old being send to oldage homes..is it justifiable?

It depends on the person. My grandfather was placed in one because he had a stroke and couldn't care for himself anymore and his medical insurance would not pay for a 24 hour nurse. My grandmother was too old to be able to fully care for him. My dad visited him every day and would stay a few hours just sitting with him. My grandmother would visit a few times a week. She eventually fell and was placed in the same nursing home. She loves it there. When my grandfather was alives she was in the room next to him and she cared for him as much as she could. She has a ton for friends. It keeps her busy and active and wards off her depression. My dad at least talks to her on the phone twice a day and goes and visits her a few times a week. She would not be this active or even be able to live on her own without being depressed. My grandmother refused to live with my parents because she feels like she would be a burden and she doesn't want to leave any of her friends.

a last resort for sure i look after my mum she has got old. i am determend to hang on in there till stumps or until she requeres more medcal service than i can give.how ever i must say if there becomes a time when i can no longer cope i will consider an old age home for her.but i am strong so i think i can make it through all the way i hope so anyway i dont want to let her down

For me retirement homes are a last resort and can only be justified when the elderly person requires intense medical care which not be provided at home. They are extremely expensive and limit the elderly person's decision-making ability. Otherwise, at least here in Belgium, an elderly person can have a nurse without any charge and live humanely in their own home. Personally I wouldn't put my parents in one and wouldn't let my children put me in one.