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Sharing feelings together

Loving you is letting you go In school years, many female walked past John (not his real name). However, John only concentrated in his studies and nothing else. He did not find anything amissed.. Even when he entered the society to work, he did not pay much attention to the working ladies around him. However, one day, someone entered into his life. She was new to the industry, her name was Laura (not her real name). Laura was so helpless in her new job. John took sympathy of her and helped her several times in her work. Soon, John and Laura were always seen together at the workplace. Slowly, John felt that his life had changed. He began to care alot about Laura. And one day, he held her hand as they walked to her apartment. Laura did not resist. John advanced and kiss her at her lips and their lips never part for the next 5 minutes. After kissing, Laura apologised to John who was puzzled by the apology. After a few moments, Laura told John that she was attached with a guy for 5 years. His heart broke... John experienced the peak and trough of love on the very night. He stepped back and walked away alone, but was held back by her. Laura could not bear to let him go. She wanted to be with John, but to maintain a relationship that can never made known. John loved Laura so much that he continued with her even knowing she was seeing another guy. Whenever Laura's boyfriend was unable to meet up with her, John became her back-up. With just a call, John would be with her. John felt horrible with such a relationship although he loved her alot. After a year of struggle, John decided that he had to let Laura go as he really loved her too much and do not want to mess her life. He hardened his feelings and did things that hurt Laura. He refused to pick up her calls when she was in need of a listening ear. Laura was upset and asked John if he wanted to break up. John nodded and everything ceased. Laura never wanted to see John again. Now, after a year since the break, John and Laura, are just like normal working colleagues. However, to John, he has never forget about Laura. He has never wake up not thinking about Laura. However, he did not regret on his decision to stop their relationship.

If love comes from appreciating goodness, it needn't just happen -- you can make it happen. Love is active. You can create it. Just focus on the good in another person (and everyone has some). If you can do this easily, you'll love easily. I was once at an intimate concert in which the performer, a deeply spiritual person, gazed warmly at his audience and said, "I want you to know, I love you all." I smiled tolerantly and thought, "Sure." Looking back, though, I realize my cynicism was misplaced. This man naturally saw the good in others, and our being there said enough about us that he could love us. Judaism actually idealizes this universal, unconditional love. Obviously, there's a huge distance from here to the far more profound, personal love developed over the years, especially in marriage. But seeing goodness is the beginning.

One must understand whether "what is love" can be a question which can be answered? Love cannot be a question. For, if it is a question then an answer should be there. If the answer is there, where is it? This question is ancient and an answer should have been found by now! If the answer has been found, the question would have disappeared. But the question still remains, meaning the answer has not been found. If it has not been found as yet, then what is the certainty that it will be found? Maybe the mind can never find the answer! A single answer, which will please all minds, is not possible for each mind has its own ideas of love. Hence a universal answer is an illusion. Individual answers are there for love and for this very reason there are arguments about love for each mind will contradict the answer of another mind. This contradiction is normal for each mind lives in a different point in time. Hence "what is love" is an illusionary question, which has no answer!