adoption

i dont think there is any wrong with adopting a child it will add colour and purpose to the life of your friend to raise a child is demanding but one can achieve equal satisfaction by seeing his grown up achieving the goals which you dreams so my advice FACILITATE your friend

It is veru nice and a very beautiful thing we can make, but we sure need to have the right conditios to created an adopted kid. Your friend should wait more until until she has enough money and the right to conditions to raise a little kid. If she really wants do to that anyway, try to help as much as possible. That's what I would do, I would help my friend as much as possible.

hmmmmmmmmmm these are the common problems faced by any one, but i am surprised to see the people of US also striving for money...... i think you should help her and find more ways to earn....

This is a hard one. I am sure, that you as a friend, you want to be as supportive as you can with your friend. If she want's to adopt this baby, support her, even if you don't agree with her. But, you are under no obligation to give her, or lend her money. Explain to her that your finances are also limited and you need your money for yourself. Good luck

Your friend needs to be able to provide for a child before she should adopt one. She needs to be serious about her obligation. What about her husband, does he have enough money to support a child? A couple needs to work hard and be serious-minded to fulfil their obligations to a family.

For start, you are absolutely right, your friend has no conditions at all for being the adoptive mother of a child. On my own opinion, she is not even mature enough to consider the possibility of being a mother. A baby brings work and responsability. She must think on that. She may not act by impulse. The baby will need her for the next years, not only for a couple of days or months. Right now, it seems to me that your friend is not thinking. She only consider the possiblity of keep the child, is not thinking on the money a child's needs to her development, and on the work that a child's brings either. The adoption of a child it is not like the adoption of a pet. She may not turn back to the shop, and say that she does not want the child for no longer. However, you should not be too upset with this. Before the adoption, there will be a psychological avaliation of your friends, just as a completely observation through the social security, and I may not believe that they will consider to give her the child.

See having a passion or sharing or caring someone is good but then you should be sensible enough If you think that you wont be able to feed up someone, love cannot be enough for survival no Well just ask her you are willing to lend money but till how long she can live like this?

how can an adoption agency give a baby to an unfit mother? Seems crazy and so wrong.

In adoption the state looks at income and everything that will involve the baby. They wouldn't have let her adopt the baby if she didn't make enough to take care of the baby. Is the adoption legalized now? If so and when she does get the baby, if she still asks for help, then don't give her to much. Maybe only give to the child. I mean it's not the child's fault the adopted parent can't manage. I hope she really thinks long and hard about this. I mean it's not your responsablities to raise the child. You told her not to go through with it. Maybe she will change once she actually has the baby with her.

If you are so concerned about the well being of the baby, which I can't blame you at all! I would call Children Services and turn in the mother and the "adoptive" mother. The baby will get a good home with stable parents who are able to take care of the child.

I don't think its smart to help if you even do not earn so much urself

No you should not help because you can't. She decided to adopt the baby which was a bad idea. Instead refer her to programs in your area that help low inclome single mothers. Here we have WIC which helps with formula, food, and diapers. Also we have CalWorks which is aid to families in the welfare system. Bottom line she made a bad decision and there is nothing you can do about it.

Adoption is a legal process that creates a new, permanent parent-child relationship where one didn't exist before. The adoption proceedings take place in court before a Judge. Adoption bestows on the adoptive parents all the rights and responsibilities of a legal parent, and gives the child being adopted all the social, emotional, and legal rights and responsibilities of a family member. Sometimes, court language will include the words "as if born to" to describe the new parent-child relationship. Adoption is a permanent proposition that requires a lifelong commitment by everyone involved. It is extremely important that you adopt for the right reasons.Adoption is for forever. And it's also not the best option for every family. As you seek your own answers to the question "is adoption right for your friend?", it's equally important to explore the other side of the question: "Your friend is right for adoption?" Anyone who plans to adopt must also be prepared to properly deal with the financial, time, and other significant lifestyle commitments that will be necessary in order for parenting to be a success.

Your friend wants to adopt a baby from another friend or from anyone else. I found you are helping person to her. I believe that your friend taking the correct decision.

dont lend her any more money ..she got herself into this mess. she cant expect you to help her out.

therers no reason why you should not help her.after all it is for the baby.a baby needs a warm and loving enviorment.if your friend can proviude all this then you shoiuld help her out.but at the same time please make her realise that the responsibilities of having the baby as well as the costs are going to grow and she has top realise this and get a better job asap.i have given some links below which i hope helps your friewwnd realise what adoption is aall about! http://www.cara.nic.in/ http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adoption http://www.ichild.org/

you are right! she should not adopt a baby when she cant even afford to support herself! i'm confused...i dont know whether to ask you to help her or not...one part is saying 'dont help! she should learn her lesson the hard way' but another part of me is thinking that 'if she's broke, the baby will suffer too', maybe you can help by buying a big bottle of milk powder so that you can be sure that they baby is well fed?

i would feel guilty as well, not for not lending HER money, but for not helping the innocent child. She should have never adopted a kid. i think you should be financially stabil before you even consider adopting, or having a child. Children are innocent and they deserve to be brought up with safety. both emotionally and financially. I do not know what you should do, my mail instinct tells me to let her handle this herself, but then my softer side takes over and tells me that u should keep helping her... Oh I really don´t know what i would do!

In India, we thought that when a child born he born with his on luck & fate, so I feels if u yoursrlf feels that she is in need but you cannot help her, you should not worry & feel guilty but if you feel you can help her you should as a friend & let her adopt.

No,do not help.She is responsible for her own actions and feelings.If she has decided to raise the baby then let she herself does it, you have not adopted the baby. DOnt feel guilt, you were not party to that unhwise decision.