Why do some friends ignore us even if we love them very much?

some people are rather self absorbed, so as much as they may appreciate and want a friendship its all about them.... i had a friend who was great to hang out with and stuff and i was there for her when she needed but she wasnt there for me when i needed, shed come up with excuses that she wasnt seeing anyone to hang out n stuff....i stopped talking to her and even years later when she told a mutual friend she wanted to catch up, i said no..i dont need that kinda crap in my life. i have other friends who are selfish...they want you around when they want u but not when you want them to hang out...but they also can b very caring and kind... and then i also have some new friends ive known only a year or so now since i moved state, who are the kindest, sweetest friends i can think of having...and we all have fun hanging out together....for them and many other friends i have i am grateful only you can know if its HONESTLY worth keeping these friendships or chalking them up as experience and moving on where you will find new friends...

a PERSON LIKE THAT i WOULD LEAVE THEM ALONE FOR GOOD. SOUND LIKE THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS.

because they are egoists...

well i can relate to your situation cause i also have one friend like that who i love so so much but she in turn seems to ignore me.i mean when i call her she talks with me for a long time but other than that she never calls me or contacs me in any way.well one reason i found out was she had many friends and i guess she also does not love me that much i love her.so i guess this might be the problem with you too.love cannot be one sided.if your friend does not love you then i guess that friendship wont work.

Or if you have friends who only talk to you when they want something... :(

i have the same prob som times my friendz do not take me in to consideration the act as though am not ther

That´s a good discussion subject. As well as there are love relationships where one ignores the other even if he or she is very loved by her/his partner, the same happens with friendship. Doesn´t necessarily mean that they are incomfortable with us, they are just less ready to give than the other person. Or their character is more independent and they don´t even realize that the other one feels as if he is being ignored or even hurt, because they are too self-involved. The solution: talk to them about how you feel. If they carry on behaving the same way as before, drop them. You will find other friends.

Sometimes them type of people are consider nonsenstive and they reall y sont like to show love, at some point people have to get help for that but some people rather not get help. They are the people who are scared to show there feelings!

some time our ego or some time we think that person is my best friend but thats not acctually in the mean of other person so i think or there is many reason like some time by the some cause we had break otherones heart so

You have a lot to learn. Sometimes you think people are your friends when really they are not. They just try to get close to you for another reason then they have a better way to manipiate you. People are cruel in other words. dont put so much trust in them till you know they really are your friends. good luck

Its simple human nature. Sometimes we love them so much that they are afraid to love us back as if sometimes they make mistake it could lead to disasters in the relationship. So they want to avoid that. Or they love someone else who does not like you and they dont want to lose them.

Yes I have had the same problem. It usually occurs with my male friends and I think it happends more when you spend a lot of time together. Distance makes the heart grown fonder and sometimes we spend to much time together and they tend to turn away

Sounds like you need to stop giving so much to these "friends".

Thouse people who ignore us in inportant moments that are not friend.A certainly friend is with you through thick and thin,not only whene you have money or whene you help him.And whene a friend ignore si must ask him if is it really him

...well same with u,, along time I has friend like that..and make me confouse so bad..but I leave it..and make me free...now even we meet.. we like stranger ..like 'r condition now... I sugeest u leave them ..don't be care with friend like that

people like that shouldnt be taken seriously. they are not worth calling friends in the first place. life is complicated and people are still the more. so u should learn to distinguish between those who are genuine and fakes..

i've felt like this a lot of times,ajithlal. :o) don't worry ... you're not alone. i've also acted this way a lot of times as well. when i do, it's normally because i'm busy or i have a lot on my mind. i'm generally a very demonstrative person though so i always make it a point to have coffee with my friends from time to time. also, i've lost all my friends during my childhood (that, my friend, is another story in itself), but don't worry - when you really need someone and your friends are always there to support you no matter what - then you're very lucky.

even if they come for help... help them have a big heart... solve their problem... but show other that they're the ones who beg for ur help i hate such people... but then i think if i don't help htem wat;s the difference between them and me...

hav u heard that ppl care those who cares for themselves.may b we give them extra attention,just dun bother for them.then check thier response n attitude.

hai frnd It is necessary that at first u must have confidence that its true concern that you show to others.To love is easy,but being loved is a gift.So why dont uou feel that you are blessing them with a boon by distributing the love you have for them.One more thing to love is your part,but expecting in return is not fair.Its their problrm that they are missing a golden guy like u.