Is it right for me to marry my girlfriend?
By elijahpaul
@elijahpaul (65)
Philippines
December 13, 2006 8:07am CST
I'm 19 years old and my girlfriend and I are doing great for a couple of months already. I've been thinking of this since our parents are in good terms and that they always meet almost once a week. I'm still a college student in my 3rd year. My course will only take up 4 years to finish. It seems like everything is going pretty well. What do you think?
4 responses
@snowflake5 (1579)
• United States
13 Dec 06
You are too young to get married.
Psychologically speaking, you arn't a proper adult till your are about 23 (you'll realise when you reach that age, suddenly you are more confident and your personality starts to set).
You'll change between now and your early 20's and may find that getting married was the wrong thing. Wait a bit, and if you still feel the same in a couple of years, then get married.
@abccba (1914)
• Denmark
13 Dec 06
I don't know whats normal in your culture, but i think it's too fast to get married after a couple of months! I would only get married to a girl, if i have been with her for at least 1 year! And then i don't think i would like to get married before i'm at least 30 years old... But well, cultures are very different, so it's hard to give advise!
@elijahpaul (65)
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
In our culture, it's okay to get married at around 23-25 and up. Thanks for your response!
@jonastabuena (2307)
• Philippines
14 Dec 06
it's up to you if you want to marry her, as for my experience, me and my sweetie haved been together for 2 years, right time to get married, but all of a sudden, she was gone, she found another guy and she leaved, without any explaination, i know i'm sincere and loyalty, until now i can't imagine what had happened to us, we broke up last august 30, i don't know i can call it broke up, coz until now, she don't explain..huh!
@TasksGirl (216)
• United States
13 Dec 06
You didn't mention if you love her.
I don't have a problem with the age thing because I am 19 and I am getting married next year when I am 20.
I am familar with your culture and know a guy just like you who got married when he was 18. He told me the reason he married her was just because when he broke up with her she cried and came back to his house. He told me that is when he knew that she would stay by him no matter what. He can not talk about loving her really. I don't think he really does but I am not sure.
If you care about this girl then you should marry her but if you are just wanting to marry her because it is convenient I am not sure if I can agree with that.. It won't be fair to her or fair to you later on down the road in your lives..
