sleazy dishonest

@myte003 (179)
United States
December 14, 2006 7:36pm CST
I have a so called friend, that seems to think her life and everyone elses revolves around her and whatever drama she can invent. She and I and have remet after being away in different parts of the country for several years and so far she has spent the better part of the last 2 years I've been back home trashing nearly everyone and anyone whom the community here knows or has known for years. She also thinks that everyone else should pay her way, she thinks friendship means that she in her BIG SPENDING ADDICTION on a poor paupers budget, should suck the life out of everyone and anyones pockets she can. Then she further goes nuts as if her world is the only world one more time! She thinks after getting me to get her a swimming pool for her yard and hauling her around all summer with her never giving anymoney out for gas or maintenance or entertainment fees, that I should also buy a cell phone for her and pay for it, but I can have one too, but as far as she is concerned she could care less if I get to use it even if I need it for emergencies! Plus my family and myself have been physically ill, I need to take care of my own too, but God help me if it interferes with her drama to SPEND MONEY and TIME That is not hers to begin with...think I wanna have anything to do with this urchin?
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@Aali311 (6112)
• United States
15 Dec 06
Wow, there are lots of people like her in this world, and I just can't stand them, they are called SELFISH, they think the world revolves around them and that's all that ever matters, to hell with them, just live your life without a friend like that, you'll be better off.
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• United States
15 Dec 06
I read your issue..and all I can really say to that is..LIFE IS WAY TO SHORT TO DEAL WITH TRIFLING PEOPLE WHO DO NOTHING BUT STRESS YOU OUT...A TRUE FRIEND ISN'T GOING TO DO ANYTHING TO YOU THAT WILL CAUSE YOU TO QUESTION WHY YOU ARE FRIENDS WITH THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE..you two might've known each other for a long time, but that doesn't mean you have to take crap like that from her..you are not her mother and she is a grown woman..whatever it is she decides she wants, she should be able to go out and get it on her own..you might have to leave her alone..at least until she gets her own issues together..good luck
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@rock14 (125)
• Brazil
15 Dec 06
Thank You for your response!
• United States
15 Dec 06
She is just a friend? Nothing more? I would so kick her way out to the curb. She sounds like a sefish child and needs to grow up. (You didn't mention her age.) Do not do anything else for her!! She sounds very unappreciateive and people like that are a bummer to be around. You need to tell her straight up, in person if possible, that she is nothing but a waste of you time and energy. And do not soften that. She will continue to take advantage of you and everyone around her until people start shutting doors on her. Hopefully some day she will learn. Or Karma will get the best of her....either way!
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@baysmummy (1637)
• Australia
15 Dec 06
I am not really sure what you want to know or asking on advice on but it seems pretty simple to me "JUST DONT BE HER FRIEND ANYMORE" sorry but obviously she isnt a very nice person and you should move on and find another friend who will treat you better!
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@malsun (1528)
• United States
15 Dec 06
Why are you tugging her around your neck? just dump her and move on with your life.
@imadriscoll (2228)
• United States
15 Dec 06
I think that you already know the answer to your question. You need to walk away from this so called friend and fill your life with people who encourage you and lift you up. It would be far better to be alone then to be used by this girl.
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@Sunset50 (1397)
• United States
15 Dec 06
I don't think the problem is her, but you don't manage to say no. You don't need a friend like that, you seem to be a very nice guy. Tell her to hit the road, let her talk all she wants, everyone in that town knows how she is by now. Maybe she will grow up and start taking care of herself. She leeched on you over and over because you did not say no. Glad you finally see that now, and I wish you health with your physical illness, that you may regain your health soon.
@missinghim (1339)
• United States
15 Dec 06
That's not a friend at all. Why do you still speak to her. She's a leech and you need to get rid of her IMMEDIATELY! Why would you buy her a pool? Why are you supposed to support her?
@lisan22 (191)
• United States
15 Dec 06
Quick question, why are you still friends with someone who treats you like this? Why don't you just stop answering their calls, don't answer the door if they come over, and tell them that you no longer wish to have anything to do with them as they are slowly sucking the life from you and that's not what friends do?
@calvin222 (1606)
• India
15 Dec 06
OK you are angry. why dont you just dump this so called friend. it will make your life easier. and stop you from getting agitated. all the best.
• United States
15 Dec 06
well i would not be friends with someone like this she isnt the only one on earth she needs to get off her high horse and come down to reality.she is no queen things are not free if she wants something tell her to buy it herself she needs to realise how real life is.she should not talk trash about people she is not better than anyone else4 she just thinks she is.
• India
15 Dec 06
i think u shud cut contact now dear!
• United States
15 Dec 06
This seems to have turned into what is called a toxic relationship. The only thing to do is cut losses. Yes there i care but its just bringing you down. Friends make you feel good not bad. Cut your losses this person is not worth it and is a user.
@bryelee (451)
• United States
15 Dec 06
Why are you friends with her if she is so bad. If you want to get rid of her stop all converstaion with her. If she calls you don't answer the phone eventually she will get the hint.
@vipul20044 (5793)
• India
15 Dec 06
You know friendship is about sharing not just giving if she is your SO CALLED friend then why are you bothering so much I mean you got a great life to lead ahead Dont just ruin it because of one silly reason Its better if things arent going in your favour, you should just change the ways!
@dawang (124)
• China
15 Dec 06
so what are u mean to us to do/
@rosey3223 (1566)
• United States
15 Dec 06
Um, this may sound harsh...but I would lose her as a friend!! That is not a true friend to be doing that to anyone!! Maybe is everyone stops doing stuff for her, then she might get the hint. And that goes for you too!! It doesn't matter who that person is, if they treat you like crap and all they want is money, then I would lose them INSTANTLY!!! Stop "feeding" her needs and start taking care of your own!! Thank god I don't know this person cause she wouldn't want to exist when I was done with her.
@Metallion (2227)
• United States
15 Dec 06
See, the thing is I'd be concerned that she "remet" you because she needed someone else that could take advantage of. I'd end that friendship immediately, don't ever spend money on someone that appears to be a user like her.
• United States
15 Dec 06
This is not a friend to you; this woman is a user. She uses the bond of friendship as a device to manipulate the people around her. She has no respect for you and could care less about seeing you as an equal who needs her love and support sometimes too. Get her out of your life and let her know that you see her for what she is, "A Big Time User". Don't spend another cent on her and let her have to provide for herself for a change. She expects you to come in driving your "white" car to rescue her everytime she gets into a messy situation or has a need arise. Don't help her to depend on you for everything and drain you of your own resources.
• Philippines
15 Dec 06
nobody can be treated that way, if no one allows it. someone should stand up to her and say no to all her demands. if no one in your community will ever stand up to her, she'll get worst. who does she think she is anyway? the daughter of the mayor?