Two is company, three is a crowd - Do you agree/disagree?

@SimplyJo (1694)
India
December 17, 2006 1:45pm CST
Friends.. how often does it happen that u are out on a date w/t ur guy/girl and your friend or your dates friend barges in ? Do you like it.. or really don't care.. or does it bother the hell out of you ? Well , for me it's totally cool (unless i'm in a very romantic mood.. i'd hate to have a third person around.lol), as for my b/f he totally freaks out if a friend of mine joins in and he's then sulking all the time.. So, what should i do ? should i never invite my friends when i go out w/t my guy or should i make my guy understand that i need to spend time w/t them too. sometimes i'm torn between my guy n friends. what to do ?
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85 responses
• United States
17 Dec 06
I think it depends on what is going on. If I'm out to dinner with a girl or at the movies, or anything that would constitute a date then I prefer it if there isn't a third person hanging around because that is my chance to get to know the girl I'm with. If it is instead me and someone else from a group of friends and a third person stops by then its not as big a deal.
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
17 Dec 06
u r right on dates a third person is a big NO NO.. but my friends insist to tag along at times.. one friend in particualar.. sigh..
• Philippines
18 Dec 06
Maybe you should talk to that "particular" friend that always joins you in your date ... explain to him/her the situation ... if he/she is really you friend then "he/she" will surely understand you .... When my and my hubby are with our group of friends we make it a point to treat each other more special ...
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
18 Dec 06
hi thanks.. but shes like my best friend and talking to her about it will only end of hurting her.
@babykay (2131)
• Ireland
18 Dec 06
not at all! In work I made really good friends with a group of two girls. NEVER did I feel like it was a crowd. In fact when a fourth joined, it seemed like more of a crowd. Definitely no truth to that saying as far as I am concerned : )
• United States
18 Dec 06
was one of them your romanic partner if not maybe you mis understood the post ?
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
18 Dec 06
Shelone is right. Its not about a group of 3 friends.. but being w/t your better half + another person
@code_11 (902)
• Nigeria
18 Dec 06
when it comes to the issue of me and my girl i strongly agree with you "two is company and three is definitely crown" but when it hs to do with work where you really have to share ideas three aint a crown.
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
18 Dec 06
hey ofcourse it's totally different at work. at work, you are a team and need to act like one :)
• India
18 Dec 06
yep , i agree with you buddy , wen you are two you have advantage as well as disadvantage but wen you are three there is always disadvantage , you wont get to spend time with your love alone , lack of privacy , cant xpresss your feelings straight away as it may hurt the 3rd,even they dnt understand and move out at circumstances so it will always be a probelm , so i prefer being two is better than three
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
18 Dec 06
totally right. thats exactly how i feel too but it seems a bit rude to shrug off the 3rd person
@rosey3223 (1566)
• United States
18 Dec 06
Well it seems as if I am always the one being the crowd, and I hated it!! I hated being with my sister and guy or my sister and one of her friends, or with a friend and their guy or...you get my drift!! I hated it because no one really involved me in anything and I felt that I should not have been there, like I was interrupting something important. But I was always invited. Sure I could have said no, but I wanted to spend time with my sis or my friend!! But if I was you, I would do two things. One, tell your guy in the nicest way possible that you need to spend time with that friend...but also make sure that you don't give your guy ALL of your time, spend some quality alone time with your friends too!!! Two, if you had these friends BEFORE you got with your guy, then he needs to understand that they are just as important to you as he is and that you need to spend time with them as well. I probably just said the same thing over again, but being that I have been there, I understand!!!!
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
20 Dec 06
i know.. friends n bf.. equal importance. gotcha :) thx
@sakes14 (108)
• India
21 Dec 06
i think you shud not invite ur frnds wen u r with ur b/f coz he needs to spend quality time with u... And if u invite ur frndz he wud feel that ur luv n time is being shared by others wich he wont like n hence feel left out. its not that u shud never invite frndz wen u r with ur b/f but that shud be once in a while. The frndz n b/fs shud be kept separate.
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
21 Dec 06
i understand. thats what my guy says too.. he does need quality time w/t me.. i just can't manage my time well so i mix everything. i realise i shouldn't. thx
@Aali311 (6112)
• United States
18 Dec 06
Sometimes, like you said it all depends on the mood, if your boyfriend doesn't like it then I guess it's not his style, just make time for him and make some time for your friends seperately. And I'm sure there will be times where it's all of you can go out with out him catching an attitude about it.
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
18 Dec 06
thanks girl !
@sharon613 (2321)
• United States
18 Dec 06
I agree.
@isha900 (1459)
• India
18 Dec 06
i also agree
@GardenGerty (160978)
• United States
17 Dec 06
I am not quite in a dating position anymore, but it does annoy me, none the less, when I am trying to spend some quality time with my hubby and someone else needs his time and attention more than I do. I had a really bad blowup at him last week over this.
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
14 Feb 07
see my point..
@koikoikoi (1246)
• United States
18 Dec 06
I agree because if you have two guests plus you that is three. If you have three guests that is four in total and it would feel like a crowd. Four feels like too many people already.
@roadromeo (376)
• India
18 Dec 06
love - love
well get it straight to your boyfriend that you have gotta life of your own too or rather you tell him to give your own space and that you need to dedicate some time in socializing too and for that you two need,to be away for a little while and also promise him that when you both meet again, you will give him all the possible love in this world as you also need to understand that he loves you and that's why he dosen't wan to be away from you for even a little while!!
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
18 Dec 06
yes thats good.. we shud keep aside some time for friends and rest all i can save up for my guy and when we do meet.. i'll shower all my love on him so he feels really special :)
@Stoxic (128)
• India
18 Dec 06
I didn't think so because we are three friend and when we all meet togther we enjoy very much than two's so i say this is wrong to say that three is a crowd three is also company.
• Hong Kong
18 Dec 06
There is a old Chinese story: One monk carry water himself to drink,two monks raise water together, three monks have no water to drink. It needs cooperation for a group to do somthing. If everybody think about himsel only,then this group may meet many problems when deal with some issues.
• Iran
18 Dec 06
its funny!
• United States
18 Dec 06
3 people i just dont like that, 4 people like a double date eh its better than 4 but 2 is the best
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
18 Dec 06
oh yes double dates are lots of fun sometimes.. we all DO want to spend quality time alone with our gf/bf so thats more imp but yes if u ask me too.. 4 is better than 3 anytime !
• India
18 Dec 06
i agree with u completely
• United States
18 Dec 06
i think two is company and three is just uncomfortable and four is better
• India
18 Dec 06
Dont know
@drrahul44 (1152)
• India
18 Dec 06
i don't agree....it cool to hag out with a group of friends rather than one single friend....u feel lost..
@vikceo (1301)
• India
18 Dec 06
i do not agree with this thought completely. it really depends who are the two in a company and who are the three.. definetly if you talk in terms of a couple thenthird is a crowd but if you are looking for a healthy discussion then three could be more useful
• India
18 Dec 06
Depends.. Date, then three's most certainly a crowd.. Unless the 'barger' happens to be a cuter chic.. :P.. Lol..