how can i get my husband to be more open abot how he truly feels?

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i am married for more than a year. most people say that the first few years is the sweetest yet the hardest part of a married life. some call it "adjustment period," where many relationships do not survive in these phase. i must say that i am happy with him, we have two adorable kids and we don't argue that much anymore unlike in the first few months we've been together. occasionally, we fight on different issues then after a few hours or a day, we ok agian as if we never really fight at all. i'm glad that after all the fights weve been through were still together but one thing that bothers me alot is that my husband never talks too much or ellaborate what he has in mind whenever i try to get a serious conversation with him. sometimes when i ask him questions,he doesn't say anything and even laughs/smiles at me leave me hanging waiting for a good response from him. there was one time, we had a fight when it found out his ex-gf was still sending him sms. i ask him if she's been seeing her still... he just laughs at me and said im just paranoid. that i have nothing to worry about etc. etc. Also there was a time a ask if he is not happy with me cause we can't seem to meet in the same ends and i was willing to file an annlment if he wanted to... he just said nothing. doesn't even give assurance or whatsoever. somehow i'm expecting that would be the moment when he's suppose to tell me exactly how he feels, what has to be done to make things work for both of us, everything... but i always get disappointed with my expectations. i mean, is this just the nature of a man or is there some ways i can get him to answer questions when i want it? am i just over reacting or needing his attention to much? please tell me...