how would a person confront their "best friend"

you probably know the situation better than anyone, because you're probably closer to her than anyone (including her parents) since you're her best friend. is it possible that she's not bringing lunch because she's embarrassed about the food that her parents would buy or make for her? is it possible that her family is having hard times financially, so that she doesn't have money for lunch? it could be these things going on and not an eating disorder. I think the best thing that you can do to be a true friend is to tell your friend that you are worried about her, but don't want to make a big deal out of it. I wouldn't tell her that the other girls are talking about it, because that would make her more worried and self-conscious. I wouldn't listen to other girls - even girls in "your group of friends" - who start to gossip about your best friend. If they start talking like that, I'd just say, "i don't think she's got an eating disorder, and if you were her true friends, you'd be asking her if she's okay, not talking about her behind her back" and then if they want to keep gossiping I would leave so that I could truly tell my friend that I'm talking to them, not about them.

just take her test and u can decite how she or he is for u.

you should sit her down and tell her how you feel about your friendship and you dont want anything to happen to her. just talk to as calm as you can and tell you only trying to help and you worry about her.

so do you think she has an eating disorder? I think you should say something to her, but you would have to be careful not to accuse her straight out because she could get defensive and not want to talk to you. Hmm this is a tough one! I dont even really know what I would say to one of my friends... Maybe bring up the topic of others saying those things about her, and say you're worried that it may be true? In all likelihood she will probably deny it, but at least she will know you care about her :)

we can easily identiy ur friends. true friend always with us. Even where its a good time or bad.

Hi there I have a daughter going through something similar with one of her best friends school. I think sometimes you do have to be a tuff friend. My daughter sat down with her friend and basically said she had two choices she asks her family or school guidance counselor for help. Offer to go with her for support if she chose the guidance officer. To this day they are still friends and the girl is getting help.

Well im not dont support ur view c in front of god there is no baptist or christian for god all are one and being a wiccan u go and sing at a church god wont mind it so forget it dont keep any confusion in mind u r a human being for god if a christian can go to gurudwara and study our holy book god will not get angry then why do u worry to ur very lucky that u got such a chance to sing on Christmas wish u all the best

Well, I know I personally dont like to eat in front of people, so you should discuss this with her first before you insult her by jumping to conclusions

Gossip is nasty. Do you even know if any of this is true? Why would you confront her if your only listening to idle gossip? If she is your bestest friend you would know better than them. Try to talk to her about others with the same problems, see if she wants to open up to you. And to be truthful. it was only one day she didnt bring her lunch, somedays I go a week or so before eating lunch, and I am certainly not anorexic.

give him/her a gift a peace offering, lolz

just go up and tell her you are worried... if she is your 'best friend' you shouldnt be afraid to talk to her and she will know that you just care about her

so, she forgot to bring her lunch, why would they have to antagonize her like that? hmm..the dynamics of teen pressure. I used to forget to bring my lunch from school,too. I was always rushing out the door. Stingy me would rather put my allowance in my piggy bank rather than spend in on lunch.=p It's good that she has a friend like you that she turn to. If you think that her self-esteem is affected by those rumors, just tell her not to give a damn about those gossip-mongers, karma will just hit them smack in the face. If they still persist though just say (in a rather dramatic way of slowly turning your back to them with head held high) "I'm just watching my diet 'coz this modelling agent advised me to, for our shoot next week." *wink*

You should first consider if this is just gossip. If you dont think it is should definatly talk to her she will listen to you more than anyone else. Anorexia is a serious problem and if she continues you should get help.

you should definatly say something to her she will listen to you better than anyone else. Anorexia is serious and if she continues you should get help.

Yes if you are a real friend you should say something to her, maybe she needs someone to talk to about this problem, maybe she needs help, if you are a true friend then you should be there for her.

If you feel that she has a problem, then you need to say something to her about it. I would talk to her privately and just explain that you are concerned about her.

if she is your bestest friend then i would let her know that people think that she is being talked about,because she would be hurt if she found out that you knew,and that you di not tell her yourself.lolxx

A best frnd is some1 to whom u can share each and everything without any hesitation...one is there for u whenever u want...whenever u need naykinda help he is there 4 u...thatz wat u call ur best frnd

Since you all are bestest friends, you should tell her that you heard people at school talking about it. That will open the door to a conversation about it, or at least let her know that she can talk to you about it.

definatly say something to her..but becareful how you say it..you dont want to hurt her feelings.