Does having a second child mean sacrificing the first child's rights?
By nebulla
@nebulla (127)
India
December 19, 2006 7:26am CST
I really am in a confused state of mind. People keep telling me have a second kid.It will create company for my first one.My husband doesn't agree as he feels that we would be reducing what we can give our first kid not only money but time, quality treatment, caring,attentive attitude etc.He feels that I am doing wrong with my first kid by having another.
Secondly, we both have noticed that the second child in most families is the notorious one,and I have seen many cases where something has gone wrong during pregnancy and the child or the mother suffers. So that breaks up the whole family.My first child is 8 years and I believe I am expecting.So should I listen to my husband or have a child?
4 responses
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
19 Dec 06
If there is a gap of 3 to 4 years between the two, it is manageable and dad can take care of the 1st one and of course the 2nd one requires mostof the time of the mother. The first one he or she will play leadership role for the 2nd one, under watchful eyes of the parents.
@nebulla (127)
• India
19 Dec 06
Thanks for the response, but tell me really that what benefit will the first child get? When two children are there the elder one is required to teach,take care, sacrifice for the whims and fancies of the second junior one.
So how does the elder benefit in this?
Is this not being unfair to the child?
@selva_only4u (116)
• India
19 Dec 06
u can have a child...its not that the rights of the first child is sacrificed...u can concentrate equally on both childs...its will be a real good company for ur child if it has a brother or sister...so two in a family is neat and good...
@kingadnan (1538)
• Pakistan
19 Dec 06
no this is not true , Wel i think you should treat same your all children.
@stormy_one (6)
• United States
19 Dec 06
First, Each child will have different needs. That doesn't mean that you will love one any more or less. The only thing is the BALANCE of time or money.
Second, the birth place of a child does not affect their temperament. Each child is unique & will have their own personalities. I think your husband is afraid of not being able to provide everything or keep all of you in a lifestyle that you have become accustomed to. He sounds like a good man, the same as you are a good mother. Don't be afraid. Life's may blessings is FAMILY. This child will be loved by all of you. I am a mother of three and I wouldn't change it for the world!!
