strict parenting is the best parenting

I don't think you can generalize like that. Each kid is different. You have to know and understand each kid well enough to recognize what parenting style will work best for them; what worked well with you may not work well for someone else! I don't have any kids (yet) so perhaps I'm not one to talk; I do have a psychology degree so I have some education in this area, but mainly I'm just speaking from my experiences of the way I was raised and the way my friends + acquaintances were raised, and how they turned out. From some, strict parenting was OK; but for others, they rebelled so hard that they turned out a lot more screwed up than other kids who 'ran wild!' Kids who are naturally more experimental, more adventurous, need to have more freedom. These tend to be the more "artistic" kids, the iconoclasts. Too much restriction will only make them test you to see how far they can go. For example: with lax parenting, perhaps they will smoke some pot; with strict parenting, they might take heroin just to spite their strict parents! I'm not kidding, I've seen this happen. Other kids, however, take well to a more strict/regimented approach. These tend to be the ones who are more obedient, conservative in the first place. But this is in their nature. If a kid is not that way, you can't force them; you can't force a square peg into a round hole. If the kid is that way, they will thrive from the structure you place for them. About myself - I am the product of extremely lax parenting. While someone like you may not agree with my lifestyle, I have to tell you that I am very happy, healthy, and am becoming more successful in my work every day. I love my life. My mom who let me 'run wild' is proud of who I have become and we have a great relationship. I think honestly, if I had strict parents, I would have serious psychological issues at this point. I thank my mom for figuring out what kind of person I was early on and not trying to make me into something I'm not.

I dont think that it is always the best parenting style because I have had many friends who were children of strict christian families and they just grew up and rebelled. Everyone wants what they cant have and the children are no exception.

They will just have to learn to hide what they do really well from you.