Becoming Desensitized - Does Going to a Cemetary Bother You?
By Pigglies
@Pigglies (9329)
United States
December 19, 2006 2:42am CST
Today I went to a pet cemetary to finally take a pet in for cremation that died one month ago. I loved this guinea pig, but the sadness was over and it was just a body to me at this point. However, one of my friends had to come along because I figured if we were going out that way (it's about an hour), I'd rather not make that trip twice.
The first time I went, I was a bit bothered by it all. But now I've probably been 10 times or so. I rescue older and special needs guinea pigs, and so when you've got 7 or 8 year olds or pets with heart conditions, obviously eventually they'll pass on. I've kind of gotten used to the drive there. Of course, the actual passings make me very sad. But to me the body is just a body.
My friend couldn't even go inside to watch me fill out the forms and drop off the pet. Instead, she sat in the car. When I came out, she was sobbing. She never knew the pet I dropped off or anything. I guess to her it was just a sad place. While to me, it is a beautiful place because people decorate the gravesides so beautifully.
Does going to a cemetary bother you? To me it's just a place with bodies.
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@Withoutwings (6992)
• United States
18 May 07
I am not bothered by Cemetaries. I actually go to them somestimes to do tombstone rubbings or take photos. I grew up next to a cemetary ... so it's not a bad place to me. I still get really upset and cry over deaths - but the cemetary doesn't actually bother me.
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@Withoutwings (6992)
• United States
21 May 07
As long as I don't hurt the tombstones it's ok. Well, I haven't really done many in Florida...but it helped in Ohio that my uncle was on the county seat or whatever.
@pebbles724 (642)
• United States
31 Dec 06
It does bother me to go to a cemetery, because it reminds us of the loss of our pet or loved one. It makes us remember that they are gone and we will never see them or be with them again. It's just a sad place to be.
@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
29 Dec 06
No it doesn't bother me in the least. When I was a kid my mother used to drive my step dad crazy on our Sunday drives. She would go to all the cemeteries in the region where our family originated looking for ancesters to help her get into the Mayflower Society. I couldn't tell you how many we visited and some of the headstones were dated in the 1600s. I remember seeing the one where my name sake was buried. She was a cousin of President Roosevelts family. Don't remember the date.
Another interesting note was when I played trumpet in the school band we always had a Memorial Day Parade that ended up in the cemetery. I played the echo taps and many times I did it laying down on someone's grave....until one day the music teacher caught me at it.
@Pigglies (9329)
• United States
29 Dec 06
Oh wow, that would be kind of interesting to actually look for people buried there. I remember when I was walking up a hill to where a friend's baby was being buried, looking at the names and seeing how close together the dates were. I guess all the babies are buried near each other.
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@Pigglies (9329)
• United States
30 Dec 06
I don't know if they always are, just that in some cemetaries they shape the plants like teddy bears and stuff and have a baby section. But I guess they could also be buried elsewhere or near family like you said.
My 3 month old cousin was buried next to all these cute little plants and people dropped off bikes and stuff for their kids there.
