Is it advisable to STAY FRIENDS with our EX's

For me, i dont think it is necessary to be friends with him/her, unless i have business with and we need to friends at all. If not so, i would rather wanna see them anymore and i want them outta my life.

Well, I think for me, I well rather not see them ever. I don't want to be friends with them anymore. I am a jealous person that is why. I don't want my future husband and his x gf of course to be seeing each other again. So I'd rather not be friends with them so there's no reason for us to meet them again. I don't want to sound negative but this is my opinion.

I think it depends on the state of mind of both the persons prevailing currently . The seperation might have been a result of some understanding of the limitations . When they finds that the situation has changed and they feel like loving each other , what is the wrong in being close again ?

This one is kind of complicated, as it depends on what is at stake, the reasons behind the break-up, among other things.Back about maybe 25 years ago, if the break-up was because maybe one was relocating to an en entirely different area, it was expensive & slow to keep in touch, with high costs of long-distance phone calls, & the slowness of mailing a letter. Nowadays, if both have computers, they can stay in touch via IM & email. If the break-up was because of abuse, then they probably should not stay friends, & probably will not happen. At times, if there are children involved, & both do care about them, then that common ground - the welfare of those children - would be a good reason to try to stay friends.

Nooooo.. coz you know that person IS an ex - well, for a reason ! Someone would have to do something really wicked to get 'rid' of me :) so well, i wouldn't wanna talk to anyone who treats me like a doormat. I hate my exes coz they have all hurt me in some way or the other.. i would never wanna even talk to them, let alone be friends.

Weather you like it or not you'll always be friends UNLESS you seperated on a bad note.

For me it would be easier I think to leave the past in the past and move on with your life. When dealing with a spouse and children are involved then thats different and should find a way to stay friends and work through things for the children. You will always have a connection.

for me,i want to stay friends if we broke up in good terms but if not...its better for me to keep on distance to him.

if it's on a mutual decision to break up..it's ok to still keep in touch and be close friends. but if it's a very messy breakup, i think it's better to have a distance in between and never contact each other again.

It would depend on why we broke up. If we broke up because he cheated on me, sorry, I won't be friends with him. If we broke up because of mutual drift apart, we could still stay as friends, but it's a matter of whether we continue to stay in touch or not.

It depends on what you are now.. I mean if you had breoken up for some silly reason & u still love them & u have no one else in ur life who had taken their place after them then, it is advisable to stay friends with them.. You couls possibly forget the break up & make up your relations ship again.. But if u have someone else in your life now.. then i dont think its correct to stay friends with themm It can hurt your new life..

I think it really depends. If you had a bad breakup or really weren't even close to being meant for each other, I doubt it could work. But I think it could work if you were more meant to be friends than lovers or something.

I think you should stay friends with your exes. Thing is a lot of time goes into building a relationship. Even after one part of it breaks it is difficult to totally sever ties on all aspects.

Hi!!! In my case, I'm friends with most of my ex BFs. But before that happened, I really hated some of them cause they cheated on me and I can vividly remember that I told myself that I'll never ever forgive them but it turned out the other way. I'm not really close to them after the break-ups but at least we're okay and civil with each other everytime we meet. You wouldn't believe it but one of my ex BFs whom I was with for 8 years is my officemate now.;) Everything is okay with us now. Today, I have no problem with him even if we parted in a bad way. But before we became friends, there were a lot of rude encounters with him and her present gf. They kinda cheated on me. But that was a long time ago, I've already forgiven them. Honestly, it really depends on you if you still want to be friends with your ex partners/spouses. Being friends with them doesn't necessarily mean that you have to see each other everyday. In my case, I feel good about the idea that I'm friends with most of my ex BFs. But I'm not friends with my last BF cause he doesn't want to. I respect his decision and I can't do anything about that. Erasing them in my life???? Naaaahhhhh!!!! I think that's impossible cause in one way or another, I've learned something from them. We also have shared good times (memories) together so why focus on the bad side, right?;)

I do not see anything wrong with being friends with your ex as I am friends still with my ex-girlfriend. Me and her keep in touch from time to time. We get along great but just did not have that chemistry for something more serious. I certainly would love to see her again but it is not likely since she lives further away and is married and has a child. I would not ever want to forget about her or erase her from my life.

It depends upon why we broke up if he cheated me..NO WAY!i dont wanna see you anymore. But for me better not to be friends..

it's situational. if they do departed in a nice way, i mean with no hurt feelings, i think it's okay for them to remain friends. i see nothing wrong with it. but when when they separated very badly with all those angers and blaming to each other, it would be better if they totally stay away from each other. as for me, my ex's are my friends cause i see to it that when the relationship is over, it would be over to the situation that we discussed our mistakes and we make sure that we learned from it and that we wishes each other the best of luck

It would depend on the relationship. Did it end badly? Are there unresolved feelings? Its best not to be friends with ex's for a while after the breakup.