How can I ask her to stop?!!

@Dena33 (1533)
Finland
December 14, 2006 3:12am CST
I live in a house which is in share with 5 other people. None of us smoke until a new girl came! she is a big fan of smoking and you can always smell smoke around her! Luckily there is banned smoking sign everywhere in the house and previous buddys who smoked respected that. But yesterday I noticed that this new girl sometimes smokes inside and I get headache when I breathe during her smoking! How can I remind her to go out to smoke meanwhile not to make her embarrassed? Do you have any idea?
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@nvtellan (1907)
• Philippines
14 Dec 06
I don't think you're going to embarass her just by reminder her of the no smoking rule. Just point her to the sign that said so. If she's still stubborn and continued with her habit then that's your cue to haul her and her things out of the house. Get out! hehe
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@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
14 Dec 06
ooohh, I hope that I won't have to haul her out!!cool, thank you for your advice.
@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
15 Dec 06
oh it sounds great, do you smoke any more?
@soldenski (2503)
• United States
15 Dec 06
I would haul her out, if she can't respect the rule's, she need's to go. Give her a warning, then be firm and boot her out. Good luck. By the way, even when I was a smoker, I respected people and did not smoke in a home or even my own car.
@pitstop (14129)
• Australia
14 Dec 06
The easiest solution is to just tell her in a nice way that she should not smoke in the house. Most smokers are quite respectful when someone requests them not to smoke. If she does smoke still request her when you find her smoking. If this doesnt work get together with your friends and tell her. If not - you'll need to be a little more firm and express your anger. Stilll no success... hard luck - you just got yourself an adamant room-mate!
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@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
14 Dec 06
I hope she follows our wishes. Thank you for your advice!
@gigarange (1165)
• United States
1 Jan 07
I agree with you.
@ankagar (1034)
• India
15 Dec 06
tell her the negatives of smoking and try to convince her not to smoke
@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
1 Jan 07
I guess she's heard a lot but doesn't care!
• India
15 Dec 06
you tell her about your problem, if she is your friend then definitely she will stop smoking in room.......
@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
1 Jan 07
yes I agree.
@sexymuma (1261)
14 Dec 06
well unless you remind her of the rules of the house she will contiue to smoke in the house because when no one says any thing she is geting away with it,she feels that it is not such a problem,lolxx
@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
15 Dec 06
yes you're right, she should know that she is botherinfg us.
@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
15 Dec 06
ooops sorry, bothering. Have a good day.
• India
15 Dec 06
I am giving you the best and simple solution.. whenever your friend will start smoking you plople start coughing.. so she will understand that u have a real problem from smoking.. she ll realise it and stop smoking.. belive on me it will work..
@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
1 Jan 07
yeah it's a good trick
@cloudsim (44)
• India
15 Dec 06
ya tell directly don’t smoke here other wise you will be punished. Smoking is bad habit it also effect healthy person.
@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
15 Dec 06
yes, I should think about it.
• India
15 Dec 06
No smoking - no smoking
say on her face that to smoke outside the room or when you are not there
@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
15 Dec 06
yes I should do it.
• India
15 Dec 06
you should directly say to her that you can't smoke inside the house either go outside or smoke when i'm not there
@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
15 Dec 06
yeah I should be direct.
• India
15 Dec 06
forget the crap about not wanting to embarras her, its yours and everyone else health you are talking about. just tell her straigth to follow the rules (politely but firmly). if she persists on making the house a chimney,just start looking for another partners. i'm sure there's no dearth of non-smokers
@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
15 Dec 06
but she has contract with the landlord.
@deep1608 (321)
• India
15 Dec 06
Just by asking someone to not to smoke shdnt be embarassing in nay case.She knows she is doing no gud to herself and others around her.Indiacte once or twice that she shdnt do that..but if she still continues tell her once in isolation.But if still she continues u shd be very much serious n rude to her!!!! there are people who have this habit of just ignoring..better let her knw this wont work with u!
@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
15 Dec 06
yes you're right, thanks for your reply.
@ls0280 (118)
• Indonesia
15 Dec 06
you must tell her emphatically, she must know that her bad habit very bother. Did she know that passive smoker exactly more risk from active smoker ,if will destroy, destroy ownself don't destroy others.
@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
1 Jan 07
yeah thanks for your pity.
• India
15 Dec 06
i personally feei that you need to tell her in a pleasing way as to not to continue with smoking inside when others are around and also educate her about its ill effects on non- smokers. you should also tell her that the exhaled smoke is more dangerous and toxic to non-smokers around.it seems that exhaled smoke contains more hazardous componds than inhaled smoke and could have serious implications on one's health.its also her prime duty to respect your advice and start implementing it right away
@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
15 Dec 06
yeah, it is. thank you for your reply.
• United States
15 Dec 06
Electro shock therapy! Put one of those shocking collars for barking dogs on her and when you see her smoking BUZZ her. Just a thought. If it's making you physically ill then I think her being embarrassed should be the last of your concerns. Be straight with her. I know that I prefer blunt honesty to excuses. I'm pretty sure that as she is a smoker she will understand that it's not for everyone and if she doesn't have the common respect to smoke outside then maybe that's not your only issue. Politely remind her to keep it outside and I don't think there will be any problems.
@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
15 Dec 06
wow, you think so , I should use electro shock therapy?
@j_thomas (957)
• India
15 Dec 06
Just asked her to stop smoking.u have right to ask her bcoz ur one who is getting affected more than her.so don;t hesitate ask her to stop
@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
15 Dec 06
All right, thanks to remind me.
@ozangel82 (753)
• Australia
15 Dec 06
Smoking - Smoking
Best thing to do is to tell her, and get the other house mates to back you up. If you all frown on her for doing it inside then she will no longer feel comfortable smoking inside. Maybe you could get her a jacket or something to wear whilst smoking and get her to hang it outside when she is done, that way her clothes won't smell as much when she takes it off too.
@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
15 Dec 06
oh wonderful, thank you for your sugestion.
@kamalcpc (704)
• India
15 Dec 06
just put a NO SMOKING BOARD IN THE ROOM, i think it will work
@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
15 Dec 06
We have this sign in each room, kitchen and so on.
@snakeyes (569)
• India
15 Dec 06
I think you should just remind her about the rules and regulation of the house and say to her that any disobidience on her part will not be tolerated.
@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
15 Dec 06
you're right, thank you for your reply.
@amitavesh (180)
• India
15 Dec 06
The imp thing is here that u r concern abt her that you don't want to embarrased her..so u can say very frndly to her that i have elergy from smoking.....so plz could u smoke outside if u don't mind..may help u
@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
15 Dec 06
yeah I should tell her so, thank you.
• Philippines
15 Dec 06
Tell here in a nice way so she can't get offended
@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
15 Dec 06
yeah I should keep it in my mind, thank you.