will be another good time, perhaps a better time with a real loving girl. best wishes.

She really doesn't love you. That is the fact. Accept it and think in this way,"If she really doesn't want me why should I stick to her?" There are so many girl in this world. And definitely you will get another girl to love. Then why should you spend your time for a girl who doesn't love you? Think that it was all in a dream and that dream is over. Now you are in real world. You should come to the real world and live. Marriage is a contract. Any contract will function with the basics of ethics, love, affection, a tendency to willingly accept the other person wholeheartedly. If these qualities are lacking it is better not to have that contract and bonding. So forget about it and think of any girl who really loves you. You can find out one easily. Best of luck.

hey..am so sorry..i can understand what u r going through. life can be so hard sometimes. but its better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. u r much wiser now. let her go when she's not worth u. cry ur heart out,dont keep it all bottled up inside. but wipe ur tears and move on. there is so much of life ahead of u. u will surely find a girl who loves u for what u r..all the best..

maybe she is being forced by her parents to take the proposal because he is the same relogion and her parents are against different religions.I am sure she still loves you but her parents wont let you two have a life together and she cant be alone for her whole life so she moved on.it does not mean she never loved you.I would goand talk to her and see why she accepted when she said she loved you.tell her how you feel.maybe her parents wouldnt give her some time.no it is not like girls to just carry on like this it probably hurts her so she is trying to hide her feelings for you to pretend to be happy.

i am very sory to here this.but never say that all girls are the same.i say no one r so .but i dont agree that all girls r so .i will tell u the situation wat my bestfriend had.my friend and her love both r in deep love since 4 yrs .but as my friend related once said to her that if u marry him i will definitely kill him and he is a big vilan in real life too.so she made herself hated by him by acting that she loved another one in front of him.so that he may think that she cheated him.so he may realise within some days and marry another girl and she really want him to b happy forever and ever so there r situatiuons like this so never say anything without konwing all the facts.

if she really loved you she certainly would have made some effort to be with you and not jumped for the first proposal that came her way. its time to give yourself a brrreak and get away from this nonsense, and there is no reson for you to feel ackward or bad when you move out of this mess, cos you are doing the right thing. and not all girls are like that, there will certainly be a day when you will find a better match.

i have similar problem. my boyfriend has another religion and he said that we can be with each other 3 more years becuz thrn his family will take care of him, and he can do nothing if he oppose his family then will be expelled, and will have to way back there. i know they will like to find him wife, but he promissed me that he wont marry to anyone. its hard to live like this but i understand him, and if u feel it is the one, then stick to her. u never know what is going to happen. be her friend, and support her maybe she just didnt want u to show how much he suffers. noone knows what was in her heart.

well i read about urs life, its really very hurted, as i too bothered same.... well we n my beloved both were also different religions, i was also gt mad abt tghink of our relation..finally i left,,n now i jus find new frnds n dont think abt back, so its jus sigh of relief from hurtings every moment..so i will same suggest u, if u truely love ur beloved thn plzz go anyhow wth ur frnd otherwise, jus be normal n try to gt busy urself n find more frnds....

Well, i think da girl did not exactly loved u. She was just attracted 2 u. In simple language we call it a crush. I think u shud try 2 move on in life. I know its tough my frnd but u know one thing- being in a relationship is not da only thing in life. There are many other dimensions 2 life. Dont b shattered and dont feel disheartened. just behave normally and try 2 move on in life.