Discipline and Children, How much is too much?

i dont know... but as a kid.. i got my butt beat really bad for doing stupid.... back then i thought my parents were the worst.. now come to think of it.... im glad they did what they did... i've learned a lot... but then again after being beat up they would always cheer me up and tell me what i did wrong....

this is just my opinion but,i think children need to understand and experience most human emotions,not,although at a young age,,rage and hatred,apart from them children should be shouted at,,they need to know they have pushed too far,,i dont believe in violence,,hitting,spanking but i also dont believe in molly coddling them either,,if parents sit children down and try to explain things calmly all the time,,waiting till the initial anger has worn off,children will think all people do this,,to never get shouted at means they dont understand fully that people are allowed to react to certain situations with displeasure,children sometimes do bad things and a good shouting at and then letting them know you are very angry with their behavior,,not them,their behavior is a good thing,,they too need to be able to know what is acceptable and what is not and if they never experience 'the wrath' of a very angry parent they will be in for huge shocks when older,,to learn to handle agression they need to see agression handled and if this can be done without laying hands on a child all the better,,sometimes we go too far ,,never tell the kids off,let them do as they wish because it makes them happy,,what about when they are older,,they lose it because they are not used to the word NO, how does that help them in the real bad world,,all emotions should be used to show children just how to use them and still get your point accross