Divorce

You did not mention whether you are attractive or not. Either way, you should get in the vehicle with him each time and go to the bar with him. It won't be long before he decides that home is the better option. He will either be jelous of other men hitting on you or he will get tired of spending double on drinks. If this doesn't work then decide whether you still love him or not. If not then move on. Life is too short.

It is but the best way to sort things out. Have you tried to have time with each other and talk? Have you tried to pen up with him? Does he know your predicaments in dealing with him? In situations like this, communication is still the best possible way to save a relationship--if you want to do such. All people in relationships should try to achieve to have equal footing with their partners, and they can do this through communicating. What if your talks with each other doesn't prove to be a success? You may want to try to have someone as a mediator between you two. He or she may be a friend of the both of you who can act as a neutral person in dealing with the issues. He may also be a marriage counselor of your choice. A support group which provides for the saving of relationships may also be of help. Divorce is not the first solution to marriage difficulties like this. But in the event that you have tried to all the things that could possibly save your relationship, like what I have suggested, you may want to ask for guidance. Also, you may want to consult a lawyer to talk about legalities on Divorce--like support on your kids, and the separation of your property. Good luck. :)

wow, it sounds like you two could use some time apart. If your husband intends to keep acting like this even after you have discussed your concerns then I would say that it defiantly is not a relationship that I would want to be a part in. By the way welcome to mylot.

i suggest you to divorce him and start a new life with your children.

is this rhetorical question?

leave him.. as u r not dependent on him u should start ur own life..

WELL THIS IS VERY BAD OF HIM YOU SHOULD TRY AND PRAY FOR HIM ARE YOU A CHRISTIAN

tel him mto change and about your situation if he not taking care better live him and move away with your child

hello!ohhh...you have a hard life with your husband.what you have told it is so disgusting.in my opinion you care the single person which can decide what to do with your life.you should think at your children.if you dont like to see your husband in this situation, your children dont agree to see him like this.you can have a wonderful live together with them and after a time maybe you will meet somebody which can understand you and get married with him.with this kind of people like your husband nobody can prosper or live with.so, in my opinion, you should take a decision quicly!have a nice day!

lady i think you should talk to him .........and tell him that he has a responsibilty towards the family and you. he should be more caring and loving. you should also tell him that drinking a lot will harm him . and in case he does`nt listen tell him you are going to stop paying his bills.

it seem to me that he is a libality to you, how you manage to put up with something like this for so long i feel sorry for you really i can't see the point of you being with him, your children are grown now it's time for you to live and enjoy your life.

If you are a sole supporter, if you can't get any pleasure and happy feeling from your marriage, just divorce with your husband..He is not a qualified husband. If I were you, I would talk to my children first, then talk to my husband and show your reasons fro the divoice.

My mother is going through something similar to this. My stepfather drinks all the time, does not work, my mother pays all the bills. He can't do simple things such as taking the garbage out or cleaning. After a while you get sick of the foolishness. No one should have to go through that. I would suggest maybe trying counseling if he will agree, if not you may be better off moving on with your life. 30 years is a long time to go through this. You also need to think about yourself this can cause a ton of stress for you. In the long run stress does not do anything but harm your health.

get a divorce... i guess your kids will understand your decision. my parents got divorced when i was still young, at some point i didnt understand why they have to divorced. but i was able to move on and accept the fact that they are not meant for each other.

you really have to act fast and not let him destroy you and your children. they might be losing their respect for him seeing him like that.

If you loved him and liked to live with him did continued with him, but when you did not want again to with him was better you said separated to him because he did not have responsibility for you and the family, although the lord really hated the divorce but the lord permitted that when one of the among them already not want to with again in caused the reason that made sense.

divorce her.he deserves it.

you can go for it. the character of your hubby as you have described is not at all respectable in this society and if you belong to this society you must quit him. so divorce must be the ultimate thing after this long run of so many years.........

Clearly divorce! I have heard of many cases like this in my country, that I am totally sick of them! Get rid of that jerk already! You deserve peace!

dont mistake me is he having another life.... dont your children supports u....