I got flowers today..(for those who are against domestic abuse)

This is a very good post for anyone who is in an abusive relationship to read. I've never been in such a relationship but apparently they aren't alwayss easy to escape from because the victim faces such denial.

Its beautiful really its hard for us to fight when we re in an abusive relationship. I feel like doing something for these battered women.I have never been in this kind of situation and I have always been determined as hell since my teens that if ever my hubby laid a hand on me I will leave him the very same moment-money or no money.Come onwe are all educated women we may find a job as waitress enough to feed our kids may be not enough for sending them to school but it will still be worth it.At least they will have a mother not a beateb bruised soul to look after them. I think we all should unite and start a movement or something about making aware women all over to say no to such relationships.What do you say all women of my lot will you join in.

Its a touching one......what can I say about this? The power of love!!

Yeah, I have receieved and read this kind of email several times. And it is so touching. I pity the wife in the story and her kids too, for they have found a MONSTER-husband in disguise. You know what, wives that to have this kind of husband and situation shouldn't be afraid of counsulting legal opinions and leaving her husband...for her and kids life are in danger in his hands. If and everthis happends to me, I will definitely leave my oh-so-good husband, then I will put him in blottered and sue him of damages and everything and lastly, i will file a demand and an annulment. No matter what, I will never - ever return back to him .... not even if he begs me to ... no way man. I love myself and kids more than you. So go to hell!!!

This is so true I have to admit that and it should not be happening My Ex hit me a few times and always said sorry then it stopped and I just went through a lot of Verbal abuse But if the hitting would not have stopped I would have been gone So please anyone out there who is going through it do not let it get to this what Euniceeleanor has just posted This is a great Post to put in and you might be helping a lot of People with this

This is an amazing post, and after realising it wan't about you (thank goodness) I reflected on what it had to say. Unfortunately so many women get caught up in the cycle of domestic abuse. Many women accept appologies or flowers, hoping and believing that things will get better. And then it happens again... and again, and again. No matter how much you want a situation to change, it can't. There are two parties involved, and for change both parties have to want that change. As hard as leaving might be, it is the only solution. It may or may not instigate change but protecting yourself and your kids, if you have any, is a responsible and loving thing to do for yourself. Through difficult times we all learn, grow and become stronger. Sometimes it's nice to be reminded of that through posts like this.

I was in a physical,verbal,emotional abusive relationship for 7 years, but I called it love. He did everything he could to break my spirit. I still called it love. He loved me and I just knew that he would change. Do you want to know why I left? Not because he beat me so bad, not because he said he was sorry for the millionth time and promised he's never do it again, not because he went to get a loan to pay the rent because he drank all our rent money away, I accidentally put his arm through our back glass door when he and I were fighting for my car keys. I saw HIS blood running down his arm and I knew, I had finally sank as low as him. I hurt him like he had hurt me all those years, so that night while he was out drinking. I packed my stuff and left. I never looked back. I didn't tell you this so you feel sorry for me, I told you this because I am proud of me. That was 12 years ago and going through that has made me the woman I am today. There is hope for some of us who think that we can change him if we only love him enough. One day we'll realize that it;s not us with the problem it's them. AWESOME post...thank you for the reminder that no one has the right to put their hands on someone else....for any reason!

Oh my Lord, I thought I was going to have to return to Penang much earlier than I had planned, until I got to the last few lines and realised it was an email forward. I am going to keep this to pass on to any woman who is in an abusive relationship.

wonderfull post. i myself am dealing with the aftermath of abuse. i was with my x husband for 10 years, i have been stabbed, had a shotgun held to my face many times and i am this day disfigured from my x husband kicking me with steel toe boots. i dont want to drag my story on but i seen posts where ppl say they want to help women of abuse, my advice as being a victume is the best way to help someone is to be there, have your shoulder ready for tears, have your hand ready to be held and have your heart open because thats what an abused woman needs the most. ofcourse she needs to get out and get help but first she needs someone to understand her, i stayed until i tried to take my own life, until i was sitting in my kitchen with cut wrists, i wanted to get out but was afraid, confused, helpless. most woman know there are resources out there but are ashamed, they feel like failures, i know i did. there is a diferance when this is going on inside the home because a woman can hide from the outside where as if ppl know that well its shame. i worked at a factory and around alot of ppl and i know alot of ppl knew what was going on but were also afraid to do anything and thats not there falt but if you see it or even think it please try to help. i unfiurtantly didnt have anyone, my family were not around and his family well they knew but this was something he also seen his father do. i know how it feels to sleep out in the cold just like so many other woman out there, its terrifying and lonley. i have been away from my x for years now but im still not free, i deal with alot on a daily basis and with ppl i can get through my days. i want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart for this post and all the post because its shows ppl care and i thank you even though its not my post just know your kindnes is apreciated. God bless

Thank you for this post! It is such a sad story but abuse is something that shouldnt be forgotten

My first marriage ended the night after my head was repeatedly bashed into a wall as my ex made his point. The sad part is, up until that point I had been miserable for months due to MENTAL and EMOTIONAL abuse that no one could help me with. Due to the other abuse issues, I almost thought the physical was my own fault. Today I am proud to say that even though i was unemployed and in the negative bank accounts at the time (and told I could never work again), I threw him out and 7 years later, am now married to a guy who treats me properly and loves me the way I need.

this is an eye opener to alot of women .i am not in one but i personally know alot of women who is still going through domestic violences.there are laws againt this kind of behaviour but still men get the courage to do this and the women still endures this in the name of love.when would they finally understand that it is not love ,its control .the men are trying to control them one way or the other.i come from a country where a huband and his family can just burn the bride for dowry.and domestic abuse is still not a big deal for them,because even if they do any of it the woman don't say a word outside of the family until the matter is unrepairable.and the biggest sin of a woman would be talking this outside the family.this is great topic becoz i think that it is a really big issue in the society.

a sad story... i got to give a warning for all girls out there, if you got a partner who beat you every frequently.. leave him asap, he is not worth your love..

Abuse escalates. First it is the harsh words, some controlling, isolating...each time the abuser is sorry, feels so guilty, flowers, apologies, gifts, being overly attentive...then the 'guilt' is gone and it begins again. First time the abuser hits, maybe an open hand, maybe 'just' a shove...again the 'guilt' the promises, then it happens again. The abuser swears the anger will be controlled...swears the kids will never suffer...the abuser lies...to the abused and sometimes to themselves. How will I leave? Where will I live? How will I support myself and my chidlren? How will you die? Your soul? Your light? Your body? Strength comes when you ask for help. Not only your own but the strength of others who allow you to lean on them until your legs can begin to carry you. Shelters, provide a safe harbor while one heals and learns to rediscover life and independence. My abuser is sorry...always so sorry.

There are so many people that actually go thru this out there. It is so sad it has to come to this. I hope if anyone is ready this that may be going thru it that they will get the strength to leave before its to late.

Once a man hits his wife or girlfriend it´s like breaking a barrier which can never be rebuild. My best friend was beaten up whilst she had her baby boy in her arms. She called the police, they locked him up for one night and the next day he was out again. Luckily she was strong enough to change the locks off all the doors and never let him in again. He´s still got the right to see his son, but only accompanied by a social worker. These kind of men can beg forgiveness again and again, they will always do it again. They don´t love their wives, they love the power they have over them, and deep down they are all a bunch of cowards!

Oh wow that was powerful. At first I thought you were writing it, and I got worried! Thank you for sharing this email, it really sends its message. I always worry when people go out with or marry people because "I believe he can change!" You shouldn't be going out with someone because you want them to change, you should be going out with them because you love them the way they are and they're good to you, and you love all their little imperfections. Nobody should be abused and keep the relationship going. You only need to watch a couple of episodes of CSI to know that never ends well.

I don't know what kind of man if you could call him that would want to beat on a women...I never usually use the word hate in the same sentence with person, but I hate a women beater...it is the most cowardly act you could ever see...I have been in relationships where my girl friend cheated on me, verbally abused me, even slapped me, but NEVER once did she ever have to wory about me raising my hand to her...I would get angry and just leave...end of story...she did a lot of the abuse to me I think in hopes that I would hit her, almost like she was trying to get me to that point.... I am generally not an aggressive person, but I have seen myself kick the crap out of a guy one night, and he deserved every last punch, I was at a night club and I seen this guys just DRIVE off and hit his G/F with a closed first, and I know he broke her nose...well needless to say I broke his...sad part was 2 weeks later I seen him and her at the bar again together...I approached her and asked her why would you do this to yourself...her response..."he loves me" I told her "dear his love is going to kill you someday" and walked away...I couldn't sleep for days after that, it really disturbed me that a person could put themselves through that.

well you see in rage even the most sweetest person seems cruel, so if he has sent flowers that means he is accepting that he was wrong last night and feels sorry to you, now its your turn to talk to him and make him feel that he is good, loving and caring and you still feel he is the one you like most

that was really nice and touching story a very good lesson for all the women who are suffering from domestic abuse