Outlaw Divorce!

Well, just what good old days are you referring to. The fifties when you stay married because of the kids. Mom standing beignly in the kitchen popping those little helper pills so she can cope with the marriage. Or maybe the sixties when free love was all the rage. Or the X genenration where Mom and Dad are both so far into their own lives and careers that the nanny raises the kids. Who cares what the marriage is like no one is in it. Those good old days. My first marriage ended in divorce, maybe it wasn't the only solution but it was the best for me and the kids. I was so careful the second time around that that I chose wisely and my husband and I have been married now for 19 years. So condemning someone to a life in a marriage no one is happy in is wrong. Life is far too short to spend it with someone you don't want to be with. Some people never find the right person but to limit choice would be condemming them to misery. Just my opion.

Divorce hurts people and it is much to easy for people to get a divorce today. First before someone get's married they should be required to have a minimum of six weeks of counseling before being allowed to be married. Second many people marry due to LUST not love, When the euphoric honeymoon stage is over they see the flaws and run for the divorce court selfishly. Third people should be required to have counseling before a divorce is granted and find out why they want a divorce and if it is valid or necessary or if they can work it out. Even the best of couples go through stages of anger, angst and hatred toward a spouse but if they learn to listen, communicate, and compromise 99% of most divorces need never take place. Fourth too many people are always looking for greener pastures and never satisfied and often end up in a marriage to someone nearly identical to the one they left so get on a marry go around blaming others for their own blind short comings. There are truly legitimate times for divorce but too many are granted due to "irreconsilable differances that is made to sit down and talk it through would not end up in a divorce. Today's society does not try and even work at relationships anymore they just bed hop from one to another thinking someone else should make them happy but they have to start with themselves to find the real cause of their dissatisfaction, Instead they opt for the easy way out and play the blame game. There should be tighter laws on getting married and on obtaining divorces.

Some religions already make it illegal to divorce and all you have are unhappy couples cheating on each other because they can't break their vows. Divorce rates really aren't as high as people think they are. The only reason it seems to be is because people are getting married younger and, those under 25 just happen to be the ones getting the majority of the divorces (1 out of every 3 is what I read some place). So, rather than outlaw divorce, why not raise the minimum age limit for getting married to 25.

Well my personal take on things is that it's not too easy to get divorced, it's that it's too easy to get married. I'm one who believes that just because you get pregnant is no reason to get married. I also don't feel like "the children" as you say are a reason enough to stay married. Not trying to start a fire, but are you even married? You say that in some instances there would be exceptions, well maybe you should have ellaborated in your post. What in your mind is a good enough exception. Let's see are we suppose to stay with an abuser, with a cheater, with a liar...for the sake of the kids, or do these instance fall into the exception catagory? As for your good old days you speak on, don't kid yourself, there's many a person to stay in a bad marriage back then when they should have high tailed it out of there, and it wasn't based on staying for values, it was for fear. We live in an age where happiness is what we make of it, so why be stuck in a marriage of unhappiness, for the sake of convienence? No, thanks I'll pass...one time divorcee, remarried and if need be would divorce again.

I think there is a false belief about 'the good ole days'...in the 'good ole days' just as many people if not more were miserable, but it was frowned upon to divorce so they just stuck it out in miserable marriages. I know of MANY elderly who can attest to that! I will say though that today I think people take marriage way too lightly, do it too fast, AND don't even give it a chance. The world is now all about instant gratification! And people don't wnat to work hard for ANYTHING anymore, whether it be money, relationships, goals, etc. Many people think everything should just be easy or handed to them when that is just not the case.

While I agree that some people divorce too easy I don't think the Gov't has a right to say how many times someone can be married or divorced. Sometimes differences can't be worked out and people fall out of love over time and I don't agree that anyone should stay together "because of the kids." Children aren't dumb and can pick up on things like tension and dislike in the house hold.

i'm a married women and every arguement me and my husband have he alway's yelling he want's a divorce,we don't know how to work our problems out when we can't even have a civilize conversation without arguing. and i'm willing to get us so help but he refuse..so what am i to do?

I totally agree with you, although many people would argue that doing so is a restriction of personal freedoms. However, what has happened to the sanctity of marriage? Marriage is no longer taken seriously by young peoples, and weddings are seens as a fun and glamourous occasion. Outlawing divorce makes people think about marriage seriously.

i sorta agree with you. i don't think divorce should be thrown out because there are people that just get to the point to where they can't take being with each other anymore and that's why i believe you should be and live with a person for a LONG time before you get married. but i absolutely agree with the part that you shouldn't be able to marry more than twice.

Well i see things in other perspective... I think people shouldn´t be allowed to marry more than once or twice. If they can realize what marriage is all about maybe they shouldn´t marry at all.

I think if 2 people are genuinely not getting along, than it's not fair to keep them together, it can also harm the kids if there's a bad atmosphere in the home. I think these days people are getting married too soon, I would certainly not be in any rush because i only want to be married once myself!

I agree with your views. In my opinion the divorce is nothing but a curse for couple.Nobody should resort to such extreme step like divorce. In a democracy, any law to curb the divorce cannot be enacted. It is the will of the people that create miracle. To stop divorce is a very good step. People must be educated and explained the implications of the divorce.If the people understand it with true spirit the divorce will be stopped. In olden days people were not resorting to divorce, because of their firm conviction in the institution of marriage. Kids also play important role here. If both husband and wife are matured in mind such things will be at the right direction. To marry more than one is illigal.

I do agree that it would 'be better' of less people got divorced,(like I would love it if my parents were still togethor) but times change, its just a part of cultural development.

i think if someone wants to get married 70 times, it's their business and what is it to you?

Divorces are legal and must remain legal. People today use the divorce as a getaway. It doesn't mean it's law's fault. Education and home environment is the first reasons that people haven't learned to wrk things out. And why should they? It's better for a child to live in a divorced family than live in a family with huge problems. Have you ever thought what the kids are living in a fmily where mother and father are not present for each other? They can't understand the meaning of love and family after a while.

I think people should take longer to consider getting married. I mean, it isn't frowned upon to live together anymore, so why not give it a trial before you get married for real. Don't have kids right away, live together for a while, a year at least, AND if you do decide to get a divorce, you need to devote a year or so to trying to work it out, instead of just quitting at the first little hiccup.

The only thing you can do for yourself in life is to make the most of your time here, no one knows how long we have and to spend it in a life that you are not happy with is a crime, it is a waste of a good life to spend it in an unhappy marriage.

I agree with you, the children get effected and parents must try all they can to work out their differences and stay together no matter what, but abuse of any kind in a marraige can be considered for divorce, even adultary should not be tolerated i feel

better solution might be to outlaw marriage- the root of all unhappiness today.

Maybe they should make it harder to get married then people would really think about it. Too many people get married for the sake of a big wedding and the gifts. If they had to walk through broken glass on their tounges, they may think twice!