Jasper the unfriendly cat...

nice cat. i had one when i was younger and i love him.... then he disapear

Hi Hazydazy. I'm a former cat breeder. I got a cat from a lady who had a stroke and had a litter of kittens that were 2 weeks old at the time. They had practically no human interaction from that time until they were 5 months old. Her husband fed them but he was caring for her and that's about all he had time to do. When the kittens were 5 months old she contacted me and said she was petting out all but one of the kittens and asked me if I would take the remaining one if she gave it to me, because it was of higher quality (I was showing at that time and she really wanted the cat shown). This cat was much as you say that one is. She would have nothing to do with me. She was really playful but it was obvious that she was scared of me. I just left her alone and only approached her when it was really necessary. When she did choose to come around me, I spoke to her in soft loving tones. I would hold my hand out and let her come to my hand and only then would I pet her. After about a year she started coming into my bedroom at night and would snuggle up to me to sleep. After about 1 1/2 years she would approach me during the daytime and snuggle up with me when I was sitting. After about 2 years and from then on she would let me walk up to her and pet her. She still doesn't like to be picked up, but will let me do so, but she has to be held snuggly against my body or she gets upset. My advice would be to just give him time. He's shown that he can be friendly because he is with your son. He's chosen you son as his person. Watch the way your son interacts with him. That's the way he likes to be approached. Just give him time and don't push. He'll come around in his own strange way. By the way, you might want to find another avatar??? LOL. I've already heard from people that were confused because they thought you were me!!! haha!!!

As some have said you need to give him time but it is good that he trusts your Son and they always say a cat owns you , you do not own the Cat so I guess your son is her choice on the Mark there lol I hope he settles soon

How long have you had him? I would guess that the poor thing was probably beat. I think all you can do is give him time. Maybe you or your husband could offer him a treat once in awhile to gain his trust. I have 13 cats and they all like me but not my boyfriend or his 14 year old son. They aren't mean either, they just run. My boyfriend doesn't really like cats and I think they know it.lol.

Not all cats are the same. Give him more time. He is not unfriendly, he is just testing you out. :)

I would suggest, first, that you don't worry about it too much - some cats are just like that, one person cats. My other suggestions are (1) offer him food (treats) directly from your hand, (2) if you don't mind, have him lick, say, butter or chicken grease off your fingers, (3) entice with catnip. If he accepts your hand-offered food or fingertip treats, initially don't try to pet him right away. Let him get used to your hand being a friendly object first. Then, over time, start maybe stroking the top and back of his head or his shoulders (back and sides). It took one of my cats (Jake) almost a year before he decided he fully trusted me (he, like yours, adopted me, coming from an abusive home) Good luck. I'm glad your cat loves your son -- they probably find comfort in each other, giving and taking. Hope this helps...

i think your cat has a bad experience with a man or adult that makes him scared.you havent tell us how long he has been with you.be patience with him, if you show him that you care, never ever hurt him then slowly he will response a nice actions too

nope, there isn't a thing you can do, that is how cats are. The cat will come up and LET you pet him when HE is ready. Don't push it, as a matter of fact, I always found that ignoring a cat was the best way to get him up in your face. Just give him time, and feed him well. If he was mistreated, it might take a while.

Sorry, i never brought cats as pet bcuz i have sweet green parrot at home. Hmmmmm, an idea came in my mind. U should take ur son in ur cradle when u feel that urs cat wanted to play with urs son and try to spend maximum time with ur son and gave a ball to ur cat and throw the ball again and again towards cat daily.

I had a similar experience with a stray that came to our house. Usually my husband can even gentle down wild animala, and this one hid from him, and from my adult son. Winston came to me first. I know he had to have been abused though, because there was a ridge of bone on his skull, like a fracture that had healed crooked. It is great that Jasper likes your son. He will grow to trust the rest of the family I am pretty sure. He just has to see that you are not dangerous, but are safe to be around. Winston eventually did.

try to understand more, i think the cat has suffered a trauma, don't for the cat to be easily at ease with you. it take a couple of month to be at ease with somebody stranger to him, humm i think the cat is afraid of big guys hehehe.

yes u r right this is very quite cat

i would say just show him you love him.... eventually he should warm up to you.

He probably was abused (could be a man since he is afraid of your husband). I believe the only thing you can do is be patient with him. He needs to see over time that you are there to take care of him and love him. I'm sure after awhile he will eventually understand that and be more part of the family.

It happens thats why people prefer keeping pets close to them in their initial months as thats the time when they get attached to the owner And they do get more attached to a person in particular Like us humans, we have to be regularly pesetered and we have to let others know their importance in our lives by loving them Similarly its with your cat You have to make it feel you are friendly and then you would be delighted that she has the same attitude for you and everyone

Awww he sounds adorable. It also sounds like the adult male from the other home was not nice to him and that is why he shyes from your husband. Have your husband offer him a very special treat that he can only get from your husband, that way he will learn to trust your husband. We have 2 kittens only 12 weeks old and the male took to me very easily and quickly, the female had to get a feel for the place and us. Now she will climb up on my lap when ever she wants to and loves to get pet. Actually when I am on my computer she will climb up on my lap and if I dont acknowledge he she will nudge my hand untill I per her. Just give him a bit more time. He will eventually see that not all homes are as bad as the last one.

Sometimes it just takes longer for a cat to warm up to people, especially if they were mistreated before. We rescued a cat who was mistreated and when we got her she was deaf and only has one eye. It took her a long time to be able to trust us and let us pet her. Now she demands that she be petted every chance she gets.

Some cats are just not that friendly. All cats are independent and do things at their own leisure. Best to give him time. Make sure he has his own area too. A place where no one can bug him. Another trick that works for my cats is, we have them on a "treat" schedule. Sounds silly, but it works for us. They know when it is treat time, so that means love time too!

iam sorry to tell you this but the cat will not change.I too have a stray cat she has been with us for 5 years now. She hides when I have company and if i am with her all day and my husband comes home she is afraid and will run. They somehow can not comprehent that you are not going to hurt them, because they had to fend for their life before us. It is sad.