Liar!
@theaterjunkie (342)
United States
December 17, 2006 3:07pm CST
lol, sorry for making all these posts. I've just got a lot to say today.
I found out some sad news the other day. I dated a guy for 15 months. We met on-line through a friend. We met in person when my parents let me go to his prom in April (they had to come too of course to make sure he was okay! We went to prom alone but the day before his prom we met everyone). I thought that we were going to get married. He gave me a promise ring.
I realize how stupid that is now becuase we were so young, we hadn't graduated in high school. He broke up with me in May because he met someone closer to him, which broke my heart. 15.5 months gone away. He went out with this girl a week later, and gave her his phone number 3 days after he broke up with me.
Anyway. I found out yesterday through some of his friends I still talk to (his friends are great) that after 6 months of being in a relationship with me he gave up. He didn't want to be in a relationship with me anymore. He told his friends not to tell me. He felt like he was OBLIGATED to stay in the relationship. He didn't want the relationship, he felt like he had to be in it. He thought that if we broke up, I'd kill myself over him, even though I'm perfectly stable and have never had any suicidal thoughts. He was the guy that was so suicidal.
I'm telling ya, after finding all this information out, I was just CRUSHED. Even though I have a boyfriend now and i love him with all my heart, it's still a terrible feeling to know that the rest of the 9 and a half months we dated, it was forced on his part. It hurts so bad to know that i wasn't wanted.
To all of you that have never experienced this, I hope you never will. I wouldn't wish that feeling even on my worst enemy.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
17 Dec 06
My dear, do not cry over spilt milk. Go on with your life. Sometimes men do stupid things. I have had my fair share of stupid men in my life. What that jacka$$ did to you was inconsiderate and uncaring. He should have been honest with you instead of leading you on. Consider him a loser. Don't allow what he did to you bring you down. His turn will come. What goes around comes around!
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@emilylynn2003 (876)
• United States
18 Dec 06
very well put.. i want to add one thing.. be happy you did not marry him .. be happy it didnt last any long .. dont think about all the time you did spend think about all the time that you could habe spend thinnk about all the things that could have have happend that didnt be gratful for what happend .. you learned from it i hope.. oh and one more thing threr are tons of fish in the sea.. so go on and make sure you catch a good one
@dradelelassy (1208)
• United States
17 Dec 06
im happy for you that you are stable and found new love
two lessons we can learn from your experience
1-maturity is important for success
2-express one feeling beside honesty are important for love
@princess07031980 (5412)
• United States
17 Dec 06
Oh honey I am so osrry that you feel that way. It sounds to me that you are a very caring person. DO NOT feel that you wasted your time. You should not feel that he did either. He chose to stay with you all that time for some reason. He was probably confused and just being a typical guy. It is his loss that he left you. I am glad you are happy with your current boyfriend. The affection you get from him should be better than anything with that last guy. Remember this: a broken heart before will help you learn that a better love can make your heart more joyous in the future.
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@ansmellayisa (504)
• Australia
17 Dec 06
some man are narsty hope you didnt do the bug thing with him maybe thats all he wanted. goodluck with the new guy be careful
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@mikecoolguy17 (240)
• United States
18 Dec 06
i know, that hurts alot. guys can be so mean. dont let that jerk get to you. your so much better off without him.
@icequeen (2840)
• Canada
18 Dec 06
This guy sounds like an idiot...to tell everyone personal things about you and his relationship. If you ever see him again..I would let him have it...However...bad this was..it's over. You are in a new relationship so you should focus on that...I am sure things will work out great. Not every guy is the same. I am sorry this happened to you...but it is all a part of living and learning...
@vipul20044 (5793)
• India
18 Dec 06
you know one should never force himself into a relationship
Siriously a guy who is into such actions and then he isnt a man enough to admit it
Just consider yourself as too lucky that you got rid of such a liar
Else its just 6 months you wasted, it couldve been worse:) But he is out and out cold!
@cr1st1nel (3564)
• Romania
18 Dec 06
These are the guys, i think that he love you for a period and after that his feelings about you started to get ice, don't know why maybe something wrong happened between you two. I wouldn't fell good if i would know that my girlfriend is staying with me only by being forced. Good luck!
@bonnitabelle (143)
• Canada
18 Dec 06
Sweety, I am so sorry that this happened to you. Unfortunately, boys in high school don't know how their actions will affect the girls that they are breaking up with. Actually, some grown men are the same way. From what you wrote about him, you didn't need him anyway. You need someone who appreciates you for who you are and doesn't want you to change. I am glad that you are happy now. Remember that you are worth every ounce of respect that he is showing you. Congratulations on your happiness now.
@sogeeahouse123 (451)
• Nigeria
18 Dec 06
emotions is a strong aspect of the human soul,when not properly handled can put an individual into problem.the only person that can hundle the emotions of a human is Jesus in that soul.advice dont jumping men just because you charted with them or he took you out on a date..Love is much stronger than all those acts
@josan181237 (1204)
• Philippines
18 Dec 06
that's so sad. but don't dwell on it. be happy you found someone else to love and is worthy of your love. always be thankful.
"it's better to love and lost than to live with a jerk for the rest of your life."
@BigDeal (19)
• India
18 Dec 06
Hey, Dont you ever feel that no body needs you. You now have someone else in your life today. Make sure that he is able to communicate with you properly. For that you need to be open and give freedom to your partner. Communication holds the key to any relationship. Past has to be forgotten.. It was not your mistake that he left you. But it is a case for introspection. If that person could not openly discuss anything with you, how come it was a good relationship?
Keep one thing in mind, if you have anything in mind for or against anybody you think you love most just let it out in front of them.That will clear your mind off which otherwise would get piled with many issues day by day.
In relationships, do give space to the other person. Everybody needs to breath easy.
@neeraj07 (577)
• India
18 Dec 06
Its really sad that you had to go through this situation in your life and I really hope you manage to get over it. Please dont blame yourself anytime because you weren't the one who was lying about the relationship it was him. And you never should waste your time in thinking about cowards like him, who dont even have the courage to speak their mind and tell what they want. I really hope u manage to forget him and get over this difficult period in your life.
@artygirl2006 (641)
•
18 Dec 06
awww thats so sad. guys are idiots sometimes. least u have a new man now ..concentrate on that :)
@alicia6068 (547)
• United States
18 Dec 06
I AM REALLY SORRY TO HEAR THIS! THAT WAS SO WRONG OF HIM TO DO!! I CANT BELIEVE HE WOULD OF EVEN SAID THAT, YA KNOW? HES A JERK ANYHOW...YOU HAVE MOVED ON AND YOU HAVE FOUND BETTER. :) HOPE ALL IS WELL WITH YOU NOW. GOOD LUCK...AND MERRY CHRISTMAS! :)
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
18 Dec 06
It might have been a lie as well, he might have said so just coz he wanted you to be hurt. Although this is very common i thing , more than we know. I was with a guy for 4 years and i kniow that the last 6 months we were both fed up with eachother but stayed out of pitty for the other.. we are both aware of it though..
I am glad u have found a new bf that u love. try to forget all about the old guy and his betrayal!
