are online affairs real affairs??
By makatron
@makatron (503)
Dominican Republic
September 21, 2006 11:13pm CST
how many of you have found a person online which you know you prolly will never meet in person but you flirt and stuff, maybe a webcam thingy comes to the picture but no one knows about it, not even your partner
can that considered a real affair??
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11 responses
@Lackingstyle (7509)
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22 Sep 06
I think so. Even if there’s no risk of ever meeting that person. By all means flirt, it’s natural, humour is a form of flirting at the end of the day, however that’s a solid line you choose to cross or not. If you’re doing ‘favours’ for one another on the web-cam or not, I consider it to be real cheating.
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@zubair439 (3183)
• India
4 Oct 06
i have a friend that is in an online "relationship" right now, for the past 8 months. she constantly refers to him as her man and calls him by the name that he gave her, which is mark. they keep making plans to meet, but one or the other of them ends up having to cancel.
everytime i hear her talking about him, it makes me want to puke. she doesn't know him. she knows nothing about him, yet she talks about him so "lovingly". she's a pretty girl, but she's shy and she's insecure.
i think online love affairs gives people the freedom and confidence to be who they wish they could be. she's able to say things to this guy that she could never say to someone's face. she's also able to lead him to believe that she looks a certain way (the way that she wishes she really does look).
i think it's pathetic and sad. i do not believe in online love affairs. the whole idea is fake and it allows people to continue being less than who they want to be in their real lives, while living a double-life with an online alter-ego. it's just not healthy.
@browneyes (395)
• United States
22 Sep 06
In the town that I last lived in. The president of one of the loacal banks. Had an on line love affair. Never met the gal in person. Untill one day out of the blue. she showed up in the bank. She lived clear across the country.. She flew in to surprise him.. Needless to say he is now out of a job and doesnt have a wife either.. Never say never... for you never know what may happen.
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@hppygrrrl (419)
• United States
22 Sep 06
Someone stated it perfectly on another discussion: If you can't tell your partner about it...then it's cheating. I think it depends on what kind of relationship you are in. If you aren't married or engaged, go on & do your thing!
@i_agree_but (1183)
• United Arab Emirates
4 Oct 06
Many people have turned the friendship ito true.
I'm happy to respond these kind of simple questions. When the questions are asked which has some personal or intimate touch, I feel like talking with our true friends. Though my favorite topics are science and politics, I'm happy to share my personal view on so many issues like this with the international community, thanks to mylot for offering such site and space.
@aphrodisiac (1010)
• India
23 Sep 06
no...they are never real and true.....someone ends up getting hurt in the end
@aphrodisiac (1010)
• India
23 Sep 06
no...they are never real and true.....someone ends up getting hurt in the end
@dwhisper (12)
• United States
4 Oct 06
Yes, I would say it is cheating. Women do view this differently than men. Most men will say it is not cheating and most women will say it is.
It is a secret to your significant other, so if it isn't cheating, it is certainly being dishonest. What if your significant other point blank asked you if you were talking/doing/web-camming with someone online? Would you tell the truth or lie about it?
