trying to help an alcoholic cope
@navy_cowgirl_00 (26)
United States
December 15, 2006 1:58pm CST
Ok I have a wonderful boyfriend that I honestly could not ask for a better man. He is perfect in everyway. Except that he is an alcoholic. He doesn't drink anymore but he does have periods of time that he gets depressed and bummy. He goes to meetings and everything. I wish I could help him. I feel so useless and at the same time selfish because I don't get to see much of him because he goes from work to the meetings to talking to his sponser to bed. This is an every night thing for him. I just wish I could be there for him and not feel so selfish because I need him and our kids need him. I feel so alone and I wish I could say or do anything to help him and he wouldn't have to go talk to someone he could talk to me. Please someone help me!
3 responses
@nobodyspecial (1011)
• United States
18 Dec 06
It is said that only an addict can understand another addict.
In some ways this is true.
He needs those meetings to help him stay sober. In the meetings he gains in strength working the steps, he learns more about himself and who he is and where he needs to go and want to.
The meetings are places where he can say the things he fears to say to anyone else but another addict.
What I suggest you do so that perhaps you can understand better is ask him about open meetings...these are meetings others can attend, spouses, parents etc...Then maybe you can learn why it is better that he speaks with his sponsor and other addicts rather than you...
Hon, he is doing this for himself and it is important...he is also doing this for you and that is important too.
@reeseyj (906)
• United States
15 Dec 06
This is a whole new life for him and its probably scary to him.I think he may be suffering from depression. The chemicals in his brain were probably effected and the only way he can get better is on medication. I also think you should tell him how u feel but you will wait until he is ready to open up. Hes already taken a big step dont push him to hard.
@calvin222 (1606)
• India
15 Dec 06
antabuse is the only thing that might work. preferable the subdermal implant. if you can convince him. but i say from personal experience- its never going to happen. move on. save your life before you get sucked in to deep.
