M I a bad son?

This happens to everyone at some point. In the past, I have made gifts, such as homemade cookies or craft decorations. Christmas definitely seems unfair to people who don't have enough money to buy all the stuff they try to sell you, but it doesn't have to be. Remember that the spirit of the holiday is being with loved ones, who will no doubt understand that you can't buy the things you want to get them. You can make something for them, or perform some sort of service, like shoveling snow or fixing a leaky pipe. The major point is to be there for them. Christmas has certainly earned the name "Giftmas," but that doesn't mean you have to celebrate it the same way everyone else does.

No not really I am in the same boat nearly I can't buy what I wanted to buy because of Money and I feel awful about it but try and make the best of it

Christmas is not about spending money it's about the birh of Jesus. Society has made it into spending money because most people aren't Christians and have tried to turn it into a secular event. You shouldn't feel bad for resenting this pressure to spend money because it is wrong that we are made to feel this way. you don't have to succumb to this if it makes you feel bad because that goes against the whole spirit of the occasion. I celebrate true Christmas but some years I have gone without buying gifts due to lack of funds and my friend and family have been understanding and say that it's about being together and seeing me, not about receiving a gift. If people only want you for a gift they should feel bad, not you. Enjoy the true spirit of Christmas and don't give in the selfish view progated by society.

No,I don't think you are a bad boy.

Although it is sad, I understand all too well how you feel. I myself have become "Mrs. Scrooge" although I am usually a really happy and "giving" kind of person. Christmas has almost completely lost the "CHRIST" it was meant for. I am a single mother of 3 who just lost her job 2 months ago and cannot really afford to buy them anything right now, so I tend to get depressed around the holidays as others hand out these expensive gifts and I know I can't. The only people happy as I see it is retail stores and credit card companies, because even the people who go out and "charge it" end up crying in January when they get their bills. Keep your spirits up, make your parents a gift from the heart, maybe a picture frame with your pic in it. As they say...."It's the thought that counts" and how much more "thought" can you get than something made by hand with love.

Don't be broken hearted dude..You parents are lucky to have a son like you. Atleast you r thinking of it..not all da parents are as lucky as urs. Cheer up boy.

no i am running low on cash and cant get all my family presents and i dont feel bad at all

Ok it is normal to feel bad but christmas is not all about BUying presents or about the cost of them make them a card or something it will mean more to them then some store bought thing. Every year my daughters and i make my parents a present so i can teach them the true meaning of christmas.

dont worry, my friend..i'm sure your parents will want you to be with them in presence more than the gifts itself...spend time with them and chat with them will be much better than buying gifts for them and not there physically to see them.

You're not that bad, it's not necessety to purchase gifts for christmas, you can do service for your parents like showing them true charity and etc.

I don't think you are a bad son. I think you are recognizing what Christmas has become to so many people. I wish we could take Christmas to a simpler meaning...instead of going out and spending money like crazy, why can't we just enjoy getting to spend time with out families and focus on Christ's birth...the real meaning of Christmas. Don't feel bad...and if you really feel that you must have a gift for your parents, how about coming up with a gift of time. Here is an example: Make a card and a coupon. The coupon could be for anything...getting to spend a day with you --no interruptions. Or, if there is something mundane that your parents have to do on a regular basis (my mom has to take my grandmother to the doctor monthly, so I could give her a coupon for a day off of doctor duty...where I would handle the appointment), give them a coupon stating that you will do it for them one or two times...no questions asked. It is in the giving of yourself (or ourselves) that I think we really do get to feel the true meaning of Christmas.

no, parents don't normally expect much from their children, remember its the thought tha counts. i haven't gotten my mom birthday or christmas gifts is a long time, since i moved out of the house. she knows i'm having financial difficulties and doesn't mind. just a card. just to let her know i'm thinking about her. nothing too big. right now i'm making a dvd of my children to give to my family.

You are not a bad son since you feel for your parents. Start saving now and I'm sure you can make buy them something next Christmas to make up for this year's. I'll be most glad if my son will explain to me his situation and just be around to spend the Christmas time with me. I need my kids to love me more than fulfilling my material needs.

You know I can't do anything for my parents either... im trying to make them homemade gifts so atleast they know the thought is there

I feel the same as you. Alot of times Christmas reminds us more of what we don't have than what we do. But do your parents love you for what you can buy them or for the love you show them? I know I would rather get a home made card or a box of cookes that my kids have put time in than anything else. When people take the time to work on something no matter how small it is, it really shows their love than spending the money to get something quick without much thought. You are not wrong in how you feel, sometimes I have felt the same, but don't dwell on it, think instead of what you can do to show your love and don't try to pin point it with monetary value. It will be a priceless gift.

No your not a bad son because you can't get them a gift. They would probably love the fact that you want to get them a gift and that your being responsible enough to know that you can't and aren't getting into deeper debt buying them one. Christmas is not about the gifts its about love and family.

If you can't afford it, then don't buy it. I doubt they want you go to further into debt for a silly gift. Maybe you can make them something? I'm sure just your presence is enough for them!

No, i had a similar situation 4 years ago, I was skint in university. What I did was buy a nice but cheap photoframe. I stuck a picture of the entire family in it, and gave it to them. Came to less than £4, and it's still hanging today :) The next, my mum loves pepper, and I got her a pepper pot for £3. She uses it everyday! It's not hard christmas on a budget. It is a matter of just being creative, and thinking what people want or would like :)

dont feel let down, its jsut a passing phase. maybe next year you can gift them when things are better. and moreover christmas is not about gifts, its about feelings and emotions. use your creativity to find a way to celebrate and have a nice time with them without the budget hurting you. and always remember parents are very understanding and accommodating.

I don't think you are wrong for feeling the way you do. I pretty much stopped buying presents for others around yuletide, over 20 years ago, because it just makes no sense. It would be nice if most other people stopped doing it also. If you can get a gift for someone and you want to, why not do that when you can? Not when the social pressures to belong are banging you over your head?