How do you intend to spend your time when you retire?
By Alexandria37
@Alexandria37 (5717)
Ireland
December 14, 2006 5:44am CST
Now that my children have all grown up and married, I find myself with a lot of spare time. I could do with some suggestions as to how to put some of this time to good use. Due to health problems and the fact that I am in my sixties, outside regular employment would most likely not be an option. I love music and I learned to play piano when I was a child. I am now learning to play violin. My housework takes only a couple of hours each day, so this still leaves me with quite a lot of free time. I feel I am just wasting my remaining years and I would dearly love to hear from all of you with your suggestions.
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@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
19 Dec 06
I had my 70th birthday this year. I guess I can't say I've retired because I haven't "worked" since being married. I have been involved in children's and youth ministry for 48 years and when my five sons left home for university I became more heavily involved.
For the last six years I have spent many hours each day in this work, in a secretarial capacity and also in writing camp programs and lessons and other ministry helps. I have been involved in about 60 camps and still arrange and lead in several each year.
One of the strong points of one children's ministry is that it gives older people a real opportunity for service. Grandmotherly/grandfatherly types are most welcomed by children and this ministry uses them in a capacity where all that is needed is sitting on a chair and listening to children recite verses of Scripture. I find this a most rewarding and enjoyable time.
Most Churches have clubs for "Yesteryear's Youth" or whatever they choose to call their "oldies" group. These often include music and handcrafts and are a great time of fellowship.
I strongly believe that our "senior" years are the most productive. We are free from many of the hassles of younger people, have more patience and are able to give so much more in quality time. I don't think anyone could accuse me of "wasting my remaining years". I thoroughly love them! I believe this is the BEST age!
I sincerely hope you find filfillment.
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@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
20 Dec 06
I have given you a plus for that because you really deserve it. I wish we had those type of camps here is Ireland, but maybe I will find something similar when the time comes - almost there. Thank you for your very nice detailed response.
@poohandchocolate (348)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I would like to travel a lot with my husband to all the places I have always wanted to go growing up. After working so much and all the years in school, by the time I retire I think in between travelling I would just like to relax. Just doing whatever makes me happy. And not having to worry about work or school or homework, projects, assignments, deadlines.. you know any type of stress.
@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
29 Jan 07
That is how I feel at the moment - stress free. I have no schedules to keep, and I can spend my day just doing as I please. The only thing I must do every day, is cook my husband's dinner, though I don't think he would mind if I gave it a miss. He likes takeaways.
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@humbleme (1004)
• India
1 Mar 07
Though I am quite young to think about retire now,at the same time I believe that nobody actually retires ,cause,
duty and responsibility continues as long somebody lives in this world,however I would like to spend my spare time listing
music which I can understand,playing piano,meditation and
ofcourse internet that I cant live without.
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@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
2 Mar 07
I will certainly do that and thanks for all your help. I really appreciate it.
@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
1 Mar 07
Music is the love of my life and I will never retire from that. I also couldn't live without the internet, as it keeps me in touch with people from all over the world and I like that. I haven't tried meditation so I must give that a try.
@Eskimo (2315)
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14 Jan 07
You could take some courses. Both my parents studied with the Open University while in the 60's, my father got a degree at 63, my mother had to give up half way through because of health problems. (she still enjoyed the courses though).I believe that someone over 90 graduated a few years ago. I don't know what is available in Ireland, but in U.K. some courses have a reduced fee (or free) to retired people. There are lots of different topics and types of courses available, from those which give degrees (or other qualifications) to those which can be just for fun.
You could also join a club, there should be lots available, from dancing, walking, amatuer dramatics, astronomy, creative writing ... need I go on, there are lots of potential about, all looking just for you.
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@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
14 Jan 07
I have just been checking some of the courses as you suggested and there seems to be an abundence of them, and not too expensive either. Now, I can't seem to make up my mind. I might just try Criminal Law, not with intention of practising, but it intriques me. My husband would also be interested, so we could have great fun arguing our case. Thanks a million, Eskimo.
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@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
14 Jan 07
You could start on the rocks and the cans. It seems nowadays that the rocks and cans might have more brains than us humans.
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@paradisesuns (1754)
• United States
8 Mar 07
I would probably spend most of my time painting pictures and learning more on the "how to's of painting"...Hobbies of any sort are always welcome to take up my time...'couse that wouldn't superceed burping my grand babies! :)
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@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
8 Mar 07
I've already burped my grand babies but the great grand babies will probably be along before I really retire. I think I will emigrate before that happens.
@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
15 Mar 07
Ah well, I need to keep my sense of humour. It helps keep me going in this crazy world of ours!!
@mylesnarvaez (5451)
• Philippines
15 Mar 07
i couldn't help but release a chuckle over your response to this. :)
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@songbirdnaimh (1422)
• United States
7 Mar 07
I would love to travel....but money may be an issue.
Btw, I've been to Ireland and LOVED it! We traveled mostly in the Southwest...
@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
7 Mar 07
The Southwest is the nicest place. I am going there on Friday and then I will travel to Cork where I will stay with my son for the weekend. Thankfully he has broadband as I couldn't go a whole weekend without my pc.
@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
8 Mar 07
Well let me know when you decide to come to Ireland and I will give you a big Irish Welcome.
@songbirdnaimh (1422)
• United States
8 Mar 07
I hear you about not being able to be w/o your pc. I hope to get back to Ireland someday. My boyfriend's family (both sides) are Irish and he'd like to go. I'd love to show him around...lol....not that I'm the expert, only going once.
@habichuelo (3100)
• United States
24 Feb 07
If i ever get to retire,i would LOVE to spend all my time and money living and exploring the beach and everything that have to do with it,alone with my love one and also cooking a lot!
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@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
1 Mar 07
That sounds heavenly accept for the cooking...lol. I don't like cooking so I will have to hire a maid. Hopefull I will ba able to afford one.
@14missy (3183)
• Australia
21 Dec 06
I often dream of how I would spend my time in retirement. Having said that, I have three young children and don't see that happeningfor a lot of years yet (unless I win lottery) I would love to just walk on a beach, read a book or travel around Australia without someone always saying "mummy, where is my hat or book?"
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@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
17 Feb 07
I don't mind being grumpy if it means being rich. It is better than being poor and grumpy. I think I will do as missy says and just laze on a beach reading all my favourite books with nobody to bother me. Sounds like heaven!
@limitup (324)
• United States
17 Feb 07
That's funny because I talked to my mom the other day and she says she misses those same little things.
Isn't it funny how once we get what we want, our mind tells us it's something else we want or need?
Mine is money right now. Once I get lots of it, maybe I'll be like those grumpy rich people you hear about. Lots of money and nothing to do.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
14 Dec 06
I actually am retired and have been for 7 yrs now....but my kids are still young and at home and my husband still works so until a later time I just hang out and do mum stuff...I do however love to do things for myself like paint/draw/write I love to read etc...I'd like to take up a new hobby/learn something new but i have no clue what yet still trying to figure that one out LOL Once the kids are off in college and my husband can cut back on his hours etc I'd love to travel and spend time with him etc...
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@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
14 Dec 06
Can't do mum stuff as I have no children living with me, but your suggestion to travel sounds good. Now I will spend some time checking some holiday destinations. Thank you.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
14 Dec 06
you are most welcomed..traveling for me can be as simple as packing a lunch and overnight bag and driving in any given direction for 5 hrs and see where you end up LOL I love doin things like that...its a great way to 'discover' new towns etc...then of course traveling long distance is always good too LOL I mean I would never pass up a trip to the islands ;-)
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@Dancingbird24 (727)
• India
1 Mar 07
For ur age meditation is good.. do meditation in evening times or else in morning times..its really good for ur health..
And play with ur grandchildrens its also good for ur mind and also for ur health.. take care of ur health mam.. and be happy always....:)
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@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
1 Mar 07
I've just decided that I am going to look into doing some meditation. I know a friend who can help me get started. Thanks for commenting.
@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I retired 2 years ago, but I'm going to be going back to work soon. For most of the last year I've been helping with my mom, but she's moved to a more full time nursing situation (but a really great place.)
I have craft projects that I do, beading, needlepoint, cross stitch, crochet. Oh, and the computer. I also have plenty of cats to pet! Make something for those kids and grandkids by knitting or crocheting. Learn how to make jewelry and take care of xmas for years to come!
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@tomatoe39 (298)
• United States
7 Mar 07
How to spend my retirement...lets see..the hundreds of books I have bought but not had a chance to read...take off on a whim to whereever I want and stay...however long I want..heck trade the house in for an RV and just travel arouund the country..would that not be so neat...
@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
7 Mar 07
That's really funny. I too have hundreds of books that I haven't read and the same amount of dvds which are collecting dust. I don't think I will trade the house for an RV as we don't get good weather here and I would miss curling up in front of the fire. Hope your dreams come true...lol.
@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
14 Mar 07
That would be nice and I hope you achieve your goals. Thank you for responding.
@mylesnarvaez (5451)
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
in the next few years, my sister and i plan to start a foundation to help provide opportunities for deserving kids to have formal education. so many intelligent kids dream to enter a good university, finish studies and be able to find a good paying job. it is just sad that many children are forced into labor at an early age just to earn enough for food for their family.
poverty is rampant in my country. coming from a financially poor family myself, i value the fact that i was able to go to the university through a scholarship program and was able to join international companies after. i teach and i train. and the company i'm working for is serving poor communities worldwide through poverty alleviation, justice and health.
perhaps when i retire, which is quite several years yet, i'd focus my attention on my family and my extended family--- the foundation.
as you yourself is fond of music and is still eager to learn a new instrument... why not share your gift of music to others? maybe, there are kids (or perhaps older ones too) who would like to learn the piano, and in time, probably the violin too. you can make this as an income generating activity or as a community service also. your choice.
there's so much joy in music that it would be definitely nice to share it with other music lovers too.
@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
14 Mar 07
Your goals are admirable. It is great to be able to help those less fortunate than ourselves. After reading your response, I will consider giving music lessons to under privileged children. Thanks for the great response.
@weemam (13372)
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13 Feb 07
I work harder now then when I was employed , I look after my disabled son my hubby has had a triple bypass and my parents both have alzheimer's so I think I run about more than I ever did , This is my " me tome" on the PC , mind you I wouldn't ever want to be without them , xx
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@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
13 Feb 07
My goodness, you are a very busy person. I admire you for all you are doing for your family. I used to take care of my dad who had a stroke, and after he passed away, I was blessed with two grandchildren. One has cerabral palsy and I used to take care of her because my daughter was very ill and unable to look after the children. Now, my daughter is well again and she is able to take care of the children so I can now do all the things that I wanted to do. I hope all goes well for you and thanks a million for taking the time to respond.
@western_valleygirl (1363)
• United States
14 Feb 07
I love to travel, but I guess you do not want to do that. But, I have to say, it is not hard for you to do. Many people in your situation still travel and see the sites. You should enjoy yourself and see the rest of the world. I hope that I will be able to travel when I retire. Also, I would find as many hobbies as I could...something outside of the regular things that you like to do...I also love to read a lot. hope you are not bored much anymore.
@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
14 Feb 07
Now that I have become addicted to myLot I don't have the time to be bored. My cousin as arranged for herself and her musical friends to visit me a couple of times a week. We have great music sessions and they are a really funny lot. I just hope the neighbours don't complain about the noise, as we behave like a group of teenagers. Thank you for your nice response. I've given you a plus.
@superbren (856)
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14 Feb 07
i would like to travel but sometimes i get scared that i wont have enough money or ill have bad health. i have also toyed wih the idea of retiring in spain . i lover the sun and the easy way of life. i would sell my house , buy a little business and work away.i would worry that it might upset the children but i,ll wait til i get older before i worry too much about it.
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@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
14 Feb 07
I think it would be lovely to retire to a warmer climate, but I couldn't leave my family. I'm sure we would all miss eatch other, so I wouldn't be happy. I still have a few years to go before hubby retires, so I can think about it some more. Thanks for responding. Nice to meet somebody from Northern Ireland. I love that part of the country.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
You may find it fruitful if you'd spend some of your time visiting some orphanage or homes for the aged or homes for unwed mothers. Your wisdom is needed in these areas. Just give it a try. The idea may not appeal to you at first, but once you have tried taking the visits, you may find it rewarding.
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@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
20 Feb 07
What a nice idea. I used to visit orphanages before I had my own children and I loved playing with the children. I will certainly keep that in mind. Thanks for helping.
@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
13 Feb 07
Well, maybe your chair will wear out and it will need upholstering. We might be able to chat to each other because more than likely I will be sitting here also.
@Patswords (189)
• United States
16 Feb 07
As a retired person and in my sixties my suggestion is the following.
1. Make a list of all the things you always wanted to do but, either have not had the time to do or the financial means to do so.
2. Narrow your list down to things that you can do right now and things that will take some time and planning to do.
3. Set goals to achive these activities.
4. Find ways to achive these goals.
Maybe you would like to travel but need a little more money to do this. So investigate a few ways to make a little extra money that you can save to achive this goal.
For instance I do mystry shopping to supplement my income and be able to do the things that I want. One might bake for others, set with children etc.
What is important is that no matter how old one is that they still set goals in life and work towards these goals to prevent bordem and have a fuller life.
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@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
16 Feb 07
What wonderful ideas. I will certainly follow all your good advice and thank you for posting it.
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