Overcoming fear

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“The way it works is, you do the thing you're scared shitless of, and you get the courage AFTER you do it, not before you do it.” (“Archie Gates” in “Three kings”). One thing is for sure when we are talking about courage. When you spend an amount of energy doing something you are afraid of, regardless of the outcome, the energy used on performing this particular action, transforms into self-esteem energy afterwards. Regardless of the result. It is not the result, but the action itself that counts. Sure, there are some actions better than others, and it is up to your decision skill, to determinate what action are best and most valuable in the current situation, but we’ll leave that to another time. And basically that is all there is to it. Look at it this way, if you are afraid of a certain thing, let’s say public speaking. Then the first step is to make a decision to actually overcoming your fear, and make a public speech (don’t go and make speech on national television or something else, that’ll make you blackout, start with a few people, at a birthday party or something). First time you do it, you will probably shake all over the body and have a hard time concentrating, but afterwards (assuming you’re still alive…), you’ll have a feeling of overcoming both your fears and your mind. You’ll have a feeling of accomplishment, and I bet you’ll feel great, regardless of the outcome. Remember the saying “What doesn’t kill you, will make you stronger”? In terms of personal development, this is so very true. Unfortunately it doesn’t apply to all areas of life. Smoking and drinking for instance. Then take your personal challenge a step up, make a speech in front of 20 instead of 10, and keep advancing… After you’ve done 10-15-20 times, you won’t fear it anymore. Because you know you can and that it won’t kill you.